Hey there. Long time lurker, but this website has helped me so much that I had to get myself involved.
I asked this girl out on a cold approach in my college, and she seemed really into me, so I got her number and set up date with her a few days later (today). I read the article on simplifying dates, so I decided to go have dinner at the caf with her. I sat at a table and ate, and she showed up, but she brought a friend along with her. I played it cool like it was no big deal, but sometimes it kinda felt awkward at times, especially when they talk to other for a bit and I'm sorta left out. Still, I muscled through, and tried deep diving with my girl and using my fundamentals to show I'm interested, but the friend would sometimes butt in and chat me up for a bit. I think I handled myself pretty well, save a few awkward goodbyes at the end.
I know I really had no control over what to do there, since she really didn't tell me ahead of time the friend was coming. But just the friend being there made killed a lot of attraction. I guess she brought her friend with her as backup to assess me, or maybe wanted to make me another platonic guy friend. Has anybody ever experienced this? Did I mess up and end up friend-zoned without even knowing it? I'm not sure what she wants at this point and how I should proceed.
I asked this girl out on a cold approach in my college, and she seemed really into me, so I got her number and set up date with her a few days later (today). I read the article on simplifying dates, so I decided to go have dinner at the caf with her. I sat at a table and ate, and she showed up, but she brought a friend along with her. I played it cool like it was no big deal, but sometimes it kinda felt awkward at times, especially when they talk to other for a bit and I'm sorta left out. Still, I muscled through, and tried deep diving with my girl and using my fundamentals to show I'm interested, but the friend would sometimes butt in and chat me up for a bit. I think I handled myself pretty well, save a few awkward goodbyes at the end.
I know I really had no control over what to do there, since she really didn't tell me ahead of time the friend was coming. But just the friend being there made killed a lot of attraction. I guess she brought her friend with her as backup to assess me, or maybe wanted to make me another platonic guy friend. Has anybody ever experienced this? Did I mess up and end up friend-zoned without even knowing it? I'm not sure what she wants at this point and how I should proceed.