Girls with boyfriends all over the place!

[CaptainHenley]

Howdy!


Anyone else noticing how many girls have boyfriends? And it's not just an excuse, I have actually tracked them down through common friends or what not, and so many of them have boyfriends.

I hands down don't know any single girl at this moment. Not one. And I have been socializing like a maniac.

All of them seem to have boyfriends early on, as soon as they come in contact with a half decent guy. And those guys, which are far inferior in looks and game, just happened to be at the right place the right time and enjoy a girls company now. I see them, I know it wont last and that the girls are not very satisfied, but well, there they are.
What is this? Maybe it's the circles I socialize with....? I am not talking about a people or 2, I have met around 300 people (men and women) the last 5 months(thats around 2 new people per day, which I still kind of am in contact with), and I can't think of a single girl right now. Even if she was when I met her, now everyone seems to be in a relationship.

On a side note, I matched with a girl on tinder. Incredibly beautiful, works as a model. We also have many similar interests. And while things were going great in the convo, and the banter was good , I proposed we go out, and she mentioned she has a boyfriend. Tips?

 

[Inbocca]

Girls with boyfriends like the world to know they have one. Girls without them showcase their good features so as to get one. Most of the people on this site will tell you, like guys are validated by their ability to get laid, girls are validated by their ability to lock a guy down. Depending on your area and the ratio of quality men/women, it could be that finding a guy is more important than finding Mr. Right. That could work out in your favor, if finding a girlfriend is what you want.

People don't use Tinder to make friends. If she says she has a boyfriend, either a) she does and is looking for a side of aubergine, b) she doesn't and just wants to reject you nicely, or c) she's looking for a threesome. Usually C is obvious, like she has pictures of her boyfriend and her bio says she's looking for another person to join them. If it's A, then dating might not be what she's looking for. Especially if she wants to keep her boyfriend around, she would want to be discreet and spending a lot of time in public with another dude can be risky. I don't have experience getting girls to cheat on their SOs with me, so I would take someone else's advice on the finer details. But it certainly sounds possible. Best of luck.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Anyone else noticing how many girls have boyfriends? And it's not just an excuse, I have actually tracked them down through common friends or what not, and so many of them have boyfriends.

Yep! The reason most guys get "rejected" is not because they look bad or have bad "game", it's because the girls are simply not available. The is the main reason why cold approach will ALWAYS be a numbers game.

All of them seem to have boyfriends early on, as soon as they come in contact with a half decent guy. And those guys, which are far inferior in looks and game,

Yep! The majority of girls, despite their sexual abundance, do NOT date a bunch of guys before deciding on the best possible match. Nope, the majority will take the first decent guy that comes along. First come, first served. There are positives and negatives to this strategy.

It sucks because an attractive girl will not be single for very long, which means there won't be very many of them around. However, the good new is that when you do find a single girl and you're the first decent guy to get there, you will usually have a high probability of "getting" her.

It's all about timing man, you just have to keep swinging until you find some single ones.

On a side note, I matched with a girl on tinder. Incredibly beautiful, works as a model. We also have many similar interests. And while things were going great in the convo, and the banter was good , I proposed we go out, and she mentioned she has a boyfriend. Tips?

Time waster. She's fighting with her boyfriend and hopped on Tinder to soak up validation and feel more secure by having a bunch of attractive guys hit on her. She's toying with the idea of cheating on her boyfriend, but she more than likely is not ready to pull the trigger.

When she said she had a boyfriend, just say something along the lines of, "That's cool. We can still get drinks. What's your number Kim?" If she doesn't give the number, drop her ass like a hot potato, she's wasting your time.

 

[Alchemist]

Your posts make me do a double take, thinking I had written them, CaptainHenley

I'm actually dealing with the exact situation. At times I wonder whether game is as viable as it seems and whether there are enough high quality girls that are single in any given moment that we can meet, seduce and casually date. I think your location matters a lot. In an environment with lots of options, women will settle down quickly with the earliest provider guys they can (as you've seen, they probably have no game, charisma or charm). So I think that popular cities will attract young, beautiful women, which will have to compete with each other and stay single longer. Think Amsterdam, Los Angeles, Miami, Paris, Krakow etc.

Otherwise, yes, this hits far too close to home. I've gone through many FB profiles to actually see the boyfriends of the girls I've been meeting. It's not simply a polite rejection. Most girls here (and other cities with favorable ratios and environments) end up with a guy who won't ever leave them.

 

[kalyan]

Hey,
I am in a similar situation: many girls tell me they have boyfriends. I am not sure how many of them have boyfriends but some do for sure. What's worse is that the boyfriends are actually way hotter than the girls, which means that there's abundance for the women. Yet, you have to understand that sometimes they do use the boyfriend as an excuse. Why does this matter? It means you're doing something wrong in the approach. This is certainly my case, and my problem is i come off too strong (she feels she doesnt have space). I would suggest you reevaluate and check if you do something similar to what i do, and see how you can be more relaxed in your approach (slower EVERYTHING, more sincere eye contact...)

Where do you live? Location is one of the BIGGEST factors here. I am in san luis obispo, California. I never experienced this issue back where i'm from in the middle east... then again I didn't approach enough there.

 

[readjusting]

Some of them do, some of them don't.
Probably around 70%, but not all.