How do I hook up with a friend?

[trapsfordays]

Hey guys, just stumbled onto this forum and am looking for some advice. I'm into this Asian girl who recently came to my university (which is in the US). She's from China but has lived in the states for the last two years. I googled how to go for girls who're from China to see if there are any big differences compared to American girls and came across some articles on here. I ended up reading several other articles including, "The Secret to Hooking Up with Friends". Chase mentions the following at the end of that article:

"There's one big, important secret all the men who do great at hooking up with female friends of theirs know that all other men don't know:
They know not to become a fixture to women until they're prepared to strike."

Therein lies the problem. A few months ago we were texting about school when out of nowhere she starts telling me about some personal things she's feeling. I wasn't trying to learn more about her at this point, but since she started down that path I went with the flow and we ended up texting for 4 hours. I learned so much about her, a deep dive conversation if you will. The problem is I had a girlfriend at the time so I wasn't thinking about sleeping with her at all. Now three months later my girlfriend and I have broken up. I definitely like the girl at my university and want to get with her but I'm worried that I'll be stuck in the friendzone. Don't get me wrong, we're not best friends or anything, but we've hung out a few times and talk to/message each other about stuff that's going on with us. I read about Chase's method for sleeping with girls on the first date by deep diving and building a connection, but what do I do if I've already done that months ago. Anyways, do you guys think there's anything I can do at this point to improve my chances when I ask her out or should I just go for it? Thanks.

 

[Fuck This]

You have rapport, and a degree of trust. I doubt you are that deep in the friendzone.

If you can cook, invite her to your place and have her pick out the alcohol and a movie. She will get the insinuation and if she demurs you have your answer. Then suggest it to the NEXT girl on your list. You DO have a list of options don't you?

 

[Skjöldr]

I'm a beginner as well, so i won't promise what i'm saying here is 100% true. I would just ask her out, and it couldn't hurt making her deep dive to you in person about other things and even the same thing, because girls are emotional, so she will anchor those to you when you are together and build strong rapport. But yeah, there are probably other things you can make her deep dive about.

Cheers.

 

[Tony D]

Like Fuck This said, you need to have other options. At least for your inner game. At least she knows you had a girlfriend. That makes you infinitely more attractive than if she's never seen or heard of you being with another girl. I'd try to get her out for drinks, and then don't waste time escalating. Lots of touching, teasing, and try to get her home. Don't allow yourself to fall into her therapist mode. Keep it fun, light, and change the subject if she starts talking about her ex lovers, or school, or blah, blah. Go dancing, makeout, and sweep her off her feet. When she's like "But we're just friends!" say "I have enough friends."