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Howdy gents,
After getting together with a girl on campus, dating for a while,things ending sourly and me swearing off campus dating for the 90192923th time...
I start Chase's Approach 4 Girls A Day challenge.
Day one went okay-ish. 4 approaches, 2 numbers. One of the 4 girls was married (and had the diamond ring to prove it) so I try not to feel to bad about myself.
The Approach
On day 2, after making 3 approaches (no numbers), I'm strolling in a mall to make the fourth one before calling it a day.
I spot a beautiful blonde girl walking towards me from the opposite direction in a nice turquoise dress.
She checks me out.
As we cross paths, I open.
ME: "Excuse me..."
HER: "Uhm, yes?"
ME: "That dress... beautiful."
HER: "Oh wow uhm thank you haha I got it yesterday actually!"
ME: "Great taste
"
HER: "You know I was hesitant to get it"
ME: "Why's that?"
HER: "Cuz it doesn't match any of my handbags"
I place two fingers on each of my eyes and slowly shake my head as if to say "I can't believe she hesitated because of a simple handbag matching concern phew"
HER: "Whaaaaat? It's important!!!!" *laughs*
ME: "Of course it is" (said in a tone that conveys the exact opposite in a playful way)
ME: "I'm James btw" (extend my hand)
HER: "Monica" (big smile)
ME: "So what are you up to today, besides looking gorgeous in that turquoise dress in this mall?"
HER: "Hahaha I'm going to meet my friend. We're trying this new pizza place."
ME: "Sounds good... look, we should totally get a cup of coffee together someday.
HER: "Oh but I can't, I'm meeting my friend!
(the number of times women think I'm asking them to join me instantly for coffee instead of my real request, which is a suggestion to meet at some point, baffles me. I thought it was the wording I was getting wrong but when I cold approached in Paris last summer and spoke french, same shit)
ME: "I mean...someday, whenever you're free."
HER: "Oh, yes, sure."
ME: "Cool, lemme grab your number.
HER: "Uhm do you have Instagram?"
ME: "I'm a grandpa, I don't use that. Was hard enough to get me to use WhatsApp. Unless you give me your mailing address and we write letters to each other?"
She laughs pretty hard and gives me her number.
Setting Up The Date
I send her an ice breaker text and a couple hours later, ask her for her schedule.
She replies saying she can meet up on Friday (which was in two days)
I say sure.
Thursday night, she texts me and asks if we can have dinner instead of coffee.
I say sure.
The Date
She shows up 15 minutes late, looking fine af in her black dress.
ME: "helllooooo pretty girl"
HER: "hey! so sorry for being late!"
ME: "No worries. Sooo, I see you got a matching handbag for tonight"
HER: (checks her handbag then looks at me and laughs) "Indeed! See, it matters!
ME: "Couldn't agree more"
We reach a nice small restaurant, one I had suggested.
Conversation flows naturally.
I won't write word for word here cuz that'd be pretty painful but I'll give an overall description of the conversation.
I deep dived her and learnt that she's starting out as a therapist. She explains why she chose that field, how it makes her feel to help people. I find all of that pretty interesting and qualify her for it. We spend some time speaking on the importance of empathy and how wrongly it is practiced.
At some point, she mentions the importance of being present when dealing with emotions and how she teaches that to her patients.
I see that as my chance to transition to sex talk.
Presence opens up the door for the importance of being present, the importance of being present in in-person interactions, especially for intimate relations, like having sex.
Transition is smooth af.
I make up a small gambit on how a lot of women have bad sex lives and one of the reasons is how un-present their partners are during the act. I vividly describe how, when a man is fully present during sex, this allows him to gauge exactly what the woman wants, his passion will be stronger, more impactful as he's fully in tune and in harmony with his partner. That fosters a better connection which translates to better sex.
She heartily agrees and adds her own views on it.
A while after, she mentions how there are key differences between men and women and that this knowledge is important during therapy sessions.
ME: "Agreed, men and women are different. In so many ways, actually and it's fascinating. I was actually reading this scientific paper last time about how different women orgasm from men. Did you know that women can experience 8 types of orgasms?"
HER: "Wow what really?"
ME: "Yes..."
And I pull the 8 types of orgasms gambit.
When In Doubt, Pull
I'm not sure if she's hot and horny yet but it's been 2.5 hours and it will soon get pretty late, which will make it harder to get her to agree to come over.
ME: "You know, before we call it a night, wanna try some Chinese tea I got? It's amazing and so soothing."
HER: "Ok sure but I gotta head back after"
ME: "Sure, won't take long"
My Place
My place is 10 minutes from the restaurant.
I can tell she's not too comfortable when we reach my apartment.
I show her some of the books I have. She notices a flyer for an upcoming Milonga and asks me what it is.
I explain to her that I dance tango sometimes and she of course finds it pretty cool.
I offer to show her a few basic steps. It becomes a fun tutorial where I teach her how to walk in tango (very simple stuff)
With her face close to mine in the close tango embrace, I stare in her eyes and feel her attraction for me.
We dance for 7-8 minutes until I sense it's the time to kiss. So I do and she kisses back.
We end up in bed and clothes come off.
She stops my hand on her panties and says that she is on her periods.
I assure her that I'm totally fine with that.
She doesn't wanna mess my bed, she says.
I dont mind, I say.
She insists that she doesn't wanna spread blood all over.
ME: "Look I don't mind but if you want, we can use a towel"
HER: "Yes, that'd be great!"
She seems relieved.
I get the towel and it is on.
After getting together with a girl on campus, dating for a while,things ending sourly and me swearing off campus dating for the 90192923th time...
I start Chase's Approach 4 Girls A Day challenge.
Day one went okay-ish. 4 approaches, 2 numbers. One of the 4 girls was married (and had the diamond ring to prove it) so I try not to feel to bad about myself.
The Approach
On day 2, after making 3 approaches (no numbers), I'm strolling in a mall to make the fourth one before calling it a day.
I spot a beautiful blonde girl walking towards me from the opposite direction in a nice turquoise dress.
She checks me out.
As we cross paths, I open.
ME: "Excuse me..."
HER: "Uhm, yes?"
ME: "That dress... beautiful."
HER: "Oh wow uhm thank you haha I got it yesterday actually!"
ME: "Great taste
"HER: "You know I was hesitant to get it"
ME: "Why's that?"
HER: "Cuz it doesn't match any of my handbags"
I place two fingers on each of my eyes and slowly shake my head as if to say "I can't believe she hesitated because of a simple handbag matching concern phew"
HER: "Whaaaaat? It's important!!!!" *laughs*
ME: "Of course it is" (said in a tone that conveys the exact opposite in a playful way)
ME: "I'm James btw" (extend my hand)
HER: "Monica" (big smile)
ME: "So what are you up to today, besides looking gorgeous in that turquoise dress in this mall?"
HER: "Hahaha I'm going to meet my friend. We're trying this new pizza place."
ME: "Sounds good... look, we should totally get a cup of coffee together someday.
HER: "Oh but I can't, I'm meeting my friend!
(the number of times women think I'm asking them to join me instantly for coffee instead of my real request, which is a suggestion to meet at some point, baffles me. I thought it was the wording I was getting wrong but when I cold approached in Paris last summer and spoke french, same shit)
ME: "I mean...someday, whenever you're free."
HER: "Oh, yes, sure."
ME: "Cool, lemme grab your number.
HER: "Uhm do you have Instagram?"
ME: "I'm a grandpa, I don't use that. Was hard enough to get me to use WhatsApp. Unless you give me your mailing address and we write letters to each other?"
She laughs pretty hard and gives me her number.
Setting Up The Date
I send her an ice breaker text and a couple hours later, ask her for her schedule.
She replies saying she can meet up on Friday (which was in two days)
I say sure.
Thursday night, she texts me and asks if we can have dinner instead of coffee.
I say sure.
The Date
She shows up 15 minutes late, looking fine af in her black dress.
ME: "helllooooo pretty girl"
HER: "hey! so sorry for being late!"
ME: "No worries. Sooo, I see you got a matching handbag for tonight"
HER: (checks her handbag then looks at me and laughs) "Indeed! See, it matters!
ME: "Couldn't agree more
"We reach a nice small restaurant, one I had suggested.
Conversation flows naturally.
I won't write word for word here cuz that'd be pretty painful but I'll give an overall description of the conversation.
I deep dived her and learnt that she's starting out as a therapist. She explains why she chose that field, how it makes her feel to help people. I find all of that pretty interesting and qualify her for it. We spend some time speaking on the importance of empathy and how wrongly it is practiced.
At some point, she mentions the importance of being present when dealing with emotions and how she teaches that to her patients.
I see that as my chance to transition to sex talk.
Presence opens up the door for the importance of being present, the importance of being present in in-person interactions, especially for intimate relations, like having sex.
Transition is smooth af.
I make up a small gambit on how a lot of women have bad sex lives and one of the reasons is how un-present their partners are during the act. I vividly describe how, when a man is fully present during sex, this allows him to gauge exactly what the woman wants, his passion will be stronger, more impactful as he's fully in tune and in harmony with his partner. That fosters a better connection which translates to better sex.
She heartily agrees and adds her own views on it.
A while after, she mentions how there are key differences between men and women and that this knowledge is important during therapy sessions.
ME: "Agreed, men and women are different. In so many ways, actually and it's fascinating. I was actually reading this scientific paper last time about how different women orgasm from men. Did you know that women can experience 8 types of orgasms?"
HER: "Wow what really?"
ME: "Yes..."
And I pull the 8 types of orgasms gambit.
When In Doubt, Pull
I'm not sure if she's hot and horny yet but it's been 2.5 hours and it will soon get pretty late, which will make it harder to get her to agree to come over.
ME: "You know, before we call it a night, wanna try some Chinese tea I got? It's amazing and so soothing."
HER: "Ok sure but I gotta head back after"
ME: "Sure, won't take long"
My Place
My place is 10 minutes from the restaurant.
I can tell she's not too comfortable when we reach my apartment.
I show her some of the books I have. She notices a flyer for an upcoming Milonga and asks me what it is.
I explain to her that I dance tango sometimes and she of course finds it pretty cool.
I offer to show her a few basic steps. It becomes a fun tutorial where I teach her how to walk in tango (very simple stuff)
With her face close to mine in the close tango embrace, I stare in her eyes and feel her attraction for me.
We dance for 7-8 minutes until I sense it's the time to kiss. So I do and she kisses back.
We end up in bed and clothes come off.
She stops my hand on her panties and says that she is on her periods.
I assure her that I'm totally fine with that.
She doesn't wanna mess my bed, she says.
I dont mind, I say.
She insists that she doesn't wanna spread blood all over.
ME: "Look I don't mind but if you want, we can use a towel"
HER: "Yes, that'd be great!"
She seems relieved.
I get the towel and it is on.
