Socializing How do you Game Girls at a Sex Club Party?

[AdamC]

I can explain how I got this possible Sex Club Party opportunity later but for now I am curious how you Successfully Game Girls at a Sex Club Party who aren’t there as Swinger Couples…

I’ve gone to two parties already as a Voyeur Guest like a year ago, I mingled and had polite small talk with a lot of people - but didn’t really meet anyone, mainly since there were more Swinger Couples than singles. And I’m not really into Sharing Partners and Public Sex, although it was interesting watching what little graphic stuff I did see downstairs.
Now, if you go upstairs into the Play Rooms then you can see shit. But they might expect you to join in and Play.

And this is just a quirky unique opportunity that truly fell on me (through work actually) - so I’m trying to make the most of it coming from my pretty “square” background.

Who I DID Like, and wanted to talk to an Game were the unbelievable Go Go Dancers. And the main Madam at the entrance. She’s a mid-thirties Tall Voluptuous Brunette who you could literally mistake as a Female CEO in the outside world. Course she was dressed provocatively in black lace etcetera…

This group is surprisingly High Class. Attendees are mainly from West Hollywood, Hollywood Hills, and Beverly Hills. To get into Group that promotes these Parties it is invitation only - obviously - and you have to do an interview to make sure you aren’t a creeper.

I haven’t gone to any Parties recently, mainly because they aren’t really offering any Solo Male tickets. I mean it says they are Sold Out every time a Party is posted. Feels like it’s kinda rigged now. I asked them about a Year ago, and they said I could buy a Couples Ticket for double the price, and use it as a Solo.

I kinda felt like they were “shaking my leg” as my Father would put it. And haven’t gone since.
I did attend a couple of their “sex classes” meet-ups, like the Rope Tying one - Shibari
That was interesting and I did meet some regular girls, who had previously gone to the parties.

Girls who you would think would be totally the next door girlfriend types - kinda wild!!!
See if just got an email from them saying that - they haven’t seen me as a member lately and wanted to show me their events coming up. Like the main big Halloween one.
So before I follow up with them. And try and see why I can’t get a solo male ticket..

I’d like to know - Successfully Game Girls at a Sex Club Party?

Like those awesome Go Go Dancers.
The Madam
And then dealing with the public sex dynamics, if you aren’t a public sex guy…

But, I first have to reconnect with them and figure out how I can attend as a Solo Male, if I am going to do their $19/Month subscription plus Tickets for the door.

If I can’t go as a Solo Male - what’s the point??
I don’t have girls who I’d go with as a couple. And taking a girl to a Sex Club Party could be a whole post on its own!

I think Alek Rolstad might have some thoughts on this subject matter - but I’m not sure how to “at” him here…

And this could probably expand into a conversation about “The Secret Society” which is very interesting and unique to someone who comes from more of a square or conservative background as I do…

 

[topcat]

I haven’t gone to any Parties recently, mainly because they aren’t really offering any Solo Male tickets. I mean it says they are Sold Out every time a Party is posted. Feels like it’s kinda rigged now. I asked them about a Year ago, and they said I could buy a Couples Ticket for double the price, and use it as a Solo.

If they made it easy for single guys to go, the parties wouldn’t be fun anymore. Hence the expensive ticket.

Don’t go asking them why, you’ll just confirm that you’re not the sort that needs to be there. Chill and nonchalant always. And polite.

I’ve been to a few of these parties. Always better if you go with a female “friend”. I’ve always gone with an FWB, always had fun, i just fuck her there. She might get some action with a girl or a dude and so might you..

If you don’t like public sex then it’s probably not for you.

On gaming the madame or the paid workers, don’t have much advice for you there as that’s probably what a lot of the green guys want to do, and i doubt they get laid. Probably best to delay laid back value there, as in the people their know you and like you, and be friendly and non-needy with your “targets”. Wait for them to show interest (if they ever do) and subtly seduce from there.

You better know what you’re doing as any fuckup will get you barred from that community and probably have repercussions for you professionally given you’re invite was via a professional connect.

TLDR: Be laid back, enjoy the ambience, don’t be thirsty and bring a girl if you can..

 

[Derek da man]

I’d like to know - Successfully Game Girls at a Sex Club Party?

I've not been to such a party but know a few girls that have/do, they are still girls like all others, although you're much less likely to trigger ASD you still need to calibrate to each individual. Some girls will be very straight forward, some will need a lot more comfort when you meet them for the first time.

Like those awesome Go Go Dancers.

I've dated several girls that were stage dancers and burlesque dancers in their younger days. Being on stage is just a performance/act. When they are off stage they aren't much different to any other girls. Next time you see Go Go Dancer look closely, she still has wrinkles and/or imperfections in her body. She'll still have similar insecurities about herself even though she has enough confidence to get on stage and dance.

The Madam

Can't comment on this any more than it's probably just a role she is playing, and probably earning from. She probably enjoys the dynamic for a period but it's unlikely that she's like that 24/7, and the other side to her isn't much different to anyone else. All of us have different personas in different environments, work groups, social friends groups, close friends, girlfriends, etc. For her it's probably just another image.

It's very easy to put girls on pedestals and think they are unobtainable, but they are just as obtainable as any other girl providing you can make a personal connection. That can be more of a challenge when she's in a role such as a Madam or a Dancer or the likes. It's much the same as anyone in a "service" role. Take a barmaid, she'll have barriers up against guys trying to pick her up, but if you can get past them and make a personal connection then she's as available as any other girl. It's very much about calibration and being a cool, attractive, interesting guy. Most girls find interesting, funny guys with good communication skills far more attractive than a guy who is physically attractive and dresses in a cool way. I've found this to be the case with the 3 dancers I've dated. I guess this is because they have access to very physically attractive guys, other dancers usually, who aren't all that attractive beyond their looks.

When I see a girl that looks amazing, whether she's performing or just at a club/bar, I tend to look at them and think "I wonder if she'd be fun to hang out with?" which breaks my bubble as to what they look like. If I don't really enjoy the connection and someones company then I get bored very quickly and move on. For me it's not about the sex, it's about having fun with them. That fun may often have a sexual context but not always.

 

[AdamC]

Ahha, interesting.

Topcat - If I had a "friend with benefits" yes I would take her and try to pick up another girl for a threesome, wouldn't be so hot about she and another dude, but, I don't have a "friend with benefits."

About the ticket - when a party is introduced you can purchase male, female solo tickets, or couple tickets, but since last year it seems as if the male solo tickets are rigged so it says they are already sold out even before the party is put online. I brought this up with them, and they said - ohh special for you, we'll let you buy a couples ticket for twice the price and come as a solo male - it felt as if they were patronizing me, so I just thanked them and said I had found other plans.

Yes, I get they don't want a sausage party, and it's more of a swingers type of thing - where they want new females to swing with...

Yeah, I don't even really care for "public displays of affection," however this is a unique opportunity, and perhaps maybe more fantasy than reality in finding one of the very attractive go-go dancers or something similar to pull back to my place. But I'm not sure it works that way. In fact, I think it's more like - "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" meaning that whoever you Fuck there - it's fun for there, but after the party she goes on about her business as if nothing happened. Perhaps back home to Billy her Boyfriend who has no idea what went on??

Derek da man - yeah, I guess it is kind-of "Industry Game" with the very attractive Go-Go Dancers.
I will be asking about Industry Game for an event I have to go to in mid-October...
I imagine you use what was written about the "Perfect 10 Yellow OnlyFans Girl" back in June - who is my benchmark now, in terms of don't compliment or open the girl on obvious traits. So the Dancers are topless but not totally nude. Not sure how you'd open them??
In Day Game I almost always use a piece of fashion as an Opener - "That's a wicked jacket, I'm not sure if I love it or hate it..."
But how do you open here - "Those are awesome boobs, I'm not sure if I love them or hate them..." "Or, I'm not sure if I'd spend more time on your nipple or side and underboob..."
JUST Kidding - I wouldn't open that way - although it did sound funny writing it out!

So Yeah, not sure how you open them. And YES - obvious focus on the connecion and would they even be cool to hang out with for an extended period of time.

In fact I have incorporated that mindset into my Day Game, especially with these hiccups with 9 and 10 girls for some reason I still get intimidated by. It's like - okay she's extremely attractive - but wait - let's approach her and see if she's even cool to talk to for like 5 minutes or so...

So yes, I did get this opportunity through my work, and I'll probably tell the story on this thread, but can't right now.
But NO, getting barred, on not received well won't ultimately hurt me professionally.
Although like anything else, I'd rather leave something "on top" than fall from grace and be asked to leave...