Got into auto rejection for 3 times, any chance to get out?

[JayhawksMM]

This is my first post. I think I got a girl into auto rejection for 3 times already, hope you guys can share your wisdom and see if I was right about my interpretation and I also need advise on what to do next.

At first I thought this girl who was an intern wasn't interested in me because she never look me straight into my eyes, but later on I noticed she would stare at nothing and use her peripheral sight to check me out. So I talked with her more, and she seems extremely happy when I complement her, also extremely depressed when I don't pay her enough attention, these reactions are much more dramatic than how she acts normally.

She showed me a sign last year, I backed off because I was her supervisor back then and it would get me fired if I have a real date with her. She acted as if I insulted her and became very emotional. For the next few weeks she would laugh really loud with others to get my attention and then turn her back on me when I try to join the conversation. I was warm and emotionally stable to her, so after a few weeks retaliation, she became super warm to me again and would burst into laugh like an idiot when she saw me.

Here comes the SECOND time I backed off, she acted like a crazy girl in our company's meeting, giggling loudly when others were very quiet listening to my presentation. I felt sick of her actions so I didn't talk to her in the meeting nor looked at her. She became emotional again. I asked her out for 3 times during a month after she stopped being supervised by me. She was on a trip with her parents for that month, and she ignored my messages for the entire month too. The funny thing is that she always send a message or a pic to our colleague's group chat right after I sent her my message as if to tell me indirectly that she was ignoring me on purpose.

When she came back from the trip, she text me she has a boyfriend so she can't go out with me. I text back, saying I was cold on her before just because I misread her being nice as showing interest and i was a little sick of it but it seems like a misunderstanding. I text her those words because I NEVER expect to see her again as 99% of our interns leave the company after their internships are finished. But 2 weeks later, I saw her at work again, she is employed here now. And she gave me a resentful look when she blocked my way telling me she will be working here. This time I lost control and freaked out, yelling at her as "You are staying now?!!" and I walked away when she didn't say anything, only looking at me resentfully.

Now her actions are very unstable. She would pretend I'm just air for one day, then block my way with a face of "I don't want to talk to you" while blushing for another day. Then back to silly smiling for the next time I saw her, then again act cold as if she hates me a few hours later. I thought she might be lying about having a boyfriend so I tried to talk to her face to face, she went along and gave me the chance to talk to her, but she was staring into my eyes resentfully with a poker face. I said sorry that I yelled at her, she kept nodding, but only said "OK, alright" for a few times, these "Ok, alright" sounds like "OK, I heard your apology" rather then "Ok, I'm fine". I became speechless, so I told her I didn't know she has a boyfriend otherwise I wouldn't like her this much, and I don't want to persuade her into breaking up with her boyfriend. She said "OK, alright" for a few more times, and turned her back while walking away immediately when she realized I don't have anything else to say. The next day I gave her a letter saying how sorry I am, and she text me saying she saw the letter but feel a little bit sick, hoping I won't talk to her again.

So do you guys think she was never interested in the first place and everything is just in my head, or do you guys think I was indeed got into auto rejection. Or maybe she was just looking for attention? What should I do now? Thanks a lot.

 

[Lucky]

If I were you I'd stay away from that chick she seems like trouble...
But anyways yeah she was probably interested last year as you noticed the IOI's (Indicators of interest) plus the whole moody persona thing afterwards but as you said these signs happened last year.
After that year there was no real interest, you just chased her and pushed her away.
That's my take on what happened.

But your mistakes...
After that year you should have stopped pursuing her.
you said you texted her three times for a date first off her seeing those texts makes you look needy which isn't exactly helping your cause.
Plus the fact that when you found out she was still at your job you freaked out which of course doesn't exactly improve your image in her eyes.
And worst of all you chased.
The main rule this site states is to never chase just keep that in mind for next round.

 

[JayhawksMM]

If I were you I'd stay away from that chick she seems like trouble...
But anyways yeah she was probably interested last year as you noticed the IOI's (Indicators of interest) plus the whole moody persona thing afterwards but as you said these signs happened last year.
After that year there was no real interest, you just chased her and pushed her away.
That's my take on what happened.

But your mistakes...
After that year you should have stopped pursuing her.
you said you texted her three times for a date first off her seeing those texts makes you look needy which isn't exactly helping your cause.
Plus the fact that when you found out she was still at your job you freaked out which of course doesn't exactly improve your image in her eyes.
And worst of all you chased.
The main rule this site states is to never chase just keep that in mind for next round.

I agree she is a trouble, and right now I just want to stay as far away from her as possible. I do have a few more questions about reading into the situation I was in. I guess I'm still confused about a few details.

When I freaked out after I knew she works in my company now, I wasn't freaking out in a "needy and scared" way, I was freaking out in a "Lord is angry" way. I know neither way is a good reaction. She was absolutely mad at me for that, but she kept checking my emotions after that until I became friendly to her again, then she switched to "I don't want to talk to you" mood. But she still try to create one or two chances everyday so she can see me and check how I'm doing. Is her checking on my reactions also an IOI or is it just her trying to look for an opportunity to revenge?

I noticed she would smirk just a tiny little bit right after she saw me but then switch to "I hate you" face, is it a IOI or just something women do to upset men?

Generally speaking, if a man freaked out, is it a good idea to apologize for his action if the girl still shows IOI's later but acted as if she is still mad?