Help me get back into the swing of things

[Rakehell]

I took a significant amount of the year off and am looking to get back into the swing of things. Had a rotation of a few girls that I was happy with, but things naturally fell off and I’d gotten to a point where I lost the drive and motivation to put in the necessary effort to keep things going. Fell into a bit of a depression that wasn’t girl related but nevertheless effected my drive for everything that wasn’t “essential”.

In my mind at the time it felt right to drop everything and just start fresh, which I have a tendency to do.

Now that leaves me here, back and ready to start again, but, and what seems like a big butt (lol) to me, I feel as though what came naturally to me before has been pretty difficult to re-obtain. So I’m asking you guys who are active and doing your thing, for help in becoming successful again.

A little about me (if you even care/if it even matters):

-Very Early 20s
-New College Student
-Great Understanding of Social Dynamics and Female Psychology
-Little to no approach anxiety
-Really good all around fundamentals comparatively (Goes for nonverbals, style, in good shape, get told I am goodlooking face wise often)

At my peak I’d say I was high intermediate-advanced, if we’re talking pua lingo. Nowadays i’m not so sure.

The spot i’m in right now is strange to me, i’m having trouble accessing my “sexual energy”. I can have good conversations with girls all day, but when it comes to leading things in a sexual direction.

I’m having trouble getting “activated”. And in the moment know I should be leading things that way, but doing it feels foggy and unnatural almost. So when I try it feels “forced” and I get the sense that the girls know at some level too.

So naturally i’ve been disappointing girls left and right, and am a-lot clumsier than what I’m used to. My awareness and decision making is off in real time.

I think my internals took a big hit during my down period, and my sense of entitlement as well. And my self awareness of this is almost making it worse. Since it’s not what I’m used to.

So i’m looking for tips, advice, and ultimately help making a new and improved process so that I can get back on my journey. Thanks a ton.

-RakeyRake

 

[Chase]

@Rakehell,

Back into it, eh?

Doesn't sound like you need help with the approaching aspect of it, but just in case I just posted a "shake off the rust and get approaching again" article yesterday.

Re: the sexual aspect of it, I suggest this article and this one. Also @Teevster's article on sexual intent.

More generally, a few recommendations:

• Don't worry about being clumsy, just worry about if you're doing what you should do or not. Once you get back into the habit of doing, the clumsiness will go away.
  
  
• What were you doing to sexualize things with girls in the past? Touching them? Chase frames? Sexy eye contact? Sex talk? Whatever that was, make it a point to start consciously introducing that with women again (even if "clumsily").
  
  
• Use some tactics timers to force yourself to escalate / make moves once you get a certain depth into things with a girl. That way you avoid missing escalation windows or having attraction expire.

Pickup is just habits. Get back into the habit and you will get smoother and smoother.

Chase

 

[Rakehell]

@Rakehell,

Back into it, eh?

Doesn't sound like you need help with the approaching aspect of it, but just in case I just posted a "shake off the rust and get approaching again" article yesterday.

Re: the sexual aspect of it, I suggest this article and this one. Also @Teevster's article on sexual intent.

More generally, a few recommendations:

• Don't worry about being clumsy, just worry about if you're doing what you should do or not. Once you get back into the habit of doing, the clumsiness will go away.
  
  
• What were you doing to sexualize things with girls in the past? Touching them? Chase frames? Sexy eye contact? Sex talk? Whatever that was, make it a point to start consciously introducing that with women again (even if "clumsily").
  
  
• Use some tactics timers to force yourself to escalate / make moves once you get a certain depth into things with a girl. That way you avoid missing escalation windows or having attraction expire.

Pickup is just habits. Get back into the habit and you will get smoother and smoother.

Chase

Awesome man thanks a bunch. So thorough there isn’t much for me to comment or ask. Nuff said.