Long-Term Girlfriend of 6 months is not sure if we will make it together overtime

[justin]

Thank you to Chase for the beautiful work you have been doing at educating men out there to become better men. The effect have been truly profound.

I am Nigerian who happens to have fallen in love with this girl in my company. She is 24 and I am 30. I did not have an attraction for her at first but she came to me, showed interest and I felt we would be good together. Initially she made me understand she wanted us to be nothing more than friends at that time since she was not over her ex. Things happened so fast we started kissing and getting intimate but never had sex as she says she was not ready for sex with me. We had loads of foreplay most times and we both have a great time as such but I felt frustrated sometimes but i was willing to stay with her because I love her. He reason for a no sex with me was she felt she may loose me and she will feel used by me if she had sex with me. There had been times she gets so overwhelmed when we make out and get intimate without sex that she literally cries. I remember at the start of our dating she told me a couple of times she was not sure how she could be so stupid not to throw herself at me as any girl that finds me is lucky.
Just this weekend we were eating as she came to my house, discussing and she made a statement like, she had always wanted a much older guy but she is still considering my age being very close to hers. I confronted her on that statement as i understood the statement to mean that there is a probability we might not work out together eventually.
I then told her later in the night that its better we keep an open relationship and she asked me why? I told her since she has been advising for an open relationship its better we make it that way but she refuted and said the reason she had talked about open relationship is so I can have sex with someone else since she is not ready for sex with me.
Note: i know she loves me and she does things for me like paying when we go out which i also do most of the time, she tells me she loves me and of course we have quarels sometimes none of us understands why.
Since the past 2 days i have minimized calls to her and chat. I am looking at a total breakup away from from her. Please advice urgently.
Note 2: I stopped working in the same company with her a month ago to do my own business.
Thank you.

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Justin,

She sounds very inexperienced when it comes to relationships, but it does sound like she wants to keep you around. I would say if you feel as though your needs aren't being met in the relationship, break up. It's okay to have doubts every once in a while during a relationship but if they're reoccurring it's best to get out. Ultimately you need to make the best decision for yourself. I would give yourself a couple days to evaluate if this is really what you want.

Helpful articles:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/knowing-when-break-girl
proper break up

Questions, comments, concerns?!

Take care,

Just Dave

 

[justin]

Thanks a lot Just Dave. I have tried meeting her at work yesterday just to hear her out but she wouldn't talk despite I have tried asking her severally what the issue is. When I eventually dropped off, she said we did not discuss anything and i told her I kept asking her questions but she wouldnt say a word. In the evening I clled her even while I was with my brother who came visiting so he could say hi to her but she tole me she is scarcely/hardely speaking with me she cannot speak with any other person.
I think i want to give her quite some space for now. cut off the calls and any of sort

 

[justin]

to my former reply to Just_Dave. I would like to add thAt she had been in about 3 relationships before me.