Girl not complying and running away

[Energy]

I'm trying to seduce this hot coworker (Link in my journal). She basically threw lot of SOI when we first met.

I made some bad move (chasing her, sometimes ignoring her, forget about screening, not being discreet), some good moves (being direct, chase framing, teasing, making her laugh).

She used to be very serious but as I tease and joke around her, she also played the game and now it seems like I can't do anything serious anymore with her without her busting my ass or teasing me for it. The fact that she is pretty young does not help.

Part of that playful game she plays is when I and her met after lunch. She is with her friend and I am with mine. I cannot see any other way to talk to her apart from literally chasing her from behind. Sometimes she seems to be pretty happy about it but lately she is running away, trying to catch the open elevator or trying to catch an imaginary meeting.

I tried to ask for compliance just to see where I belong. She complied in the beginning (it was not easy either) but not anymore.

I asked for a date without a proper warm up of setup and she rejected it.

I have some idea about why she's behaving like that:

1. She's trying to be a challenge
2. She wants to show everyone that she's not an easy girl (my fault for not being discreet)
3. She just wants attention (probably true because the majority of her friend are men)
4. She lost interest in me and don't know how to tell me to fuck off
5. She wants to talk to me but in a different context

Even when we talk now, she is a way more talkative and playful with me than with anyone else I know but maybe it's just reaction, not result


So I don't really know what to do. There was a time when I thought that she's too young and too inexperienced, I teased her too much so I should chase her a little bit in order to avoid auto rejection but now I think I'm losing this girl.

That's it! If I had the mindset of a seducer, what should I do ? Don't hold on.

 

[James D]

If I had the mindset of a seducer, what should I do ? Don't hold on.

A seducer would understand that he should not go for co-workers.

Even if he did, though, it would be so calibrated and under the radar. He would test the waters and play extra safe all the way to the bedroom.

She complied in the beginning (it was not easy either) but not anymore.

Doesn't sound good at all.

Best thing you can do is abandon all notion of getting with her.

Things could turn around but that's unlikely given your case.

 

[Energy]

Thanks for the feedback @James D. Now I seems to understand that it is the conclusion that I need to hear but do not want to admit.

 

[Energy]

Also FYO, what really bother me is the fact that my coworker now consider me as a seducer since they all saw the reaction this girl gave me every time I talked to her.

So in case I should gave up everything with her, I should also be okay with the social consequences, which I never predicted!

I was okay with the fact that she would reject me plainly! Not with this !?

What do yall think about being labelled as a lady killer when you're not!?

 

[James D]

What do yall think about being labelled as a lady killer when you're not!?

Bro you won't be labelled as a lady killer.

Women like womanizers/lady killers. They're interesting, charismatic people. Interactions with them are always fun and electric. Heck, even I enjoy interacting with a seducer. The charisma is undeniable.

You'll be labelled as a creep.

That's not in the same galaxy as a charismatic lady killer.

I should also be okay with the social consequences, which I never predicted!

This confirms that you lack social calibration.

Do yourself and your career a favour:

Never, ever, hit on co-workers. As from now, they're like male colleagues with nice hair and boobs.

If even good seducers avoid it when they can (save for the end of year office party where they know co-workers let loose and have plenty of plausible deniability + the feeling of wiping the slate clean at the new year), that should be a CLEAR sign you must not be playing there.

what really bother me is the fact that my coworker now consider me as a seducer since they all saw the reaction this girl gave me every time I talked to her.

No one will consider you a seducer. People won't remember her positive reactions to you. They'll remember how you tried, chased after her and failed. And then tried again.

It'll die out eventually.

Office gossips have a short shelf life provided you don't keep alimenting them.