FU Her life is miserable, so she's decides to mess with mine

[Verisimilitude]

I'm still angry. This happened weeks ago, and even just writing this makes me want go punch a wall. There are two main girls in this, sexy Hispanic girl and the cock block.

This is going to sound a little bitter. Good. I burned a bridge. But it is honestly for the best. This girl (the cock block) is a special type of person. The special type that pushes her miserable life on others but tries to act nice while doing it.

The night was going well. I was approaching girls, and getting tons of interest. But as I was going back up to my room to make a drink, a girl talks to me. This girl is gorgeous. She tells me she is Miss. Georgia. Damn. But my fraternity brother is getting with her. So I back off and focus on her sexy Hispanic friend. I deep dive about how she's always in her friend's shadow, and I get to share a lot about relationships. The pageant girl wants my friend, but has a nice guy bf (lover vs. provider). I explain to the Hispanic girl how its her friend's choice and how she needs to let her friend make her own decision. She agrees and tells me how she hates relationships. Furthermore, she tells me she is very intellectual. I'm actually starting to really like this girl, and I realized that she was cool enough that I wanted to keep her around. But first I had to escalate. I was playing a very sexy vibe and she was reciprocating. Hand holding, touching, eye contact, the whole nine yards. This girl wanted me.

My roommate is going for another girl and he doesn't get laid much, so I was trying not to cock block him. So I told the girl that I needed a place to crash. Hispanic sexy girl volunteers her room. So I think, "I got this, let's go back now". I should have taken her back then, but I hesitated. My hesitation allows her friend to pull her to the dance floor. I kissed her on the dance floor, but pulled away every time and said that she was trying to take advantage of me.

Eventually we leave and she seems tipsy, but still in control. I don't want to hook up with a girl who is too drunk, so I ask her if she is ok. She tells me she is fine. I tell her I respect her and would never want her to do anything that she doesn't want to do. I messed up here. I think she was a little concerned now because I brought up the idea of her being uncomfortable with me.

We head back and her and her friend go to the bathroom. I know what this is. Its the, "should I have sex with him?" talk. Her friend's bf (who turned out to be a nice guy) tells me, "you got a great shot man". They come out, she seems interested.

AND THEN IT ALL GOES TO SHIT

Some random girls walk by and start talking to sexy Hispanic girl. One of them is the girl from a previous FR++ (link here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=3329). For those who don't want to read, this girl showed interest in me, led me on, rejected me, and then proceeded to cock block me with every girl she saw me with. This wasn't just an isolated incident, this was part of a larger pattern. She is very religious, and she pushes her beliefs on everyone. The special type of person that cloaks her horrible life in religion and drags everyone down with her.

From then on, its like a navy seal team. One girl straight up tells me, "I'm taking her away from you", and the cock block girl goes in to in her own words, "distract me". I know exactly what's going on, but it happened so fast, I was too shocked to do anything. I just let them talk. By then, I knew it was over. But I was pissed. I had done nothing, but these girls were telling me it was for the best for me and that she just, "Changed her mind". Bull. Shit. Those girls changed her mind.

I wait, and then tell the cock block girl in a dead neutral tone that she's a horrible person and that I never want to see her again, and then walk away. Yes I was mean. But she deserved it. This girl has the audacity to lead me on, reject me, then cock block me with every girl she sees me with. And then of all things say she's looking out for me. She's a lying piece of shit.

I'm better off without this girl in my life.

I am bitter. I did everything right (except an early pull) and I still lost out due to this cock block. With a girl I legitimately cared about. I don't hate all women (in fact I love women), but I'm like Damon where I take pleasure in cutting down people who deserve it. I actually felt better about cutting this girl out of my life. Its like popping a pimple or throwing up to stay sober (kind of disgusting, but a perfect analogy).

Guys, if you have girl like the cock block in your life, cut them out. Stop it before it gets too bad. The girl later showed me her true colors (said a lot of ignorant shit) and I realized that my life is significantly better without her. She's not your friend. She doesn't want the best for you. She just wants to stick you in her miserable life and make you as unhappy as she is.

Z Vaunswa I feel like I failed you. I had that Hispanic girl and I lost her.

Its really hard not to be bitter here. I'm not going to let myself apply this to all girls though. And I don't like burning bridges. But in this case, I think it was warranted.

Let me know what you think I could have done better, or if you think I messed up by cutting burning that bridge. And any encouragement is appreciated. Not to be depressing, but I could use some right now.

 

[Pato]

V,

The interaction with Hispanic girl seemed to go really well, and if you pulled earlier you may have avoided the whole situation with the cockblockers. But once they were committed to stopping you, it was game over. I don't know if there was much you could do after that point. I'm assuming that the main cockblocking girl is girl #2 from the other post. It seemed like you were actually making progress getting her to stop being against you and back on your side. What happened with that after you told her she looked great and the facebook friending?

I wait, and then tell the cock block girl in a dead neutral tone that she's a horrible person and that I never want to see her again, and then walk away. Yes I was mean. But she deserved it. This girl has the audacity to lead me on, reject me, then cock block me with every girl she sees me with. And then of all things say she's looking out for me. She's a lying piece of shit.

I'm better off without this girl in my life.

This may be a bit harsh on your part, and maybe you could have done it in a way that didn't seem so unpleasant, but I am also a fan of completely cutting ties with people that legitimately (and especially purposefully) affect you in negative ways. If you think you're better off without her, which I'd agree with, then props to you for cutting her out of your life. Maybe it could have been toned down a bit, but if I was in your shoes, in the heat of the moment, there is a high chance that I'd do something similar.

I am bitter. I did everything right (except an early pull) and I still lost out due to this cock block. With a girl I legitimately cared about. I don't hate all women (in fact I love women), but I'm like Damon where I take pleasure in cutting down people who deserve it. I actually felt better about cutting this girl out of my life. Its like popping a pimple or throwing up to stay sober (kind of disgusting, but a perfect analogy).

Guys, if you have girl like the cock block in your life, cut them out. Stop it before it gets too bad. The girl later showed me her true colors (said a lot of ignorant shit) and I realized that my life is significantly better without her. She's not your friend. She doesn't want the best for you. She just wants to stick you in her miserable life and make you as unhappy as she is.

I love the reference to Damon, because he doesn't take anyone's shit and won't have them around him if they are bad for him. (Oh and thanks for bringing him up so often, it got me to check out him and TVD and I'm trying to model myself after him in seduction). But yeah, I'm definitely a fan of getting rid of people that are always hurting you. There's no reason for you to allow the girl (or anyone) to bring you down with her. The only thing I'm afraid of is that she will be even more against you and mad at you, so she could try her hardest to cockblock you even more in the future and give you a bad rep around the girls you'd be interacting with. But maybe being that harsh was the only way to get the message across. I still think you did really well for the most part, you just caught a really bad break.

-Pato

 

[Marty]

XC, I have only one suggestion for you. Stay out of social circle.

If you were killing it in social circle it would be different, but this is nothing less than a liability.

These days I only use social circle for two things: practicing talking to women (or more accurately, having them tell me about themselves); and seeing what I can get away with.

Find yourself a girl you have zero social ties with, give her a special, marvelous experience, and keep it a secret from everyone. If you feel the need to share, you can tell your friends here at Girls Chase after sanitizing the details.

 

[Verisimilitude]

It seemed like you were actually making progress getting her to stop being against you and back on your side. What happened with that after you told her she looked great and the facebook friending?

More of the same really as the FR really. She would do her normal routine. Come up to me all smiles, tell the girl I'm a man-whore, and after she pushed the girl away, condescendingly smile and say she's helping me. I made it clear through body language and ignoring her that I wasn't happy with it. This had happened many times before, which was why I went so far.

But I agree that it may have been harsh. I don't care what she thinks, but I don't want a bad reputation. Before I went off, I said, "Look cock block girl, I know that you're thinking you are helping, but you aren't" and she just kept going. But I could have been nicer. Something like, "Listen, you are making my life worse. I need you to leave me alone. I don't want to be friends with you any more". On the flip side, I'm actually really proud I didn't call her a cunt or a bitch. I've cut those words out of my life, and I think it helps.

Glad I can help! Damon is great, but like him, I also can take things too far and end up pushing people away. Be careful with that.

If this girl continues to try to cock block, I'm going to say, "cock block girl, you are being disrespectful and rude. Leave us alone" and then explain how she is very bitter around guys and especially me.

The worst part is that Hispanic girl clearly had no problem going back with me. Her roommates were texting her, and one even came into my room to check on her, and Hispanic girl gave her the ok and said she was fine with me. Her roommate hates my fraternity and all things to do with us (long story). So for her to have left us alone, Hispanic girl must have really pushed her to leave.

And Marty I had never met Hispanic girl before this FR. She just happened to know cock block girl. I completely intended to keep it between me and her, but unfortunately the social circles aligned in the wrong way. Its a side effect of living where I live. And yes this FR is sanitized. Names, words, minor details, nationalities, and other things have been changed to protect the innocent.

V

 

[Casanovelis]

It seemed like you were actually making progress getting her to stop being against you and back on your side. What happened with that after you told her she looked great and the facebook friending?

More of the same really as the FR really. She would do her normal routine. Come up to me all smiles, tell the girl I'm a man-whore, and after she pushed the girl away, condescendingly smile and say she's helping me. I made it clear through body language and ignoring her that I wasn't happy with it. This had happened many times before, which was why I went so far.

But I agree that it may have been harsh. I don't care what she thinks, but I don't want a bad reputation. Before I went off, I said, "Look cock block girl, I know that you're thinking you are helping, but you aren't" and she just kept going. But I could have been nicer. Something like, "Listen, you are making my life worse. I need you to leave me alone. I don't want to be friends with you any more". On the flip side, I'm actually really proud I didn't call her a cunt or a bitch. I've cut those words out of my life, and I think it helps.

Glad I can help! Damon is great, but like him, I also can take things too far and end up pushing people away. Be careful with that.

If this girl continues to try to cock block, I'm going to say, "cock block girl, you are being disrespectful and rude. Leave us alone" and then explain how she is very bitter around guys and especially me.

The worst part is that Hispanic girl clearly had no problem going back with me. Her roommates were texting her, and one even came into my room to check on her, and Hispanic girl gave her the ok and said she was fine with me. Her roommate hates my fraternity and all things to do with us (long story). So for her to have left us alone, Hispanic girl must have really pushed her to leave.

And Marty I had never met Hispanic girl before this FR. She just happened to know cock block girl. I completely intended to keep it between me and her, but unfortunately the social circles aligned in the wrong way. Its a side effect of living where I live. And yes this FR is sanitized. Names, words, minor details, nationalities, and other things have been changed to protect the innocent.

V

It's really sad that people let peer pressure control their lives. Girls in this age range seem to be REALLY sensitive to this.