Greetings!
I have a situation i am currently dealing with and i would very much appreciate some feedback on it.
Here it is:
Met this girl(19F), on our first date we had sex 3-4 hours into the date. Everything went fine and we started seeing eachother every 5-7 days with some very rare exceptions.
Fastforward to now we are at almost 5 months together but until last week we never had any relationship talk except she asking me +- 60days in if i had slept with any girl without a condom except for her. I said the truth (i hadn't) and she was okay with it and said that if i hooked up with someone else i had to use a condom since me and her were fucking since date 2 without one (and we still don't use).
She never hinted verbally (or i never noticed lol) for anything that indicated she wanted relationship progress.
Some days ago, as we are almost getting at the five month mark, we drinked a little bit together(we almost never drink) and she said she want to ask me something. Then proceeded to ask the "What are we" question. I then asked her what she meant with that and she told me she didn't know if we were fuck buddies or if i liked her. She insisted on asking if i liked her and i answered that i thought it was obvious and that of course i liked her. She then got noticeably happier and said something in the ways of "i don't permit myself to like people i date that don't like me", hiting that now she can open up to me more i guess.
Then we got to other subject and she insisted in coming back to it and then i finally asked "are you thinking about a serious relationship?" and she said something in the lines of "no no, easy there" in a way i felt more like she was insecure to ask for what a relationship and lose me then opposed to she meaning what she said.
After that i used a massager she had for massaging purpous only (lol) on her clit and she said she just had the biggest orgasm of her life. She had never used a sex toy before, and it was my idea. We then had sex.
Then she told me shortly after that she was up to a threesome with another girl and me if i wanted that and i wanted it too. But she told me that even her considering herself bissexual she never did anything with a girl before besides kissing and that she wanted to lose her "female virginity" and that she would feel insecure in me fucking other girl in front of her. But she said losing this "female virginity" had to be kind of special to her and that maybe she prefered to do it with a girl alone before we do the threesome. Then she proceeded to tell me i could fuck whoever i wanted in a way i felt the same as above, as if she told this as way of not looking desperate for commitment.
Finally, my question is: what does this girl even want? I really like her and i've been pretty much following what the guys at girlschase recommend us to do. My friend told me that she obviously want me to progress things to a relationship with her but that she kind of evaded it because she didn't want to lose me. And he said i should do it before she loses hope and think she can't get what she want.
The fact is i have three problems:
1) I want a serious relationship with her, but i don't know what i should do.
2) I didn't tell this to her but i was okay only with a threesome and not her beying alone with anyone else besides me, be that a girl or a guy.
3) I can't read her properly because i though she was hinting she wanted to get serious but then proceeded to the "easy there" and "you can hook up with whoever you want".
How should i proceed here?
I have a situation i am currently dealing with and i would very much appreciate some feedback on it.
Here it is:
Met this girl(19F), on our first date we had sex 3-4 hours into the date. Everything went fine and we started seeing eachother every 5-7 days with some very rare exceptions.
Fastforward to now we are at almost 5 months together but until last week we never had any relationship talk except she asking me +- 60days in if i had slept with any girl without a condom except for her. I said the truth (i hadn't) and she was okay with it and said that if i hooked up with someone else i had to use a condom since me and her were fucking since date 2 without one (and we still don't use).
She never hinted verbally (or i never noticed lol) for anything that indicated she wanted relationship progress.
Some days ago, as we are almost getting at the five month mark, we drinked a little bit together(we almost never drink) and she said she want to ask me something. Then proceeded to ask the "What are we" question. I then asked her what she meant with that and she told me she didn't know if we were fuck buddies or if i liked her. She insisted on asking if i liked her and i answered that i thought it was obvious and that of course i liked her. She then got noticeably happier and said something in the ways of "i don't permit myself to like people i date that don't like me", hiting that now she can open up to me more i guess.
Then we got to other subject and she insisted in coming back to it and then i finally asked "are you thinking about a serious relationship?" and she said something in the lines of "no no, easy there" in a way i felt more like she was insecure to ask for what a relationship and lose me then opposed to she meaning what she said.
After that i used a massager she had for massaging purpous only (lol) on her clit and she said she just had the biggest orgasm of her life. She had never used a sex toy before, and it was my idea. We then had sex.
Then she told me shortly after that she was up to a threesome with another girl and me if i wanted that and i wanted it too. But she told me that even her considering herself bissexual she never did anything with a girl before besides kissing and that she wanted to lose her "female virginity" and that she would feel insecure in me fucking other girl in front of her. But she said losing this "female virginity" had to be kind of special to her and that maybe she prefered to do it with a girl alone before we do the threesome. Then she proceeded to tell me i could fuck whoever i wanted in a way i felt the same as above, as if she told this as way of not looking desperate for commitment.
Finally, my question is: what does this girl even want? I really like her and i've been pretty much following what the guys at girlschase recommend us to do. My friend told me that she obviously want me to progress things to a relationship with her but that she kind of evaded it because she didn't want to lose me. And he said i should do it before she loses hope and think she can't get what she want.
The fact is i have three problems:
1) I want a serious relationship with her, but i don't know what i should do.
2) I didn't tell this to her but i was okay only with a threesome and not her beying alone with anyone else besides me, be that a girl or a guy.
3) I can't read her properly because i though she was hinting she wanted to get serious but then proceeded to the "easy there" and "you can hook up with whoever you want".
How should i proceed here?
