I’m a teen guy, been talking to this girl that came on holiday with me with a few other friends for the past week or so. I’ve been asking her to go out alone on walks at night, and she always says yes. The other night, I found a way to hold her hand, by pretending I was giving her something then holding on to her hand. She wasn’t uncomfortable or anything but she did mention during it that she doesn’t usually touch people. The vibe was still there after that, we still were talking and laughing etc. We only held hands and walked for maybe like 10 seconds.
Then last night while we were walking together alone, I decided to ask to hold her hand. She kinda smiled and said she’d think about it, then said no. I asked a few more times in a playful way, then decided to leave it alone. She said it wasn’t because of me, but that she was afraid that she’d make it all awkward and mess it up (which she thinks she did last time). She often talks about how she has issues interacting with people, and I’m aware of how averse to touch she is and that she’s very insecure about her social skills.
She still talks and comes over since then, so I’m genuinely not certain what position I’m in? Do I have a conversation to find out how she feels about me? Do I try progress in another way? Do I try something else that’s less “intimate”? Do I just forget about her and move on?
I wish I could find a way to gauge how she feels about me without asking directly, because I feel asking directly would kill anything we might have.
Then last night while we were walking together alone, I decided to ask to hold her hand. She kinda smiled and said she’d think about it, then said no. I asked a few more times in a playful way, then decided to leave it alone. She said it wasn’t because of me, but that she was afraid that she’d make it all awkward and mess it up (which she thinks she did last time). She often talks about how she has issues interacting with people, and I’m aware of how averse to touch she is and that she’s very insecure about her social skills.
She still talks and comes over since then, so I’m genuinely not certain what position I’m in? Do I have a conversation to find out how she feels about me? Do I try progress in another way? Do I try something else that’s less “intimate”? Do I just forget about her and move on?
I wish I could find a way to gauge how she feels about me without asking directly, because I feel asking directly would kill anything we might have.