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Hey guys,
I've been been joining new social circles in the recent months and have met tons of different women by sheer numbers game. Got a bunch of them out on dates, no difficulty following through on the routine I developed, but none of them really excited me by the end of the night. So much so that I started slacking off and taking a break with all interactions.
But by complete chance I came across a girl that ticks off a lot of the boxes I am looking for - funny, spontaneous, interested in all the things I'm interested in, great career. Works just 10 mins away from my place (by sheer coincidence) so logistics are absolutely perfect for future considerations. We shouldn't even have met, she was absolutely aloof and isolated in the social setting, by some miracle I got her off the train and into my car that night within one stop. It was a little too late for any action as she had to wake up really early but we did make some plans for other days.
Only problem is, I'm getting too excited about her. She's an enigma. She's super engaged when we're face to face, has absolutely no resistance following me around for anything. I feel like I've built a lifetime of experience with her (I keep moving her to new places to do new stuff). But when the night is over, it's really hard to schedule something else. Eventually when I do manage to get her out, things go extremely well again.
The latest interaction was a date on Thu night with plans to do a group activity on Sat but she cancelled on Sat and didn't reply until Sun asking if I went for the group thing anyway. I've ignored that message as I don't want to reward her actions but I'm fighting really hard trying not to ping her to make new plans. My personal read is that she's shopping around with others as well which is perfectly fine as we're not in any commitment but she hasn't admitted to seeing anyone else either.
Typing this out has helped me see that I'm breaking all the rules of chase framing but I can't seem to help it as none of the girls I've met in the past couple of years have even come close to this girl. Every part in me knows I need to dial back on the investment and flip the control dynamics but no matter what I do I can't shake off the fear of letting this one slip away.
Thoughts appreciated.
I've been been joining new social circles in the recent months and have met tons of different women by sheer numbers game. Got a bunch of them out on dates, no difficulty following through on the routine I developed, but none of them really excited me by the end of the night. So much so that I started slacking off and taking a break with all interactions.
But by complete chance I came across a girl that ticks off a lot of the boxes I am looking for - funny, spontaneous, interested in all the things I'm interested in, great career. Works just 10 mins away from my place (by sheer coincidence) so logistics are absolutely perfect for future considerations. We shouldn't even have met, she was absolutely aloof and isolated in the social setting, by some miracle I got her off the train and into my car that night within one stop. It was a little too late for any action as she had to wake up really early but we did make some plans for other days.
Only problem is, I'm getting too excited about her. She's an enigma. She's super engaged when we're face to face, has absolutely no resistance following me around for anything. I feel like I've built a lifetime of experience with her (I keep moving her to new places to do new stuff). But when the night is over, it's really hard to schedule something else. Eventually when I do manage to get her out, things go extremely well again.
The latest interaction was a date on Thu night with plans to do a group activity on Sat but she cancelled on Sat and didn't reply until Sun asking if I went for the group thing anyway. I've ignored that message as I don't want to reward her actions but I'm fighting really hard trying not to ping her to make new plans. My personal read is that she's shopping around with others as well which is perfectly fine as we're not in any commitment but she hasn't admitted to seeing anyone else either.
Typing this out has helped me see that I'm breaking all the rules of chase framing but I can't seem to help it as none of the girls I've met in the past couple of years have even come close to this girl. Every part in me knows I need to dial back on the investment and flip the control dynamics but no matter what I do I can't shake off the fear of letting this one slip away.
Thoughts appreciated.