Observations Girls Making Themselves Obtainable

[BarryS1]

I noticed a phrase girls say for making themselves obtainable. They keep saying how boring their life is and how they NEVER do anything fun. I noticed the girl will say that after asking about her hobbies upon approaching or on the first date.

At face value, this says the girl doesn’t get asked out much and/or has the social network for meeting people. I think to myself, “Maybe she isn’t that intimidating after all."

Hearing this gets me curious if its true or not. After dating the girl a couple times, I find out she is hiding a party life. In other words, her life is the exact opposite of what she says.

I thought this was only christian/conservative college girls at first, but then heard it IN-PERSON from other demographics: single moms w/o a job, professional/single in mid-30s, recent high school grads, and college party’ers.

Anyone else encounter this?

 

[Rage]

Interesting, yeah I've encountered this.

Particularly why I think this is interesting though is that thinking about it now I realize that the girls that actually never get out much and are constantly working on their school/work/extracurricular activities aren't the ones to come out and say this.

They’re like the ones that are actually living that life (where they don’t party or go clubbing or go out to bars rarely if at all) but aren’t the ones who say “man I never go out!”

They’re happy with their life and happy with the work they do and will never really harp about never going out or never go partying. I think that they’re happy with how they choose to spend their time, and from talking to girls like that, it’s like they spend majority of time in school and work and endeavors of theirs because they like to spend their time in those things. They don’t feel that they're missing out on anything by not partying or clubbing; they won’t be the ones to say “man I have no life” because they like the life they have and wouldn’t define not going out much as having no life.

They won’t come out and say it to me; rather it will be me who in screening/qualifying digs that out of them. A girl I met at the gym two days ago, who happened to go to my university too was just this way telling me how she wants to be a powerlifter and works at a vet office but is pursuing degree in like some kind of engineering or something (3 completely different things).

“I bet you have no life between all of that” I said smiling a bit, and she said “yeah I guess that’s true” smiling back.

I’ve dated a girl that would always stick to her work and would do engineering work and a job and fitness 5 days a week and not much else. She loved it though never had a negative word or complaint about any of it; most of her limited spare time would go to me and she was nothing but vivacious and inquisitive and wonderful to be around between all of that.

Have dated another girl that was pretty cool too and was swamped with school work and working around the clock for her managerial position of a hotel and taking care of a sick mother. This girl would talk about it often and would say "yeah I never get to go out and just most of my time goes there" (and had mentioned it a couple of times); later observed though that despite her super busy schedule she’d still find some time to go out and club and bar hop with her friends several times in a month.

Not sure how absolute this pattern is but it’s certainly interesting; I guess it’s just another situational case then of girls’ words not being the first thing you should listen to.

 

[BarryS1]

Interesting, yeah I've encountered this.

Particularly why I think this is interesting though is that thinking about it now I realize that the girls that actually never get out much and are constantly working on their school/work/extracurricular activities aren't the ones to come out and say this.

They’re like the ones that are actually living that life (where they don’t party or go clubbing or go out to bars rarely if at all) but aren’t the ones who say “man I never go out!”

Yeah dude, all good examples supporting this.

Maybe the girls who are work-focused and "never go out" are trying to build themselves up to match the dude's value. They just talk about the good or what little of it they have.

If I knew about the social lives of the girls who "never go out" on the first date/approach, I'd be intimidated. Damn she's raging face/going out to fancy events every weekend!!

Not sure how absolute this pattern is but it’s certainly interesting; I guess it’s just another situational case then of girls’ words not being the first thing you should listen to.

No doubt about it, I agree!