FR+ House Party Escalation

[lingua]

I'm writing this as it happened 30 minutes ago. I had a long day and I didn't really feel like going to an acquaintance's house birthday party, but remembering Chase, I told myself to stop making excuses and pushed myself to go, hoping it wouldn't turn out to be a sausagefest like many others I've attended so far. Once I arrived at the party I could see that it wasn't a usual one, there were quite a few cute girls spread around the house. After I said hi to the host I found some friends and started talking to them while I looked around for an approach, I thought about doing a shotgun opening but there weren't enough girls to do that imho. After warming up with a couple of homely girls my friend pointed to a cute girl standing by herself by the corner, so we went to her and we started talking to her, I instantly realized that my friend and I should have discussed before approaching her because 2 guys 1 girl is quite awkward and I don't like someone else diluting the conversation. She was really interested from the start and I began deep diving her but it wasn't truly effective as my friend was trying to talk to her at the same time, I was considering just leaving and letting him take the conversation but I didn't see any other cute girls available so I tried my best to dominate the conversation and not show my irritation, after some time that felt like eternity my friend left and I was alone with the girl.

As we were talking in a relatively high traffic area my main objective was to find a quiet place to continue deep diving and escalating with her, so after talking to her some while I found a good place behind the room and placed two chairs. Fast forward 2 hours of rapport and drinking, we started making out and then she stopped and told me she was engaged I said "Woah I'm married to the Queen!" and we continued kissing. Then we sat down and I continued to listen to her and let her express herself while we made out and cuddled as much as we could in that situation where we weren't in a private room. She persisted that she was too old and I should find a "princess" then I told her that I don't understand what she means by that and I don't care about her age, we made out in regular periods afterwards and I'm quite sure she was ready for sex physically but mentally she still had some concerns so I got her softened up a lot by talking to her in a low deep voice and making her laugh once in a while. We did that for 2 hours or so, and she first jokingly asked for my ID and then started asking it again and again, bringing up the age difference which was about 7 years (even though I don't actually care about age, I really couldn't tell she was older than me), while I told her I don't care about her age and that my ID was at my house and if she really wanted to see it she'd come with me for 5 minutes but she declined. Towards the end, I was caressing her thighs and we were softly french kissing, she would get away when I kissed her strongly or when I moved my hands between her legs, she said she loved making out with a "young" man and having a good time but she didn't want to go too far this midnight. I said okay, let's make a deal and I'll cook you a fine meal and you'll do the same later on, then I took her info and we kissed for a bit more and then we hugged goodbye and I left.

She actually lived in one of the rooms where the party was hosted so I was watching out for the slightest implication to go to her room, in which she and I knew that we would definitely make love. I didn't ask her to go to her room or insist that she come to my house which is 5 mins away, I thought that would make her get too much into rejection as I was walking a thin line and preventing her from thinking about excuses as we cuddled and I talked to her with a calm deep voice.

I set up a date in which she comes over as I cook something and vice versa. I got her info. Now I like to think that she won't feel "guilty" when she wakes up tomorrow after the drinks and the partying, and I can set up a definite day and set up the date. Any comments/criticisms are welcome.

 

[maximus6004]

I think you did great. I would have persisted. What would you have done differently?

 

[lingua]

Last night I got some good feedback from texting and she was asking me if I enjoyed the party and whatnot. I also used callback humor and I asked her when she was free, she said she didn't have time that night, so I asked her how this evening sounded, also mentioning that I would do my part of the deal with my cooking. She asked me what I'd cook and then she said she would tell me tomorrow. Fast forward to 10 minutes ago, now she says she has to refuse our date, with zero excuses and a sorry at the end.

I'm getting a bit irritated with this outcome, I should have taken her to her room or mine that night when she was as wet as a drowned rat. Now I can either send her a message a couple of hours later saying it's fine while mentioning nothing about rescheduling, following Chase's flake management or just move on. The best lesson which I will really learn from is this burning sensation of losing a lay that was in my hands, moral of the story: if you're french kissing and you're caressing her pussy over her pants; take her to a bed.

 

[maximus6004]

Yupp, and you will have more instances like this. Like chase says always push for the close no matter what with the one step forward two steps back.

My guess is she probably had another date who she was curious about. Or something happened. Give it a couple days try again then next her with the burning thought to do your best not do that again.

your progress though my friend, very good keep it going!

 

[lingua]

Thanks for the feedback man, I've decided to relax for the time being. Last night she was flirting in the text messages as well so that leads me to believe that she's actually interested, but acting aloof and waiting for me to chase her strongly (if she doesn't have a better date waiting for her like you said). I'll wait four days and then ask her when she's free in the weekend, and if she knows what's good for her she'll come over for a fun night If not, I'll next her; otherwise I'd be spending too much energy thinking about her and time writing to her with nothing to gain.

 

[maximus6004]

I was just corrected in this myself. Your dilly dallying too much in your text messages like you, you are becoming a text buddy. She sees you as someone she can flirt with get a high from a big smile then go back to.ignoring you. It's not that she is trying to lead you on, she is getting good feelings from you which will earn you a one way ticket to friend zone.

If she flirts with you, flirt like a small amount and tell her to.meet you up. Either she will or won't depending.on her attraction level of you in which case you do not spend for days waiting and thinking about her. Then you act cool about it, say will she can message you when she is ready if you haven't got over her yet, and she still sees you as a strong male.