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Hey guys, made another approach at the gym today. Couldn’t really approach or even hit the gym since I’ve been on a ski trip the past few days with family friends, and since the gym is my social hour for now, it’s the only place where I can meet girls.
Btw, saw the post on X talking about how the best looking girls move to big cities. The person who couldn’t find any good looking women happened to be from central Jersey, very interesting because I’m front central Jersey, and can confirm that yeah, finding attractive women is very hard. You go to the city and take a walk, every 5 minutes you find a very attractive woman. Exceptions include Jersey shore during the summer months, and campuses during college months
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So before heading into the gym, I made it a point to approach at least one woman, preferably near the end of my workout.
I saw the girl that I approached near the beginning of my workout, and made a mental note to myself that if I saw her near the end of my workout, I would approach her and go for the ask. I didn’t want to do it then because my main priority was getting in a good workout and filming gym content.
Near the end of the workout, I see her walking by, and she looks at me for a couple of seconds, before looking away. Maybe she finds me attractive, I thought. I was also thinking of a good opener to use on her, when she goes to the cable machine that I was going to use next, which makes my life 100 times easier. So I quickly finish my set and open her, by asking her how many sets she has left. She moved back a little bit, and I decided to give her space, this is important info for later.
This is something I would normally do with anyone if I wanted to use a machine they were on. After a little bit of chit chat, I used the shoes compliment (still not patched) and from that, I was able to kickstart a conversation from there. I was able to tease her on a couple things in the gym, that was light, she wasn’t really laughing, more of a small giggle. I know the teases that I used weren’t anything offensive, one of them was calling her a “superset demon” after her completing a superset.
Also qualified her based on the fact that she was running a half marathon. She told me this after I told her I ran track in high school, and after hearing her goals, I said “that’s ambitious!” With a smile.
Anyways after more convo, I exchanged names with her, and went for the handclasp, which she was comfortable with.
She then did her set, and said, nice to meet you. I told her I had one more question for her, which was whether I should record my last set for my fitness channel. She offered to record it for me, which was a huge sign of compliance in my opinion without me even asking. Perfect, after I finish my set, I’ll thank her and go for the ask.
I do my set, thank her, then ask her if she’s doing much the next week. She said no, then I said “if I don’t die, and you don’t get cuffed within the next two days, let’s get some food or coffee.” She then said she had a bf, I asked her if she was going to follow my fitness account at least. She said yes, but only took a look at it and walked away. Clearly, she ain’t following me.
I think there was some good and bad to this approach, anyone see any areas where I can work on? I think my biggest issue was not generating enough comfort, since I believe the attraction was there. She slightly went back when I first talked to her, and she seemed more on the reserved side when talking. Although I did get some good compliance from her before the ask.
Btw, saw the post on X talking about how the best looking girls move to big cities. The person who couldn’t find any good looking women happened to be from central Jersey, very interesting because I’m front central Jersey, and can confirm that yeah, finding attractive women is very hard. You go to the city and take a walk, every 5 minutes you find a very attractive woman. Exceptions include Jersey shore during the summer months, and campuses during college months
[/SPOILER]
So before heading into the gym, I made it a point to approach at least one woman, preferably near the end of my workout.
I saw the girl that I approached near the beginning of my workout, and made a mental note to myself that if I saw her near the end of my workout, I would approach her and go for the ask. I didn’t want to do it then because my main priority was getting in a good workout and filming gym content.
Near the end of the workout, I see her walking by, and she looks at me for a couple of seconds, before looking away. Maybe she finds me attractive, I thought. I was also thinking of a good opener to use on her, when she goes to the cable machine that I was going to use next, which makes my life 100 times easier. So I quickly finish my set and open her, by asking her how many sets she has left. She moved back a little bit, and I decided to give her space, this is important info for later.
This is something I would normally do with anyone if I wanted to use a machine they were on. After a little bit of chit chat, I used the shoes compliment (still not patched) and from that, I was able to kickstart a conversation from there. I was able to tease her on a couple things in the gym, that was light, she wasn’t really laughing, more of a small giggle. I know the teases that I used weren’t anything offensive, one of them was calling her a “superset demon” after her completing a superset.
Also qualified her based on the fact that she was running a half marathon. She told me this after I told her I ran track in high school, and after hearing her goals, I said “that’s ambitious!” With a smile.
Anyways after more convo, I exchanged names with her, and went for the handclasp, which she was comfortable with.
She then did her set, and said, nice to meet you. I told her I had one more question for her, which was whether I should record my last set for my fitness channel. She offered to record it for me, which was a huge sign of compliance in my opinion without me even asking. Perfect, after I finish my set, I’ll thank her and go for the ask.
I do my set, thank her, then ask her if she’s doing much the next week. She said no, then I said “if I don’t die, and you don’t get cuffed within the next two days, let’s get some food or coffee.” She then said she had a bf, I asked her if she was going to follow my fitness account at least. She said yes, but only took a look at it and walked away. Clearly, she ain’t following me.
I think there was some good and bad to this approach, anyone see any areas where I can work on? I think my biggest issue was not generating enough comfort, since I believe the attraction was there. She slightly went back when I first talked to her, and she seemed more on the reserved side when talking. Although I did get some good compliance from her before the ask.
