1. Why did you wait so long to ask her out ? Why did it take a month ? You should aim to ask girls out pretty quickly, I don’t know if these are social circle girls or cold approach. Social circle is the only one where I could see slow game, but every other form of dating comes from you asking for a date, that’s how you get the contact details, you get it from asking if they want to grab something with you.
2. You want to switch your calling and texting. Chase has an article talking about this. He says if you keep texting or calling and she doesn’t respond to one try another method instead of building up the no responses from just doing one.
Maybe she would have answered you through text. If she couldn’t text, then yeah, I guess you had no option but to call.
On the other girl; don’t take a maybe. When a girl says that it means to drop her mostly. She should say she can or she can’t, no such thing as maybe.
After saying let me know, you should have never texted her out again, essentially you put the ball in her court and you texted her back.
Don’t accept “maybe” or “we’ll see” it means she’s bullshiting. She either can see you or she can’t that week. You ask them what their week looks like and when they would be free to grab a drink or a bite.. You should stop getting those responses, if she says that, you could either say what you said about letting you know and leaving it, or you just say cool and then you try to reschedule another week.
There’s different methods to handling this, you don’t have to cut them off exactly, but I would just not focus on women like that. Doesn’t hurt to try different methods tho to build up reference points.
3. No point for idle chit chat. You should have an objective mostly with asking chicks out. You hit her up and she will talk, but what is the reason ? The conversation could go no where fast and might bore her.
Is this girl from social circle ? If it is, then I could see no harm trying to just talk here and there if you’re not comfortable asking her out again.
But if a date doesn’t work out, you should mostly talk or text to get a date another time. If you want to chit chat, I think phone is better than text, you can feel emotions better.
It’s more of a mindset thing as well, girls know that meeting up makes the courtship go faster. I don’t feel pushy at all, I’m about my business.
If you truly feel pushy, do what makes you feel comfortable, but you should try to still ask her out a few times. Chit chat that goes no where doesn’t really do anything for you, but if this is a social circle girl, then it isn’t bad to chit chat and ask her out different times.
I recommend it in that situation, yes. If you see her a lot, you don’t want to keep asking her to meet up, if it’s over the phone, you should focus on the meet if you don’t see her in person.
There’s a lot of articles on here about persisting and how to do it the right way.
