Help with Daygame

[AdamC]

Hello there, I need some help with Daygame!
My Fundamentals are good because I get compliments on my shoes, style, etcetera...
I've got a pretty good gig working in TV and Film Production, so I'm considered adventurous, or of decent value.
I'm not afraid to approach and have a conversation - but I'm having a very challenging time Hooking, and getting the girl to come out on the meet-up, even after a good interaction...
Let's focus here on trying to Hook a girl, and get her info based on an Approach this Friday.

Our basecamp was at the Rose Bowl parking lot where alot of attractive people run and exercise around the stadium, and grounds. As I was leaving to go to set, I crossed paths with a early 20's Sexy Latin running, who I flagged down and began walking with.

My Opener was "Hey you totally remind me of a Assistant Camera Girl I dated, Andreaa who was Romanian, but I know you're a latina..."
Then after exchanging names I used Ricardus's "Are you Single" bit. She surprisingly said Yes!

We walked and talked for about 5 mins,. The conversation began about she taking a break from school where she began studying Psychology. But then she Interned for a Catholic Church because she said she was religious. Then it transitioned into how she is a "Spicey Latina," and what makes her "spicey," which she said was running or being athletic. (Perhaps I could have teased her more about being spicey??) Then she threw out a statement about how she "Like PAIN."

And of course I thought about BDSM (of which I know of some exclusive clubs in L.A.). At first I said "You like pain, like a cutter?" And she was like "No, not a cutter..." Then, I tried to "Deep Dive," about this "Pain" and I said "You mean like when you Hike to the top of Mount Baldy and see the view below, after the pain of hiking it?" And she was like "No, that's a feeling of accomplishment. I just feel that Life is Pain, And I like the feeling of Pain..."

At this point, both because of Responsibility - I had to get back to work, and Set, as well as my gut - I threw out - Hey this is some deep stuff, we should continue this over coffe. And she was like "No thanks, but cool meeting you."

And I was like, "Wait, just curious why the no." This is some pretty deep and interesting stuff you don't just tell anyone.
Then she stated "Well, we've met in a public place, and you're a stranger, and I'm just not looking for someone like that right now."
And I replied, "Well, I'm not exactly offering until I get to know someone better..."
And she was like "Yeaeeah, NO."

So I did the man to woman handshake and told her to have fun with the rest of her run as I went back to my car to go to Set - internally FURIOUS at how I missed this early 20's Sexy Latina SINGLE opportunity, and where I went wrong, and how to correct it...

The last approach before this was a Sexy, turned out to be, Lesbian, but who's had sex with guys, at the Whole Foods in Burbank.
She excitedly gave me her number, but never returned the text to meet-up, even doing Chase's text method breakdown...

SO. I am OPEN and Willing for any suggestions on how I can change my approaching, or whatever to start getting result!!
Or, is there some kind of generational thing with early 20's girls meeting people in person vs. online?
Or is it my age, since I am in my Thirties, yet have had success with early 20's girls in different contexts...

Interested in the groups feedback.
Thanks!

 

[Jan]

I would say the problem was lack of connection and/or similarities. She even told you: "we've met in a public place, and you're a stranger."

You can connect on different levels, but since she was of different age, different demographics, different worldview your best shot was connecting on the LIFE AS PAIN thing. But you didn't get it.

SIMILARITIES

Think about it this way. Let's say she met another guy in the exact same situation. But he was 24, also a Latino, maybe even from the same country and he is also struggling with life, so life is pain for him too.

If this guy offered to exchange numbers, she would be thinking: 'Hmm, we are of similar age, so maybe we have common friends or similar interests, there is same culture/country, so we would always have a topic for discussion. And we having similar feelings about life, so it's another topic."

But with you... I guess she thought, "I don't have anything in common with him, and he even doesn't understand real life. What am I even gonna talk to him about?"

LIFE AS PAIN

I can think of two interpretation of 'Life is Pain'.

One is, the catholic interpretation. Read up if you are not catholic.

You can also watch any interview with David Goggins. For him, life is ALWAYS DOING HARD THINGS. And hard things are painful. If it's a new concept for you, it should up open up something for you.

You can checko out a cool interview David Goggins and Andrew Huberman.

But, anyway. Coming to your question.

CONNECTING

You seem to be running lots of seduction tech, which in my view is taking so much of your processing power that you are not focusing on her and not trying to build a GENUINE connection. Instead of trying to be smart on how you can reframe the spicey thing, you could have used this time to go deeper with her 'Life is pain' thing. Ask her to elaborate more, have a real, genuine interest in trying to understand.