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I've was seeing a girl for 4 months, when we started dating she made it clear she didn't want to be in a relationship and I said i didn't want 1 either, just wanted to have fun. Everything was going great, we seen a lot of each other, on the phone all the time,I brought her out for dinner a lot, she used to stay over in mine quite a bit and I used to drop her to work most mornings as where she worked was close to mine. I treated her like a princess and her best friend told me I did.
Just before Xmas we had a massive fight and she became very off with me. I left it go a couple days and then I asked her what's going on? She said after that fight she lost a bit of interest and she not that into me that much anymore. The only thing was we were going away to Thailand for New Years. I apologised about the fight and she said she forgave me but still seemed off with me before we went away. On the day we were leaving for Thailand I asked her again what's going on and she replied she doesn't know anymore. I didn't say anything really, I couldn't, we were about to go on holiday together. I really liked this girl and didn't want to lose her, I didn't care that we weren't boyfriend/girlfriend, I just wanted to be the way it was before the fight. When we were in Thailand all that was on the back of my mind was what's going to happen when we go home, she's the best fun I had with someone in a long time and I didn't want it to stop. I couldn't enjoy my holiday over it and I think that made things worse.
When we got back from holiday she barley spoke to me for a week and a half, just real short texts and was always out with her friends. So I collected her after work 1 night, figured it's the only way to get to see her and find out what's going on. When we got back to her place we had a chat in my car and she said she doesn't want to date me anymore. She said we seen to much of each other and a few things that I annoyed her about. I excepted it and went home. I just got home and received a text off her asking me am I ok? I waited a while and replied with I don't know how I feel, I wanted to keep dating but if you don't I have to respect your decision. So we text for a bit longer, I finished the conversation saying I was going to bed.
Next day I receive a text off her as if nothing ever happened, she was just being her usual self! So I thought I'd play along for a bit and see what happiness. So we were texting all week, 1 night she came down to mine to watch a movie and I dropped her home after. Because we were texting and talking on the phone so much I thought mabey she made a mistake and she wants to keep seeing me. So I collected her again from work and when we got back to hers I asked again what's going on, we've being talking all week. She said she thinks she wants to be single and do her own thing for a while. So I was fine with that and asked her to stop texting me and calling me, I wasn't fair on me giving me false impressions. She said she wouldn't anymore but next day she calls again!!!
So again we text all week as if nothing ever happened.
A few days later I ran into her best friend while I was out getting breakfast. Her friend asked me what was I doing for the day and asked me do I want to go the beach with her, I figured why not I'm not doing anything else. I was on the beach with her friend for a couple hours and friend asked me what's going on with me and the girl I was dating. I said I have no idea and asked her?! She said she doesn't know aswell as the girl I was dating didn't tell her why we stopped (for some reason she likes to keep some stuff to herself). So I told her everything. She said she doesn't know what to do, I should put it out straight with the girl I was dating what I wanted and draw the line there.
So on Sunday I called her to see what she was doing and again she said she was about to go out with friends for the day. I told her to ring me when she's home and I'll call down that I wanted to talk to her. She asked what it was about and I said I'll tell you when I see you. She got angry and hung up. So I just sent a message saying call me when your on the way home, I'll call down, what I want to talk about will only take 10-15 mins of your time. Didn't get a text back all day Sunday, get 1 on Monday saying she doesn't want to be with me anymore, she wants to be friends for now. So I text back that's fine. Later on she rings me when she's at home but I didn't answer, I just text her about 2 hours after the missed call saying I was in the gym, what's up?
I like this girl a lot, as I said I still want to date her. But can someone please give me advise on what to do?
Do I blank her for a while hoping she realised what she had? Or do I be friends for now and wait for her to ask me to do something with her again?
How do I get her back?
Just before Xmas we had a massive fight and she became very off with me. I left it go a couple days and then I asked her what's going on? She said after that fight she lost a bit of interest and she not that into me that much anymore. The only thing was we were going away to Thailand for New Years. I apologised about the fight and she said she forgave me but still seemed off with me before we went away. On the day we were leaving for Thailand I asked her again what's going on and she replied she doesn't know anymore. I didn't say anything really, I couldn't, we were about to go on holiday together. I really liked this girl and didn't want to lose her, I didn't care that we weren't boyfriend/girlfriend, I just wanted to be the way it was before the fight. When we were in Thailand all that was on the back of my mind was what's going to happen when we go home, she's the best fun I had with someone in a long time and I didn't want it to stop. I couldn't enjoy my holiday over it and I think that made things worse.
When we got back from holiday she barley spoke to me for a week and a half, just real short texts and was always out with her friends. So I collected her after work 1 night, figured it's the only way to get to see her and find out what's going on. When we got back to her place we had a chat in my car and she said she doesn't want to date me anymore. She said we seen to much of each other and a few things that I annoyed her about. I excepted it and went home. I just got home and received a text off her asking me am I ok? I waited a while and replied with I don't know how I feel, I wanted to keep dating but if you don't I have to respect your decision. So we text for a bit longer, I finished the conversation saying I was going to bed.
Next day I receive a text off her as if nothing ever happened, she was just being her usual self! So I thought I'd play along for a bit and see what happiness. So we were texting all week, 1 night she came down to mine to watch a movie and I dropped her home after. Because we were texting and talking on the phone so much I thought mabey she made a mistake and she wants to keep seeing me. So I collected her again from work and when we got back to hers I asked again what's going on, we've being talking all week. She said she thinks she wants to be single and do her own thing for a while. So I was fine with that and asked her to stop texting me and calling me, I wasn't fair on me giving me false impressions. She said she wouldn't anymore but next day she calls again!!!
So again we text all week as if nothing ever happened.
A few days later I ran into her best friend while I was out getting breakfast. Her friend asked me what was I doing for the day and asked me do I want to go the beach with her, I figured why not I'm not doing anything else. I was on the beach with her friend for a couple hours and friend asked me what's going on with me and the girl I was dating. I said I have no idea and asked her?! She said she doesn't know aswell as the girl I was dating didn't tell her why we stopped (for some reason she likes to keep some stuff to herself). So I told her everything. She said she doesn't know what to do, I should put it out straight with the girl I was dating what I wanted and draw the line there.
So on Sunday I called her to see what she was doing and again she said she was about to go out with friends for the day. I told her to ring me when she's home and I'll call down that I wanted to talk to her. She asked what it was about and I said I'll tell you when I see you. She got angry and hung up. So I just sent a message saying call me when your on the way home, I'll call down, what I want to talk about will only take 10-15 mins of your time. Didn't get a text back all day Sunday, get 1 on Monday saying she doesn't want to be with me anymore, she wants to be friends for now. So I text back that's fine. Later on she rings me when she's at home but I didn't answer, I just text her about 2 hours after the missed call saying I was in the gym, what's up?
I like this girl a lot, as I said I still want to date her. But can someone please give me advise on what to do?
Do I blank her for a while hoping she realised what she had? Or do I be friends for now and wait for her to ask me to do something with her again?
How do I get her back?
