Hi is an opener right?

[lindsayrrr]

Hey Guys

I know that the standard opener is simply Hi. It can be used to start any conversion and meet girls. But lets a girl says a Hi but does not follow up with a question or anything, is this to get my attention or just being friendly.

How can I tell the difference between a friendly or interested Hi? Is it their body language? Or should I just try seize the moment every time this happens?
Been happening like once every few outings and it kind of stumps me. Usually because I'm not expecting it.

Would like to hear your thoughts.

 

[Inbocca]

Technically anything used to start a conversation is an opener. This can range from a long-winded introduction with expression of interest, to asking where the bathroom is, to "Hi", or even just solid eye-contact and a head nod like "Sup?" The levels of success with each varies (you'll probably just get a return nod with that last one), and situational openers are well-known for getting high levels of replies but a much lower close rate (lack of interest doesn't quickly establish you as a candidate).

I personally hate using just "Hi" as an opener. Best case scenario, the girl takes a second look because she's wondering if I know her from somewhere. More often than not, I get weird looks because who just comes up to strangers and only says hi with no follow up? That, and I tend to do it rather awkwardly at this point, which exacerbates the issue.

But apparently it happens more often than I think because you've got girls doing that to you. Kudos. Usually body language and other IOIs will be the giveaway. If someone is just coming up to you and saying "Hi", they either know you (or think they do) or are trying to get an interaction out of you. You got nothing to lose by going for it each and every time.

 

[lindsayrrr]

Yeah I found that out. Hi by itself is okay-ish but leads to some awkward conversations, especially if you don't make your intentions clear.

That said is it cool to just take charge of the interaction. For experience sake it will probably be good but many of the girls are not very attractive (I'm working lowering my standards).

Anyway will be on the look out for those IOI's next time I go out.

Thanks Inbocca.

 

[Lotus]

Lindsayrrr,

If she is opening you with "Hi" it's best to always assume attraction. You're never really going to know what her intentions are unless you get her out on a date and sleep with her.

I personally love the "Hey" opener because it's simple. Most of what determines the outcome of the interaction is not going to be on what you say, but on how you say it and what you do.

Are you confident? Is your body language solid? How does she like your look?

Focus on your fundamentals, they are what is going to carry you to getting her on a date with you.

Hope this helps

-Lotus

 

[lindsayrrr]

Lindsayrrr,

If she is opening you with "Hi" it's best to always assume attraction. You're never really going to know what her intentions are unless you get her out on a date and sleep with her.

I personally love the "Hey" opener because it's simple. Most of what determines the outcome of the interaction is not going to be on what you say, but on how you say it and what you do.

Are you confident? Is your body language solid? How does she like your look?

Focus on your fundamentals, they are what is going to carry you to getting her on a date with you.

Hope this helps

-Lotus

Hey Lotus

My fundamentals need tons of work at the moment. At this point the best I can think of would be slowing down my movements and speech. Sounds pretty basic but that's where I'm at, which probably isn't enough to maintain her attraction, since I'm assuming that she wants to get my attention by saying hi.

What usually happens is girl says hi, I respond with hi, she hangs around for like a sec then walks off. I think this is crazy, why say hi for no reason. I can't think of anyway to continue the conversation cause its so awkward.