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Girl I liked called me a "good lad", did I just get friendzined?

throwaway9999

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Got called a "good lad" by a coworker I like.

Met this girl a week ago during work (I only work weekends). She's russian so you know she's fit. I was the one that initiated the conversation cos I was bored and I didn't feel much of a connection but I started to like her more and more during that conversation. She talked about her life and her roots and I waffled about my roots (Tried to make it seem better that it was). She was quite closed off during the conversation.

I live alone at 16 so she asked me if I visited my parents, I responded with "yeah basically everyday" (Thought that was a good response. Made a couple jokes, she laughed and then I got back to work.

During the weekdays, I spent most of my time thinking about her and wondering what I should do next. I'm extremely independent and russian girls apparently like that so it was all too perfect. Even my friends thought I bagged her.

Next week, we ran into eachother at work (we work in two separate departments). She was the one that initiated the conversation. "Hey, [my name]! Do you remember me?", She said it a joyful tone. I stared at her in disbelief about how she said it, she sounded way too friendly. "Yeah, how are you?", I replied. In my head I thought she gay or I got friendzoned. "Im good, I had a good day", she said. Her friendliness made me depressed.

She then asked how I am at home and how my mum and dad are and if I visited them often (again), I replied once again with "Yeah everyday, any chance I get tbh". That's a lie, I don't visit them everyday or even often, only when I need to get something.

She then smiled and said "good lad" and walked away.

I was stunned and stood there for a hot five minutes 💀 after that I couldn't stop laughing abt how big of a violation that was.

I was so demotivated I just sat there in the staffroom, trying to collect my thoughts.

Please tell me I didn't just get friendzoned.
 
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Got called a "good lad" by a coworker I like.

Met this girl a week ago during work (I only work weekends). She's russian so you know she's fit. I was the one that initiated the conversation cos I was bored and I didn't feel much of a connection but I started to like her more and more during that conversation. She talked about her life and her roots and I waffled about my roots (Tried to make it seem better that it was). She was quite closed off during the conversation.

I live alone at 16 so she asked me if I visited my parents, I responded with "yeah basically everyday" (Thought that was a good response. Made a couple jokes, she laughed and then I got back to work.

During the weekdays, I spent most of my time thinking about her and wondering what I should do next. I'm extremely independent and russian girls apparently like that so it was all too perfect. Even my friends thought I bagged her.

Next week, we ran into eachother at work (we work in two separate departments). She was the one that initiated the conversation. "Hey, [my name]! Do you remember me?", She said it a joyful tone. I stared at her in disbelief about how she said it, she sounded way too friendly. "Yeah, how are you?", I replied. In my head I thought she gay or I got friendzoned. "Im good, I had a good day", she said. Her friendliness made me depressed.

She then asked how I am at home and how my mum and dad are and if I visited them often (again), I replied once again with "Yeah everyday, any chance I get tbh". That's a lie, I don't visit them everyday or even often, only when I need to get something.

She then smiled and said "good lad" and walked away.

I was stunned and stood there for a hot five minutes 💀 after that I couldn't stop laughing abt how big of a violation that was.

I was so demotivated I just sat there in the staffroom, trying to collect my thoughts.

Please tell me I didn't just get friendzoned.

Short story yes.

Don't talk about your parents so much, you said yourself she's going to want someone independent and here you are saying you visit your parents daily (in fact you said so twice in two different conversations). Nothing wrong with telling her you value your parents, but you didn't create a frame of being independent and having your own thing.

Steer toward fun, playful topics, show her you're charging ahead in your life and developing yourself, and don't forget to sexualize the conversation.
 

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Here you are saying you visit your parents daily (in fact you said so twice in two different conversations). Nothing wrong with telling her you value your parents, but you didn't create a frame of being independent

Steer toward fun, playful topics, show her you're charging ahead in your life and developing yourself, and don't forget to sexualize the conversation.
I did tell I live by myself and have to buy my own stuff and everything

Do I admit to her I lied about visiting my parents often then?

What kind of playful topics, how do I sexualise the conversation?

Do I still bother pursuing cos they prolly think I'm a momma's boy
 
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