Goal Examples for a Relationship

[Smurf]

Hey all,

Just wondering what some examples for goals in a relationship should be. It's mentioned on this site that one of the things that you should know before getting into a relationship is where the relationship is going by setting goals for the relationship. This confuses me because I've only been in one relationship, so I don't know much about them or a goal that could be accomplished. I figure that a goal that I could have is to learn how to manage a relationship, but I don't want to be in a relationship and ruin a FB or FWB for just that reason.

So if you guys have examples of goals that you've set in the past for yourselves, or perhaps goals that you want to set for yourselves, that would be great.

PS: One other question, if you "reach" your goal, has the relationship run it's course, or do you find another goal to achieve?

Jake.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Jake,

PS: One other question, if you "reach" your goal, has the relationship run it's course, or do you find another goal to achieve?

Relationship is a consistent kind of thing. There's no retirement period like jobs. Even the current situation today of life, retirement seems retarded. I think it's more to what investment you putting into.

Which girl you pick is important, and try to work consistently upwards, with occasional downtime during the course of life.

Zac

 

[African Boyo]

Goals

To get
-more experience having relationships
-a casual sex partner
-married
-kids
-experience handling multiple relationships
-experience experimenting with security levels

 

[Franco]

Jake,

Two good goals might be to start the relationship on your own terms and end the relationship on your own terms.

What I mean by this is, get in a relationship with a girl you really want to be in a relationship with, and then try to manage the relationship to the point where the relationship ends only because you wanted it to rather than causing HER to want it to (which would ultimately leave you as the "one-down" and wanting more from her rather than the other way around).

Once you're able to manage all of your relationships as the guy who decides when they begin and when they end, you'll find that a lot of the smaller details will come easier, and make more sense as well. =)

- Franco

 

[Smurf]

Thanks for all the different tips guys, I'll keep these in my head when I start dating more frequently.

Jake

 

[metomeya]

Two good goals might be to start the relationship on your own terms and end the relationship on your own terms.

Yes, I see so many guys become pussy whipped because they FINALLY got a girlfriend. Don't be that guy.

I think a lot of the whole PUA and Girls Chase stuff is about freedom. Freedom to pick your girl, your life, and freedom to pick your relationship. Once you compromise (well we all have to compromise a little bit in every relationship, but I'm talk about serious things like who you are as a person and your self-esteem) then you've lost your freedom.