Girls with ADHD

[orkie123]

Hey guys, I've been struggling to convert girls with ADHD.

They know they have variable levels of ADHD and it's very obvious they have it. In the last few months I had a couple of encounters:

- Girl with high ADHD, claimed she was lesbian, I tried to bring her back to our hostel but she was reluctant. Next day she had sex with another guy in the bushes near our hostel so it was clear that I didn't play my cards right.

- Girl with semi ADHD, she liked my vibe but straight away I felt like I was friendzoned. Even if they are open to speaking about sexual topics, gambits etc, they are all happy to share but it doesn't have much effect on them. I find girls with ADHD are very open anyway so they don't see it as exciting.

- Girl with ADHD I just went on a date with today. She was Russian travelling, was wearing a buttoned up cardigan with no bra but again, straight away I had difficulty getting her to see me sexually. She was very talkative but was harder to deep dive her and while I led the conversation and so on, I just couldn't get that sexual vibe going.

I know you don't need to always turn convos sexual, but I like these ADHD girls - they are spontaneous and a bit crazy but I don't know how to adjust my vibe to get them. Any advice?

 

[empath]

Ho

Hey guys, I've been struggling to convert girls with ADHD.

They know they have variable levels of ADHD and it's very obvious they have it. In the last few months I had a couple of encounters:

- Girl with high ADHD, claimed she was lesbian, I tried to bring her back to our hostel but she was reluctant. Next day she had sex with another guy in the bushes near our hostel so it was clear that I didn't play my cards right.

- Girl with semi ADHD, she liked my vibe but straight away I felt like I was friendzoned. Even if they are open to speaking about sexual topics, gambits etc, they are all happy to share but it doesn't have much effect on them. I find girls with ADHD are very open anyway so they don't see it as exciting.

- Girl with ADHD I just went on a date with today. She was Russian travelling, was wearing a buttoned up cardigan with no bra but again, straight away I had difficulty getting her to see me sexually. She was very talkative but was harder to deep dive her and while I led the conversation and so on, I just couldn't get that sexual vibe going.

I know you don't need to always turn convos sexual, but I like these ADHD girls - they are spontaneous and a bit crazy but I don't know how to adjust my vibe to get them. Any advice?

How are you diagnosing their ADHD?

 

[topcat]

Ahh my bread and butter.

Yeah you don’t sexualize with these girls purely with conversation, that bores the fuck out of them unless it’s on topics they find interesting (of which there will be many, though not always helpful in a seduction).

Your seduction with them need to be “multi sensory”.

Ask her about her sexual experiences. Allow her to go off on tangents. Join in on that tangent. Comment on the environment. Touch her a lot. Then don’t touch her for a while. Stare into her eyes. Then don’t. Confuse her in a playful way. Go for a walk. Sexualized physically. Tease her. Always be leading her though (but allow her to “wander” - wander with her).

Some really like deep, exploratory conversations and can even be turned on by these. Even better if you can make sex and sensation the topic of these.

Basically you need to be free and spontaneous in the way you engage them whilst sexualizing the vibe and moving things forward.

The keyword is “stimulation”.

Stimulate, stimulate, stimulate.

This is how you keep her attention and turn her on.

Helps if you’re a lil “ADHD” yourself

 

[orkie123]

Ho

How are you diagnosing their ADHD?

All these 3 have had some medical diagnostic that they said. But once you meet enough people, adhd ppl stick out a lot. I could tell the Russian girl had adhd just from her texting style and insta profile (she was from an app)

Ahh my bread and butter.

Yeah you don’t sexualize with these girls purely with conversation, that bores the fuck out of them unless it’s on topics they find interesting (of which there will be many, though not always helpful in a seduction).

Your seduction with them need to be “multi sensory”.

Ask her about her sexual experiences. Allow her to go off on tangents. Join in on that tangent. Comment on the environment. Touch her a lot. Then don’t touch her for a while. Stare into her eyes. Then don’t. Confuse her in a playful way. Go for a walk. Sexualized physically. Tease her. Always be leading her though (but allow her to “wander” - wander with her).

Some really like deep, exploratory conversations and can even be turned on by these. Even better if you can make sex and sensation the topic of these.

Basically you need to be free and spontaneous in the way you engage them whilst sexualizing the vibe and moving things forward.

The keyword is “stimulation”.

Stimulate, stimulate, stimulate.

This is how you keep her attention and turn her on.

Helps if you’re a lil “ADHD” yourself

Thanks man, very helpful response!

So leading physically is something I struggle with adhd girls. They dont know where to go but they will pick something and go. Wander like you said.

This Russian girl, I said lets go for a walk. She replies with, "great idea - lets go towards X place, I wanna see Y" and starts leading the way

I didnt do enough kino with this girl because while her adhd was freeing and open, she still had a bit of the russian coldness. I.e., when I went to hug her at the start, she did that awkward dont want to linger hug.

When I took her hand to ask about the story of a interesting looking ring, she pulled away relatively quickly.

I did do the guiding her through the streets hand on the back etc but just felt I was playing a losing game from the start.

As for convo, I find I usually get stimulating convos and teasing done well as thats one of my strong points, but in this case I did struggle a little, partially because she still had that Russian 'take everything too literal' vibe.

Anyway, I think for next time Ill try to this hot n cold approach to kino and eye contact. I like that style