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We all know that as men our sex drive and competitive drive are the 2 most important motivators for us when it comes to getting what we want.
When I was younger I used to be borderline addicted to video games. I'm talking about 12+hrs a day whenever I could.
Whenever I would step back and compare myself to others, it always slightly depressed me to see how much better they were doing, whether it be socially or in some other way. I coped with this by suppressing this competitive instinct by telling myself "I don't need to be better than them" and just continuing to mindlessly play. I told myself that "being competitive" makes relationships less genuine and ruins the connection.
This conditioned me to suppress my basic competitiveness and seems to leak in some parts of my life. Even now at 18 when I've heavily reduced my gaming. While my competitive instinct has improved a lot over time the friends I hang out with are much more competitive than I am.
As in, they tend to display higher value in more obvious ways (which I've noticed I tend to not do at so I don't seem like a braggart. yet it still gets my friends some results) they start to work harder when they see someone doing better than them, feel more entitled, impose their frame more, defend their "honor" more when they feel insulted, etc. One of them is more disciplined than me as well.
And it's not like I'm scared of doing those things. Yes, when I try to force myself to there's a little awkwardness and tension within myself. But that's just because I don't do it often.
I don't think it's low testosterone either. I'm ambitious, have big goals, go to the gym and lift heavy weights every day, and I'm horny as fuck. The problem is I just don't feel as required to do these things because of conditioning.
How can I make myself be more competitive?
When I was younger I used to be borderline addicted to video games. I'm talking about 12+hrs a day whenever I could.
Whenever I would step back and compare myself to others, it always slightly depressed me to see how much better they were doing, whether it be socially or in some other way. I coped with this by suppressing this competitive instinct by telling myself "I don't need to be better than them" and just continuing to mindlessly play. I told myself that "being competitive" makes relationships less genuine and ruins the connection.
This conditioned me to suppress my basic competitiveness and seems to leak in some parts of my life. Even now at 18 when I've heavily reduced my gaming. While my competitive instinct has improved a lot over time the friends I hang out with are much more competitive than I am.
As in, they tend to display higher value in more obvious ways (which I've noticed I tend to not do at so I don't seem like a braggart. yet it still gets my friends some results) they start to work harder when they see someone doing better than them, feel more entitled, impose their frame more, defend their "honor" more when they feel insulted, etc. One of them is more disciplined than me as well.
And it's not like I'm scared of doing those things. Yes, when I try to force myself to there's a little awkwardness and tension within myself. But that's just because I don't do it often.
I don't think it's low testosterone either. I'm ambitious, have big goals, go to the gym and lift heavy weights every day, and I'm horny as fuck. The problem is I just don't feel as required to do these things because of conditioning.
How can I make myself be more competitive?
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