High school problem

[Potatool]

I'm a bit new to this, and I was wondering whether or not these techniques will still work in high school. I am not exactly aiming for sex, but rather just a relationship. I know things like fundamentals apply to every situation, but it's a bit hard for me to incorporate sexual frames in conversations with the girls I know, as they are not interested in sex at the moment.

My main question is whether or not I should continue with a girl if another guy has already asked her out. You see, I recently started chatting up a girl and she seemed to be very into me, since she tried to start up conversations herself and complied with whatever I asked of her. The thing is, I only see her during my lunch, which creates a social circle setting for me. Despite that, I try to separate the two of us from the group as much as possible when talking to her. Just today, however, this one mutual friend asked her to prom and she, having no other askers, accepted. I'd been meaning to ask her out on a high note today, but this messed everything up. Now, I'm left wondering if I should continue investing my time with this girl or whether I should start looking elsewhere.

Problem is, I kind of grew a bit too invested in her (I know, rookie mistake), and I can't help but feel that I should continue working on her. I mean, a prom date doesn't necessarily mean a relationship or anything, but I'm afraid that she might get somewhat attached to him and will be uneasy with my advances. Should I still go on as if nothing happened, or what?

Any help with this situation will be greatly appreciated.

 

[DesiBro]

I think that high school is an excellent time to drill down fundamentals - dress well, act confident, converse effectively, etc. After that, what you want to do is what you want to do. You can't really have an effective relationship without sex, but high school is a stage in life when it doesn't even really matter anyway.

That said, if you get your fundamentals down, you will find that girls are more interested in sex than you'd think.

 

[Potatool]

I don't know, I guess it's because she has the qualities I tend to look for in girls, and my options are very limited right now. I think looking at this situation more objectively is helping me grow out of that, but for some reason I'm finding it hard to let her go.

 

[Potatool]

Well, it's just that there aren't many girls that I'm interested in meeting, and most of the girls at my school don't match what I look for in terms of looks. In addition, a lot of them are taken, so that's also an issue.

Thanks for the help, by the way.

 

[Eternity]

Throw that mentality out too. You seem to be developing one itis for this specific girl. I know, i have been there before. Talk to as many "cute" girls as you can in H.S, they may end up being your F.B or future girlfriends if this girl doesn't work out. Remember, most boys your age have no clue how to attract girls, you my friend are in the top 10% with the knowledge you have at your feet. I would've killed for this site to be up when i started out in H.S