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Great vibe but now texting silence. Worth re-engaging?

Thebear

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Met a girl on a night out. My friends left early, and her group kind of adopted me. We danced, kissed, linked arms, hugged, shared food, I wiped sauce off her lip, etc. Flirty and affectionate all night.

I invited her back, she hesitated (said her friend was picking her up for yoga early) but didn’t seem uninterested. She asked for my Instagram before she left and even took me home in her taxi.

After a few days and a few texts later, I get this message from her “I would defo be up for doing something sometime! I’m probably moving to Australia in September but feel like we seem to like similar things (sea dips, oysters etc), so would be up for something chilled x”

I replied lightly and said “ooo well jel! Ofc, drinks before deportation sounds good to me. When’s best for you? x”

This is where I’ve had radio silence for a week.

Here’s what I’m weighing:


Do I leave it and wait for her to re-engage?


Or does reconnecting around the 2-3 week mark give me a clean window to re-spark the vibe—without triggering her fear of anything too deep?
 
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Why did you say deportation.... That was bad.... Could have turned her off... All you had say sounds like a plan once you get to know me you will not want to leave to australia we will have so much fun together....how does Friday evening sound?

If she didn't reply in 4 hours a ????

Deportation autism
 

Thebear

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Why did you say deportation.... That was bad.... Could have turned her off... All you had say sounds like a plan once you get to know me you will not want to leave to australia we will have so much fun together....how does Friday evening sound?

If she didn't reply in 4 hours a ????

Deportation autism
Deportation was just a cheeky joke tbh, I thought from my end it was just light and playful and not hyper-literal.
 
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