Girl wants to come over and fuck

[Bastian]

Let's go to a strong start!
2 months I moved out from my parents and last weekend I had my first "real" lay (one I didn't pay $$$ for). She's single mom, 42 (I'm 22) and she used to visit my department chat with family. Neither of them work in my company any longer.

I'll put the details in a LR, but basically I left a homie's house with some girls. Then me and the homie went to an after-spot (and then home) with a different set of girls*. I got some vibes from her, but didn't "game" her at all. She made it clear she wanted to fuck and I'm a complete gentleman

She left an earring in my car, and I sent her a mssg earlier today about how she wanted it back.
We haven't talked since we fucked cuz I didn't take contact lol Even though I told her we'd meet again
Nor am I going to ask her friend for it.
Had to basically google-fu her info

Now she mssged back "Let me know when can I go get it "

She clearly wants to fuck. I'm just glad that I ain't practicing on $$$ and a timer**

However, I have no idea how to do this right. I live with 3 roommates but they're cool. (married owners + 1)
Should I tell her to swing by daytime after work or schedule something for night time?
When she slides by, should I offer something or straight to fucking? Of course it depends on vibe, but I've never done something like this
Logistically she's good either way

*I'm saying girls but these women all have 20 years on me, haha
** I'm half-joking btw. Writers here on GC, Hector's Youtube, and the pros have taught me a lot. Like a pro wanted to hangout with me before fucking each other to sleep. Not worried about sex. Just the social part leading up to it

 

[foggy]

bring her straight in your room and start escalating within 5-10 minutes

 

[Bastian]

bring her straight in your room and start escalating within 5-10 minutes

Ok, time of day doesn't matter

Now it makes a little more sense. I planned to keep her earring in my car. That's dumb lol
So I bring her to my room, give the earring there. Chit-chat about the earring, night, her week; whatever, and make a move when the conversations lull's/moment calls for it. If we're vibing too strong, say something like "We'll talk later" or "I want to taste you again" as I escalate.
Just interrupt the chit-chat and create an opening

Alright fog, thanks bro!

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Bastian dude! Invite her round when it's logistically best for you (and her). If she works during the day etc you won't get her out so check logistics dude.

When she's over calibrate, if she hasn't seen you in a while and is stand off ish be social first. If her buying temperature is hot and you start escalating immediately get straight to fucking. In this situation be like water dude, got to be fluid and ready to adapt to where she's at.

Break the touch barrier immediately if you can, from her text she's got a very high buying temperature and it sounds like you can escalate immediately.

 

[Bastian]

@Bastian dude! Invite her round when it's logistically best for you (and her). If she works during the day etc you won't get her out so check logistics dude.

When she's over calibrate, if she hasn't seen you in a while and is stand off ish be social first. If her buying temperature is hot and you start escalating immediately get straight to fucking. In this situation be like water dude, got to be fluid and ready to adapt to where she's at.

Break the touch barrier immediately if you can, from her text she's got a very high buying temperature and it sounds like you can escalate immediately.

Damn dude, I'm trying to study for a license renewal. I was planning for Monday, but your advice makes me wanna see her today.

Zero chance this is turning serious. Should I keep Chase's rule of seeing her every 2 weeks or 6-ish times a month max?
I don't see myself going on dates with this girl. Maybe hangout for a bit, but I've got a business to attend

 

[Velasco]

"Let me know when can I go get it "

so you fucked her last night?
if yes, then (and idk what time it is over there, but message her past 8pm), text, "how about you swing by to pick it up tomorrow night?"

she'll let u know when she's available at night.

what ever she says. you say, "cool".

then open door. hug, hey what's up. your earring in my room. -> lead to room. Close door behind you. Close distance. Play around with her like, she says, "where is it" say "its right there" while you put ur hands on her to guide her body where its at. Look its literally right there. blah blah blah. then just escalate "come here you look cute as fuck in that dress" and close.

oh ya and props on losing the V card. I also lost it at the same age and to an old lady too lol

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Damn dude, I'm trying to study for a license renewal. I was planning for Monday, but your advice makes me wanna see her today.

Zero chance this is turning serious. Should I keep Chase's rule of seeing her every 2 weeks or 6-ish times a month max?
I don't see myself going on dates with this girl. Maybe hangout for a bit, but I've got a business to attend

See her as often as you want dude, this is a moving question. Until you convert her (usually 3 times is the sweet spot) you usually have to do this faster so twice in a week, some girls might delay this but if they're casual with the arrangement that's not an issue. Once she's converted, once a week is good for maintenance. Once this is solid (usually a month) then you can see her sporadically.

It depends how you set the expectations and how well you can maintain this. Due to her age I'd assume she's aware this is casual. Never ever hang out with her and not have sex, you have to set the tone this is only physical. Hanging out to hang out is relationship territory.

I'm not sure what lockdown restrictions you're facing if any, but you might want to consider this when you're thinking about this. A regular FB or FWB might be good to maintain.

 

[foggy]

So I bring her to my room, give the earring there. Chit-chat about the earring, night, her week; whatever, and make a move when the conversations lull's/moment calls for it. If we're vibing too strong, say something like "We'll talk later" or "I want to taste you again" as I escalate.
Just interrupt the chit-chat and create an opening

theres no need to bring up the earring, she is simply using it as an excuse to A) arrive at and B) leave your place.

if she does bring up the earring, refer to the part A excuse aspect of it (traveling and arriving at your place) not the part b excuse aspect of it (leaving your place with the earring) and also take velasco up on his suggestions for escalation. as well, you should treat the earring as a synonym for sex. example of part A + synonym:

girl: im here for the earring!
bastian: ya you are (suggestive smirk)

do not give her the earring until after you shagged her. the second u give her the earring, is the second she could start backwards rationalizing it in her head; ie oh i have the physical earring now, i could leave anytime.

all you need to do is be light, flurty, and suspenseful

 

[Skills]

Keep in mind that if she knows you have roomates you may co-block yourself, and walk of shame perception... Don't let her know till she is in your room already, you are better of in a time of the day were your roomates are not home, cause it could cause asd with that older demographic (if she is a young girl is different)

 

[Velasco]

That's a great point Skills brought up. I didnt consider her age in my post.

Nevertheless, I still think that it should be a late nite thing (I assume u already sent the message I recommended above. Dont be wishy washy with the invite) because of the connotation (late nite invite = sex. Even tho I've invited a girl over at 11am before). Sets precedent for relationship also. (Only available at night (scarcity) cause illusion of busy during rest of day).

So when she messages you that shes on her way, tell roommates that you have a chick coming over and if they can go to their room cause she might be self conscious about seeing other guys around.

 

[Bastian]

all you need to do is be light, flurty, and suspenseful

Didn't even talk about the earring until after we fucked. I kept this in mind when I got nervous.

Keep in mind that if she knows you have roomates you may co-block yourself, and walk of shame perception... Don't let her know till she is in your room already, you are better of in a time of the day were your roomates are not home, cause it could cause asd with that older demographic (if she is a young girl is different)

Ya she was worried about the roommates. Luckily for me they spent the whole day outside.

oh ya and props on losing the V card. I also lost it at the same age and to an old lady too lol

Thanks Velasco, I did what you said. We smashed. Then I was her shrink for 3 hours. I wake up for work at 4:30, so late night isn't much of an option for me. In fact, I should be getting ready for bed. We fucked last Sat.

So when she messages you that shes on her way, tell roommates that you have a chick coming over and if they can go to their room cause she might be self conscious about seeing other guys around.

I'm not sure what lockdown restrictions you're facing if any, but you might want to consider this when you're thinking about this. A regular FB or FWB might be good to maintain.

Lol I wish I had guy roomates. Issa married couple + 1 Mon-Fri guy. Didn't think of that, will adjust for the future.

I won't see this girl again. I won't complain about her, because you're helping me and that's not cool to you guys. But I let her talk for 3 hours cuz I'm trying to fuck her friend, I learned a few things, and I won't invite her back again. I wanted to kick her out not 5 minutes after we were done, but I would have felt bad if I did.

I fucked up my own business schedule.

I think enjoy flirting and the possibility of fucking a new chick more than the sex itself. Is this normal? I know it's not her, because I feel the same way with pros. Even if the pro has a good personality.

Then again, she basically handed the pussy on a silver platter. I really wasn't trying to get with her, so idk if it'll happen in the future.

I've never cum from sex. With or without condoms. Sober or whiskey dicked. Maybe that plays a role.

EDIT: She texted she had a great time, thanks, and hopes it'll happen again. Fuck me lol