Holding pattern woes

[Alexander]

Hey gurus, amateur here! I often find myself in a holding pattern with women. I got out in a holding pattern with one, gorgeous successful 31yo women, engineer works out etc and got myself out by cancelling and rescheduling because of a new girl which is AWESOME but I find myself enamoured with the new girl now. Gone on 4 dates now, first two we dove right in and (my bad I know) and then the pullback happened and I wasn’t able to adjust. Now I’m in a holding pattern with girl #2, we texted allll the time and now it’s sparse and flirting has stopped. I feel I’m being constantly tested as well as trip out when I think she’s back out on the streets after I had her so tight in my grasp. How do I adjust from texting all the time to regaining control and texting less without putting her into auto rejection? My value is low and my attainability are too high so I feel stuck

 

[Marcellus]

Can I ask you what is the purpose of all this texting all the time for? Are you her texting buddy or something from the looks of it? I'm not even bringing up the holding pattern.... it just seems like you're texting just for the sake of texting?

 

[Alexander]

Originally it was strictly to plan dates but between dates 1-3 due to quick back and forths it developed into an Avenue that built rapport.

 

[Marcellus]

And what's the goal NOW when texting her? Talking for just talking is fine but don't get lost and forgot the large picture is all I'm saying haha

Large picture = getting her out face to face so you can seduce her

 

[nicolascfl]

And what's the goal NOW when texting her? Talking for just talking is fine but don't get lost and forgot the large picture is all I'm saying haha

Large picture = getting her out face to face so you can seduce her

Yes it's better to go for a date rather than closing the number

 

[Alexander]

Thanks for the feedback, In the end it didn’t work out unfortunately. Much easier to just not burn dinner than to try and fix it after the fact, learning process.

 

[Marcellus]

Keep putting up the reps
You're doing great man