How fast is too fast?

[Maxz]

Ok, so I met this girl today in class. We exchanged numbers and I texted her by giving her my name. I was thinking about texting her again this evening asking for a meet up. Would that be signs of desperation or would that be me just moving super fast seeing how those who hesitate end up losing.

But since she's social circle, class wise. I do not know how she might react to such a move. And I should have just asked her out in person, but I fumbled the ball at that end. Replies would must definetly be welcomed.

 

[Garrett]

Maxz,

Good thing you mentioned she's social circle, because now you'll come to an understanding of something important...

If the girl is social circle, you generally want to give it like 3 days after you get her number to propose a meetup. You're spot on about coming off too strong/fast if you message a girl who's social circle the same day trying to propose a meetup; she's known you for a while and it comes as a bit of a surprise. First you got her number after waiting a while to do so, then you want to meetup right away, it's a bit too much for her in such a short period of time. Give it a few days, then she may grow curious as to whether or not you'll be one of those guys who hits up her phone all the time. Realizing that you aren't like that, she may grow a bit intrigued when you end up asking her out. Ideally, it would have been easier to ask her how her schedule is when you got her number, so she knows your intentions for getting her number, but she'll realize eventually once you ask her out so no big deal.

If you meet a girl via cold approach, you want to strike while the iron's hot. So if you ever try daygame, text her your name shortly after meeting her, then the next day, send her another text, regardless of if she responds or not and ask her out.

Hope that helped,
Garrett

 

[Maxz]

Hey Garrett, thanks for the heads up. Reply appreciated.

Figured if I texted her today that would have been super fast and sought of desperation city. But I would love to hear more replies and see what others think on this one.

These days, follwing Chase advice I try to move super fast with every woman. But I felt this scenario might be mightly fast.

 

[Light]

Hey Maxz,

They trick is to make it seem natural, so that you don't come across as an obsessive freak.
If you only got her number today, and you text her a ice breaking text to let her know its your number thats fine.
However if you follow up with another text saying to meet up then that is definitely freaky. Its just not natural.. I mean.. don't you have anything else to do in your life? Can you see where I'm going with this? - An attractive man is one who has goals in life and is always busy doing the "Important things".
Thats how you make the girls chase you and not the other way round.

However, if you happen to see her again the next day in class, and you get into a normal conversation with her, then you can ask her out there and then. That is normal, because it is natural. You're already talking to her, building rapport.. its only natural to ask her out aswell.

So stay natural, and stay cool.