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How do I stop liking girls that obviously don't like me?

Doomer

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It's like a disease, like I can't accept reality and have to prove that they could like and start fantasizing about it and then feel like shit when reality hits. How do I stop this?
 
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It's like a disease, like I can't accept reality and have to prove that they could like and start fantasizing about it and then feel like shit when reality hits. How do I stop this?

My friend, this comes from a place of low self esteem. When you value yourself at least as much as you value others, it's easy to ignore specific instances of a girl (or anyone) not liking you. But when you are very low, you feel like any amount of scorn can put you in a tailspin and you must do something about it. It's the same as the guy who starts swinging over the least amount of disrespect, he is in self esteem 'survival mode'.

To have high self esteem, one must learn to enjoy being the person they are and the world they live in. Getting to that point is not always the same for each person, but meditation, exercise, and getting ones life in order helps.
 

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Agree with the other responses. I feel like if you are high self-esteem, the thought of a girl not liking you doesn't happen. I'm reminded of a Zan Perrion idea. he said something like

"a boy spends his time wondering 'does she like me? Does she like me?' Whereas a man keeps thinking to himself 'do I like her? Do I like her?' "

Check out his book The Alabaster Girl for more ideas like that one :cool:

Also Chase has an article on self-esteem (it's good), if you feel like you want to boost yours.
 

Doomer

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Agree with the other responses. I feel like if you are high self-esteem, the thought of a girl not liking you doesn't happen. I'm reminded of a Zan Perrion idea. he said something like

"a boy spends his time wondering 'does she like me? Does she like me?' Whereas a man keeps thinking to himself 'do I like her? Do I like her?' "

Check out his book The Alabaster Girl for more ideas like that one :cool:

Also Chase has an article on self-esteem (it's good), if you feel like you want to boost yours.
I actually read that book some quite a while, and you're right that's a much better mindset to have.

I'm guessing the article is this one? Will check it out, thanks
 
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