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Been struggling quite a bit with street game, because I can't even stop a girl consistently while keeping without my heart racing etc (that's where I'm at). There isn't even opportunity to test openers because I can't stop girls consistenty. They just blow me off.
In my mind, the process for a side stop is something like this:
1. Walk down the street pretending to mind my own business and look far and ahead for girls I'm attracted to
2. See a girl that I'm attracted to from a distance and just walk normally and so far what I have been doing is avoiding eye contact. I can look in her direction but then I'll look beyond her instead of making eye contact
3. Act normal and pretend to be intending to walk past her as I walk past her
4. Summon the guts to do the side stop and do it immediately because if I wait too long the heat of proximity will fade away and I find I'm unable to smile genuinely
5. Prepare the sexual intent/mischief that is what allows me to put a smile on my face when I do the side stop
6. Actually execute the side stop with all the correct positioning. There are a couple of more steps involved in this
7. Deal with more fears that I have somewhere along the path of the above steps
If I do all 7 steps correctly, I stop the girl more than half the time but then my heart is racing I no longer have my cool and then whatever follows it's so easy to mess it up
I'm feel like I'm struggling because even in this there are just so many steps involved, just to stop the girl. I would assume the process for street game would be something like:
1. Perform the stop
2. Deliver the opener
3. Start some form of thread amplification
4. I haven't even thought about what's next
The main assumption I have is that if I just keep practising (and I'm aware that it has to be quality practise), let's say I do it with full quality 100-200 times, then if I've successfully done that is there going to be some kind of muscle memory that allows me not to think about this part of the process any more?
If I fk up in one of any of the above 7 steps to a side stop, or if the environment presents me some awkward situation then it's no longer a quality stop. And it's so easy to just mess up one of the above 7 steps. Sometimes it's not even my fault but the difficult environment. And then I just gradually lose social momentum after 3 fk ups and my mood just goes downhill?
Is it just practise and a large number of fk ups (like I'm guessing 300-400) that is what is necessary to achieve this milestone? Would appreciate any advice or ideas
In my mind, the process for a side stop is something like this:
1. Walk down the street pretending to mind my own business and look far and ahead for girls I'm attracted to
2. See a girl that I'm attracted to from a distance and just walk normally and so far what I have been doing is avoiding eye contact. I can look in her direction but then I'll look beyond her instead of making eye contact
3. Act normal and pretend to be intending to walk past her as I walk past her
4. Summon the guts to do the side stop and do it immediately because if I wait too long the heat of proximity will fade away and I find I'm unable to smile genuinely
5. Prepare the sexual intent/mischief that is what allows me to put a smile on my face when I do the side stop
6. Actually execute the side stop with all the correct positioning. There are a couple of more steps involved in this
7. Deal with more fears that I have somewhere along the path of the above steps
If I do all 7 steps correctly, I stop the girl more than half the time but then my heart is racing I no longer have my cool and then whatever follows it's so easy to mess it up
I'm feel like I'm struggling because even in this there are just so many steps involved, just to stop the girl. I would assume the process for street game would be something like:
1. Perform the stop
2. Deliver the opener
3. Start some form of thread amplification
4. I haven't even thought about what's next
The main assumption I have is that if I just keep practising (and I'm aware that it has to be quality practise), let's say I do it with full quality 100-200 times, then if I've successfully done that is there going to be some kind of muscle memory that allows me not to think about this part of the process any more?
If I fk up in one of any of the above 7 steps to a side stop, or if the environment presents me some awkward situation then it's no longer a quality stop. And it's so easy to just mess up one of the above 7 steps. Sometimes it's not even my fault but the difficult environment. And then I just gradually lose social momentum after 3 fk ups and my mood just goes downhill?
Is it just practise and a large number of fk ups (like I'm guessing 300-400) that is what is necessary to achieve this milestone? Would appreciate any advice or ideas
