I had a very unexpected experience of getting the cold shoulder on what should've been a date tonight, and I was wondering if you gentlemen might share your thoughts, as I'm rather stumped.
The girl and I don't really know each other, she's a friend of a friend. My friend told me she was interested in me and introduced us, but we never had the chance to talk much. Anyway I ran into her on the street a couple times and she gave me a desirous look and kissed me pretty warmly (I'm in Colombia, kissing is the greeting here), but always ran away quickly without giving me the chance to talk. So, I texted her, and asked her out with text two. She agreed very warmly, and suggested we meet the next day sometime after 6 pm (i.e. for dinner, which seems like a pretty serious/interested date to me). Anyway we texted a couple more times to set the details and flirt a bit, and everything seemed great.
I showed up at her house at the agreed-upon time and called her, and she said she was with some friends at a nearby bar. It took me a little while (20 mins or something) to get there because she gave me pretty bad directions (saying I should go the a park on 53rd street and 7th ave, where there is no park, though there is one on 54th and 6th). When I got there she told me to sit with her friends because she was with another (female) friend, so I did. After a minute she joined us, but made NO effort to converse with me, and literally turned her back on me. I asked her what the deal was, and where we were going to go to eat, but she said she had forgotten about this meeting she needed to have with her friends, and that she had eaten with them (which was true, the dessert plates were still on the table) and just wanted to stay there. She very openly flirted with the only two other males sitting near us, and cut short every attempt I made to converse.
Here's a paraphrased excerpt:
me: I still know very little about you, what's your story?
her: (After explaining what I meant) Nothing. (After a little pushing) I'm studying.
(I ask her a bit about what she's studying/why, but she doesn't seem interested so I change topics)
me: Well, what do you do for fun?
her: I hang around in my house and study.
me: I mean besides studying!
her: Nothing, just studying.
me: I don't believe you, you seem like the adventurous type.
her: No, I'm not.
After having a couple exchanges like this, punctuated by her turning her back on me to talk to somebody else or physically flirt with some guy across the table and me talking a bit to her friend, I finished my drink and told her I was leaving because I needed to have dinner. She said we'd have to make it next week, and I unenthusiastically said "okay" and started to leave; she asked if I had paid for my drink and I said "No, I was thinking of just running out of here; I have long legs- I could probably outrun these guys." She laughed and joked with me about that for a second and, for the first time that evening, acted interested in talking to me. I left.
So, that's probably the coldest rejection I've ever gotten from a girl; my plan is to forget about her and, if she does text me next week, only meet with her if she puts in some effort and acts like she means it. So what are your thoughts? Is this all an insane level of playing hard to get (running from me on the street, flirting with the other men clearly just to piss me off, throwing the date in my face and ignoring me), did I do something to offend her, or is she just a cold, sadistic person?
The girl and I don't really know each other, she's a friend of a friend. My friend told me she was interested in me and introduced us, but we never had the chance to talk much. Anyway I ran into her on the street a couple times and she gave me a desirous look and kissed me pretty warmly (I'm in Colombia, kissing is the greeting here), but always ran away quickly without giving me the chance to talk. So, I texted her, and asked her out with text two. She agreed very warmly, and suggested we meet the next day sometime after 6 pm (i.e. for dinner, which seems like a pretty serious/interested date to me). Anyway we texted a couple more times to set the details and flirt a bit, and everything seemed great.
I showed up at her house at the agreed-upon time and called her, and she said she was with some friends at a nearby bar. It took me a little while (20 mins or something) to get there because she gave me pretty bad directions (saying I should go the a park on 53rd street and 7th ave, where there is no park, though there is one on 54th and 6th). When I got there she told me to sit with her friends because she was with another (female) friend, so I did. After a minute she joined us, but made NO effort to converse with me, and literally turned her back on me. I asked her what the deal was, and where we were going to go to eat, but she said she had forgotten about this meeting she needed to have with her friends, and that she had eaten with them (which was true, the dessert plates were still on the table) and just wanted to stay there. She very openly flirted with the only two other males sitting near us, and cut short every attempt I made to converse.
Here's a paraphrased excerpt:
me: I still know very little about you, what's your story?
her: (After explaining what I meant) Nothing. (After a little pushing) I'm studying.
(I ask her a bit about what she's studying/why, but she doesn't seem interested so I change topics)
me: Well, what do you do for fun?
her: I hang around in my house and study.
me: I mean besides studying!
her: Nothing, just studying.
me: I don't believe you, you seem like the adventurous type.
her: No, I'm not.
After having a couple exchanges like this, punctuated by her turning her back on me to talk to somebody else or physically flirt with some guy across the table and me talking a bit to her friend, I finished my drink and told her I was leaving because I needed to have dinner. She said we'd have to make it next week, and I unenthusiastically said "okay" and started to leave; she asked if I had paid for my drink and I said "No, I was thinking of just running out of here; I have long legs- I could probably outrun these guys." She laughed and joked with me about that for a second and, for the first time that evening, acted interested in talking to me. I left.
So, that's probably the coldest rejection I've ever gotten from a girl; my plan is to forget about her and, if she does text me next week, only meet with her if she puts in some effort and acts like she means it. So what are your thoughts? Is this all an insane level of playing hard to get (running from me on the street, flirting with the other men clearly just to piss me off, throwing the date in my face and ignoring me), did I do something to offend her, or is she just a cold, sadistic person?
