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How do I deal with girls walking away from a conversation in street game? (Sometimes it's a test sometimes it's not)

Merchant's-Kin

Space Monkey
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Since I'm doing street game, a lot of time I stop girls while standing and they get into a 30 seconds-2 minute conversation with me. But then they start walking away because I wasn't direct enough with my intent. I'm under the impression that it's not so good to give away your intent so early on because it gives all my power away

I can sense it when girls sense my intent and are walking away from me because they do not like me and are rejecting me. And the case when girls are genuinely rejecting me is not what I am referring to here.

I suppose if I really was very very attractive, they would not want to walk away but I'm just really not hitting a great attraction level because of my skills.

Of course there's the whole outcome independence thing where I let her walk away but of course I can't just let her walk away so yea

Can anyone share some ideas on how to stop a girl walking away that does not look needy?

So far the best I've done is to ignore her attempt to walk away, stand still and just carry on the conversation by asking new questions or giving new opinions. I personally find that giving any attention at all to the thought/possibility of her walking away is a display of neediness.

Would appreciate ideas from anyone :)
 

Glow

Tribal Elder
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post field rapports or we cannot give you much beyond general blah

Having chick crack ready when you see her preparing to exit is one key

standing firm grounded is not bad

but its smarter to solve it earlier which means to improve your pre-hook process

so give us details of the excahnge
 
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Merchant's-Kin

Space Monkey
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but its smarter to solve it earlier which means to improve your pre-hook process

Ok that makes sense. Thanks for the advice @Glow !

I just posted a field report where my pre-hook process is terrible.

The girl tries to walk away (sometimes more than once) from me in interactions 1, 2, and 4

This is the link to the field report if anyone is interested:

NOTE: The approaches I made in these report are terrible but that is genuinely the level I'm at on average.
If it is entirely about the pre-hook process prior to the girl walking away from me then based on what's in the field report I suppose pre-hook process prior to the girl walking away from me is what I will have to improve

However, I have a suspicion that sometimes the girls are rushing or they are not using to people just trying to have conversations with them.
It doesn't happen as much in this country as in Western countries though I won't say it doesn't at all happen.

Does it then come down to me not being direct and having not much choice but to be direct?
 
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