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CONTEXT
Say ure not big on social circle game, but u meet this cute 25yo girl while hanging out with some friends. She becomes part of the circle and yall gather up and shoot the shit once in a while.
Shes bubbly and very agreeable personality-wise, but shes def not ur type body-wise. U bang her real fast anyway, but only once. U stop pursuing her before shes locked down, in order to leave her free to roam the dating market.
U still see each other occasionally along with the others, and u gauge shes still interested by the way she looks at u and flirts with u. U flirt back ofc, but u keep not pursuing her.
Now, lets say that at some point, and unfortunately, she gets an injury that forces her to take a break from the circle. The flirty tone of her occasional messages in the whatsapp group chat seem to hint that she might still like u, but again, u flirt back but dont pursue.
SHE REACHES OUT
After quite a few months of seeing her last (and a year since u guys had sex), she pops out with a direct msg on ur whatsapp, telling u shes moving to a far away city temporarily and asking u a minor favor.
After u oblige, u keep texting a bit, and again she drops hints that she still likes u ("and here i was hoping to score some points with u!", or "i might do that, if u agree to show me X place")
CLOSING FOR A MEET
Ok, so at this point it seems pretty clear that u should suggest drinks. And u do. And she agrees excitedly and u guys easily block a date for a week later.
MEETING HER
The day comes and u invite her straight over to ur place. She shows up in a cute black dress. U compliment her and shes bubbly, excited and a bit nervous as usual.
U guys sit on the sofa and start drinking and chatting. U slowly get close to her. U touch her. U look at her intently. U caress her hand, and she caresses back. U think, its on. So u go for the kiss. She receives it, but she only gives u a few pecks on ur lips in return.
U think, ok, its cool. U pull back, chat a bit more, then try again. She gives u pecks again. U pull back again and try later. Still no makeout.
PERSISTING
U take a piss break, and as soon as ure back u just go for another kiss straight away. This time u guys make out a bit. Nice. U pull away first and keep chatting while caressing her.
U do this once or twice more. U notice her kisses are slowly getting better, but then she says, ok lets slow down, and she takes the chance to go to the bathroom.
While shes away, u reposition urself on the sofa so that when shes back she can easily lay in ur arms. And she does lay in ur arms, and u do kiss her and try to reach her pussy a couple times, but she always moves ur hand away and tells u, oh so this is what u had in mind eh? and its been a year u know?
U sorta make a joke about it and keep playing it cool. But u dont immediately realize that u just made two mistakes: 1) u didnt address her objection, and 2) u forgot about ASD.
Instead of fixing those mistakes, u pull back completely and open up a bit about personal stuff that u guys actually relate on. Not a good move.
She leaves after a short while, but in apparent good terms and seemingly expecting a kiss on the lips (u hug her instead).
AFTERMATH
The next day u think, man i should really talk with this girl, sounded like she had some important stuff she wanted to talk about and i joked around it.
So u send her a videomsg suggesting to talk about it, but she replies with a vocal saying, oh dont worry, it was nothing serious, but we should talk about what were doing (she laughs), i hope that if we keep things platonic i just dont want things to be weird, cause ure a cool guy and i like to have u as a friend.
Alright, so its done.
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Again, not a social circle game expert here.
I dont really mind keeping things platonic with this girl and im ready to move on - shes cool, but i cant see myself doing anything serious with her, and sex-wise it would have been nice to keep her around, but its nothing i wanna fight too hard for.
However my question after all this is: what would u guys reply to her LJBF?
My guess is that not addressing her objection + ASD (and not communicating discretion) triggered her defenses, and she forced herself to play the LJBF card to save face.
If so, its fine and understandable, im just curious about what would be the optimal response.
Agreeing to her LJBF sounds passive. OTOH, if i tell her, hey i cant be platonic with u cause ure cute, she might say, fine, its ur choice, just dont mess with the social circle were both in! (I dont think shell say this because shes too agreeable for that, but hypothetically.)
Alternatively, i could try to address both her "its been a year!" objection and her ASD/discretion objection, but im not sure how exactly.
Thanks tons for any inputs!
Say ure not big on social circle game, but u meet this cute 25yo girl while hanging out with some friends. She becomes part of the circle and yall gather up and shoot the shit once in a while.
Shes bubbly and very agreeable personality-wise, but shes def not ur type body-wise. U bang her real fast anyway, but only once. U stop pursuing her before shes locked down, in order to leave her free to roam the dating market.
U still see each other occasionally along with the others, and u gauge shes still interested by the way she looks at u and flirts with u. U flirt back ofc, but u keep not pursuing her.
Now, lets say that at some point, and unfortunately, she gets an injury that forces her to take a break from the circle. The flirty tone of her occasional messages in the whatsapp group chat seem to hint that she might still like u, but again, u flirt back but dont pursue.
SHE REACHES OUT
After quite a few months of seeing her last (and a year since u guys had sex), she pops out with a direct msg on ur whatsapp, telling u shes moving to a far away city temporarily and asking u a minor favor.
After u oblige, u keep texting a bit, and again she drops hints that she still likes u ("and here i was hoping to score some points with u!", or "i might do that, if u agree to show me X place")
CLOSING FOR A MEET
Ok, so at this point it seems pretty clear that u should suggest drinks. And u do. And she agrees excitedly and u guys easily block a date for a week later.
MEETING HER
The day comes and u invite her straight over to ur place. She shows up in a cute black dress. U compliment her and shes bubbly, excited and a bit nervous as usual.
U guys sit on the sofa and start drinking and chatting. U slowly get close to her. U touch her. U look at her intently. U caress her hand, and she caresses back. U think, its on. So u go for the kiss. She receives it, but she only gives u a few pecks on ur lips in return.
U think, ok, its cool. U pull back, chat a bit more, then try again. She gives u pecks again. U pull back again and try later. Still no makeout.
PERSISTING
U take a piss break, and as soon as ure back u just go for another kiss straight away. This time u guys make out a bit. Nice. U pull away first and keep chatting while caressing her.
U do this once or twice more. U notice her kisses are slowly getting better, but then she says, ok lets slow down, and she takes the chance to go to the bathroom.
While shes away, u reposition urself on the sofa so that when shes back she can easily lay in ur arms. And she does lay in ur arms, and u do kiss her and try to reach her pussy a couple times, but she always moves ur hand away and tells u, oh so this is what u had in mind eh? and its been a year u know?
U sorta make a joke about it and keep playing it cool. But u dont immediately realize that u just made two mistakes: 1) u didnt address her objection, and 2) u forgot about ASD.
Instead of fixing those mistakes, u pull back completely and open up a bit about personal stuff that u guys actually relate on. Not a good move.
She leaves after a short while, but in apparent good terms and seemingly expecting a kiss on the lips (u hug her instead).
AFTERMATH
The next day u think, man i should really talk with this girl, sounded like she had some important stuff she wanted to talk about and i joked around it.
So u send her a videomsg suggesting to talk about it, but she replies with a vocal saying, oh dont worry, it was nothing serious, but we should talk about what were doing (she laughs), i hope that if we keep things platonic i just dont want things to be weird, cause ure a cool guy and i like to have u as a friend.
Alright, so its done.
--
Again, not a social circle game expert here.
I dont really mind keeping things platonic with this girl and im ready to move on - shes cool, but i cant see myself doing anything serious with her, and sex-wise it would have been nice to keep her around, but its nothing i wanna fight too hard for.
However my question after all this is: what would u guys reply to her LJBF?
My guess is that not addressing her objection + ASD (and not communicating discretion) triggered her defenses, and she forced herself to play the LJBF card to save face.
If so, its fine and understandable, im just curious about what would be the optimal response.
Agreeing to her LJBF sounds passive. OTOH, if i tell her, hey i cant be platonic with u cause ure cute, she might say, fine, its ur choice, just dont mess with the social circle were both in! (I dont think shell say this because shes too agreeable for that, but hypothetically.)
Alternatively, i could try to address both her "its been a year!" objection and her ASD/discretion objection, but im not sure how exactly.
Thanks tons for any inputs!
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