Hard situation with this girl... She's the Casanova?

[SaltyT]

ok, last couple of months i have learned for the best this game thing. I've become really good with women, got laid, had girlfriends and i think i'm doing pretty cool buuuut....

I have this girl, she's really cool, what i've wanted for me right now (in college, not long term well who knows), she's attractive and very good in bed, nice person and funny, we get along very good.

But this week have been full of shit, literally, i found out this girl might be not so special, maybe a player!!! yes haha, let me explain in quick words from start to what i'm going trough:

1- We know from college, i had this relation, we couldn't be together, we were both very attracted (since 1 year ago).
2- Now that i'm single, i hanged out at a bar with my wingman, i saw her, talked to her, we kissed and set a date.
3- We had sex, she was so joyful, she loved it, we lost communication, shit.
4- Hardly communicated since she doesn't has a phone right now, only facebook chats, 4-10 texts, we set up a date.
5- Yeah, i liked this girl, we hanged out once again, i met her family (had no option but still read a bit more like wtf). AT THIS POINT, we haven't tagged what we have, i haven't called her my girlfriend and she either.
6-Lost communication, (HERE'S THE FUCKED UP PART) A friend told me she was some other guy girlfriend, i asked one more guy and confirmed it.

SHIT, i was confused and mad, i hanged out that day with my wingman, i picked up some numbers and i found this girl i know she lives at the same house this girl lives (students house), i flirted with her intentionally, she rejected me but she enjoyed me talking because both girls hate each other :v so you know, she told my girl i did this with amazing details, like she was reading it from a paper

NEXT DAY, I WAS WALKING WITH MY WINGMAN ON THE STREET, AND THEN IT HAPPENED, i saw her by the hand of this other cat, omg i was so upset and confused, couldn't believe it was actually truth, everything these guys were saying about this girl, it was truth!!

Ok, that night, about 2 hours later, after seing her with this fool, i texted her on facebook, we arranged a meeting at a park, we talked, and she told me that she's dating this ex-boyfriend because i was flirting with this girl she hates at the bar, i was like wtf all my folks told me you were dating someone weeks ago, she refused it and told me this boy is actually coming from Germany that day, and she was just mad at me...

WHAT IS GOING ON, I DON'T GET IT, WHAT THE HELL SHE WANTS, she's playing me? LOL, now i feel i'm chasing her, and i don't want to feel in love with some bitch that will put some hornes on me, what to do?

I know every women is a slut besides she shows she's different but i really like this girl don't know, what would you guys recommend? please heeelpp..!!!

 

[Chase]

Salty-

I'd only recommend dating this gal if you don't mind sharing her. From your post here, it doesn't sound like that's something you want or are in a place to be able to handle emotionally right now, so I'd just drop her.

She's passionate, she likes men, she likes messing around with men, and either she's messing with your mind (if she really was dating someone and now she's lying to you to make you jealous and telling you she wasn't) OR she's the switch-on-a-snap sort who's going to go sleep with someone else the moment she feels even moderately hurt (e.g., she can ignore you, but if you flirt with someone else - whooboy! Time for her to take back her ex immediately).

These girls are loads of fun as hookups, but they sick the whirlwind of chaos on you like nobody's business if you try to make them into monogamous girlfriends.

Tempting, I know, but so is crack cocaine.

Chase

 

[SaltyT]

Salty-

I'd only recommend dating this gal if you don't mind sharing her. From your post here, it doesn't sound like that's something you want or are in a place to be able to handle emotionally right now, so I'd just drop her.

She's passionate, she likes men, she likes messing around with men, and either she's messing with your mind (if she really was dating someone and now she's lying to you to make you jealous and telling you she wasn't) OR she's the switch-on-a-snap sort who's going to go sleep with someone else the moment she feels even moderately hurt (e.g., she can ignore you, but if you flirt with someone else - whooboy! Time for her to take back her ex immediately).

These girls are loads of fun as hookups, but they sick the whirlwind of chaos on you like nobody's business if you try to make them into monogamous girlfriends.

Tempting, I know, but so is crack cocaine.

Chase

Sensei, thanks for the reply..

and you are right once again, this girl is kinda worthless, at least she's good sex so I won't put too much effort on her, just because she's showing her true nature with orbiters and shopping guys

Thanks master

 

[SaltyT]

Salty-

I'd only recommend dating this gal if you don't mind sharing her. From your post here, it doesn't sound like that's something you want or are in a place to be able to handle emotionally right now, so I'd just drop her.

She's passionate, she likes men, she likes messing around with men, and either she's messing with your mind (if she really was dating someone and now she's lying to you to make you jealous and telling you she wasn't) OR she's the switch-on-a-snap sort who's going to go sleep with someone else the moment she feels even moderately hurt (e.g., she can ignore you, but if you flirt with someone else - whooboy! Time for her to take back her ex immediately).

These girls are loads of fun as hookups, but they sick the whirlwind of chaos on you like nobody's business if you try to make them into monogamous girlfriends.

Tempting, I know, but so is crack cocaine.

Chase

Chase i wish i should have listen to you, i waisted my time, effort, money, reputation with this one and you were soooo right about all....

got myself wreckt, well, life lesson with women i hit rock bottom, to be honest seems like you are never wrong man

 

[JimmyB]

I've found myself involved with these types of girls. Crack cocaine is right. They key is managing YOUR emotions and taking a more open view of relationships. If you can get through one of these and learn from it, it builds some resiliency to WORDS over action. All girls tend to say things then do something else, this case is just a bit more extreme.
Chase, how do you distinguish between a girl who is super into you and a girl that was more of just an incredible fling? Is it only a matter of "If she agrees to see you again, it is more than a fling" or "if she's flakey, it was a one time deal"? Maybe that's too simple, or maybe it all boils down to whether or not she sees you again. What if she continues to see you, but you ALSO hear that she's with another guy? Do you just go with the flow and let things progress at their own rate, or do you ever try to keep a girl in a monogamous relationship? I thought I remember you saying you no longer do monogamy...