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Hello everyone,
There's this girl in my social circle I had sex a few times with. We aren't together by any means but she's very submissive towards me and since she's fairly young I'm pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else. She's one of those naive girls, which to be honest I find very endearing. I'm doing my best to try not to hurt her.
The other day we went to an party and she brought with her a friend of hers, which was a guy.
I noticed they didn't seem to be particularly close together.
When we were close and just us two, the first thing she said was that he's just a friend, and I "shouldn't worry about it". I teased her that I don't know what she's talking about, we're just friends too, and we had a laugh.
She continued spending some brief time with him in between everyone else, and I continued talking with other guys and girls at the event.
After that, at the end she told me she'd love to come over again and we set up together the next time we'll hang out.
Here's the problem: I have no idea why but in the moment something switched in my inner frame.
I felt like I had to make sure somehow that this girl was in fact still mine, and she would not choose this other guy over me. It's not like I want to have anything serious with this girl yet - more like my ego wanted me to make sure I still got her.
It sounds very cringey typing it in words, but that is how I felt in the moment. I quickly got over it once I came to my senses, but I realised I had always had that issue, even with past girlfriends.
Now I'm wondering - how do you react in a situation where you're in a group of friends and your girlfriend / fwb is having a 1 on 1 chat with another guy? Where is the boundary on which you would take action?
I had a similar situation happen with a girlfriend where I had to intervene after she had a 20 minute conversation on a couch with a dude, and he was touching her forearm. Big no-no for me, I got into the conversation in a friendly way then told her afterwards not to see that guy again. Apparently since they were both photographers they got into an exchange on that.
And also, how do you not get jealous over these things? I'm starting to think my big ego is getting in the way of my judgement, and because of that, my game.
Any tips appreciated..
There's this girl in my social circle I had sex a few times with. We aren't together by any means but she's very submissive towards me and since she's fairly young I'm pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else. She's one of those naive girls, which to be honest I find very endearing. I'm doing my best to try not to hurt her.
The other day we went to an party and she brought with her a friend of hers, which was a guy.
I noticed they didn't seem to be particularly close together.
When we were close and just us two, the first thing she said was that he's just a friend, and I "shouldn't worry about it". I teased her that I don't know what she's talking about, we're just friends too, and we had a laugh.
She continued spending some brief time with him in between everyone else, and I continued talking with other guys and girls at the event.
After that, at the end she told me she'd love to come over again and we set up together the next time we'll hang out.
Here's the problem: I have no idea why but in the moment something switched in my inner frame.
I felt like I had to make sure somehow that this girl was in fact still mine, and she would not choose this other guy over me. It's not like I want to have anything serious with this girl yet - more like my ego wanted me to make sure I still got her.
It sounds very cringey typing it in words, but that is how I felt in the moment. I quickly got over it once I came to my senses, but I realised I had always had that issue, even with past girlfriends.
Now I'm wondering - how do you react in a situation where you're in a group of friends and your girlfriend / fwb is having a 1 on 1 chat with another guy? Where is the boundary on which you would take action?
I had a similar situation happen with a girlfriend where I had to intervene after she had a 20 minute conversation on a couch with a dude, and he was touching her forearm. Big no-no for me, I got into the conversation in a friendly way then told her afterwards not to see that guy again. Apparently since they were both photographers they got into an exchange on that.
And also, how do you not get jealous over these things? I'm starting to think my big ego is getting in the way of my judgement, and because of that, my game.
Any tips appreciated..
