Hook up from Tinder

[Kenchin]

Back story: So I use the app tinder, and I'm in a college town so it works out great to meet alot of women. I wanted to get input on this current progress.

Summary:
So I meet this girl on the app and talked for a bit for like a week. Ask her to grab subways with me. She says sure she's free Tuesday (happened 3 days ago) @ 2:30 pm and gives me her cell. The next day I text her about were we are going to meet. She says she just found out she has to go to work @ 3:00 pm and has to go to the gym before that but would like to meet at a different time. I don't make a big deal out of it, shit happens, and say sure. She says she's free later tonight or another day. I say later that night works out, and she says she'll text me. So she texts me @ 9 pm ask if we still wanna meet. I text her we can kick it and watch Netflix with a photo of boxed wine. She's says that fine she doesn't mind hanging out.

So she gets their were drinking wine/ having "Texas Chainsaw" movie running in the back ground, were talking/ flirting for about 40 minutes in. Then we start to make out and then go up stairs, we made out more for a bit and then she gave me head. She said she didn't want to have sex cause she didn't know me enough yet. So she leaves @ about 2: 30 am.

Now I don't really know if that sufficets as a first date, but I read the "Second Date Article" and texted her the next day "Hey ___, had a great time last night. Hope you aren't tired today "

Haven't heard shit since then. This was yesterday afternoon when I sent this.
Any advice on this situation/ analyze what would be my best chess move from here

Goal: Wouldn't mind making it a casual hook up at the least, maybe gf.

 

[PinotNoir]

Just out of respect, I wouldn't post the picture. These forums are public. She is quite cute though.

Since I'm already posting here, I'll give my 2 cents....

First, you got pleasure and a connection, but she didn't get anything. Imagine if you had just made out with a girl and then licked her pussy and went home. It probably wouldn't be that great, depending on what you're into, and you'd have blue balls. Instead, I think you should have persisted more in giving her pleasure. Fingering, licking, and persisting more into intercourse. In this scenario, she called the shots and decided the ending (but at least the ending was happy).

Second, I don't like the "Hope you aren't tired today" line. That probably made her feel like a whore, since you didn't have sexual intercourse, but just a blowjob. If you had had sex, then it would have been fine.

I say wait a couple of a days, and then send a text like you would when trying to get a 1st date. Say something interesting that happened to you that day, along with a question either for a date or just a general question.

Question with date (if she doesn't like seafood, it may backfire; this is just an example):
"just devoured some oysters with tabasco sauce. delicious! want to grab some seafood this week?"

Question without date and some different wording:
"my taste buds are swimming in odd places these days.... ever had oysters with tabasco sauce?"

These are just examples.

The hard part here is that you don't want to sound like you're just trying to get a blowjob again. Even though this text may sound good, it has an undertone of that:

"we didn't finish Texas Chainsaw! want to come over and finish watching it tonight?"

At first, this text sounds fine. But, there's a small undertone that makes it sound like you just want her to come over and give you a blowjob again. In this scenario, I think any text trying to immediately get her to your place is going to sound like you're just wanting to use her for more head.

So instead, I think it will be best to try and get her out somewhere, then go back to your place (or see a show prior), and then persist to pleasuring each other.

If she doesn't answer this text, ignore her for a month. After a month, you can try sending one last text, but it's a shot in the dark.

 

[Kenchin]

Thanks for the feed back, I'll try it out.

P.S. i could understand the disrespect in the pic.
You would happen to know how to remove it, would?

 

[PinotNoir]

Oh, I forgot posts aren't editable after someone replies. You'll have to PM (private message) Franco or Chase or some other moderator on the forums. I think Franco checks the forums most regularly.

 

[GodsGift]

Pinoit Noor,

That girl you went out with would be considered a "fools mate" generally poeple who meet/interact and sleep together in less then 7 hours is considerd a one night stand. Since you didnt sleep with her my guess was she was trying to check you out as a person, If you ever get to go out with her again be sure to let me know.

G.G.