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I want this post to be fresh air in this ecosystem, especially for all you incels here that even though you know some theory, have not been able to put it into practice and actually get result.
This post is going to solve this for you. (and if not I would LOVE your feedback/critizism)
This will also be a contribution to Girlschase.com as I discovered this and started reading 10 years ago and are grateful for everything i have learned here, and the mindset that has been instilled within me.
So lets dive in!
I am 14 years old and sitting in my bed with my computer surfing the internet. I see this ad pop up about being confident socially and especially with women and I do not usually click on ads, but this time I click on it. And there is an opportunity to download an e-book for free that teaches how to be good socially and with women. I struggle with social anxiety, and being 14 years old, my hormones are exploding and the only thing on my mind these days besides school is how to get a girlfriend!
So I opt-in for the e-book. Keep in mind, I also have dyslexia which means basically that i struggle with reading and writing, picture yourself rolling down a small hill and while being super dizy trying to read something, that is how it is to have dyslexia. And I have concentration problems called ADD, it's like ADHD without the H=hyperactiveness. Also, Norwegian is my first language and english is my second.
So I get my english-norwegian translation book out from the book shelf and start to read the e-book, translating most of the words.
In the introduction I read something that changed my life forever.
"You might think that something is wrong with you because you are not as good socially as the friends around you, but know this, being social is a skill. It is a skill, just like riding a bike, swimming or doing mathematics."
And as I am reading this sentence, I start to have tears rolling down my face as I am thinking "Well I have learned how to swim, I have learned how to ride a bike… maybe just maybe I can learn how to be good socially as well!". I can see a new version of myself, I can see myself being charismatic and confident socially. It is such a powerful vision that the tears just keep coming. For so many years I believed that there was something wrong with me, I literally believed that earth was not a place for me. Just three years earlier I actually tried to commit suicide.
Growing up through school we were 4 people in my class, 3 girls and me. The girls were doing well in school, but me with my dyslexia and concentration problems were doing terribly, so I did not have any confidence in academics. Also because we were so few people in our class we were having gym with the people that was older than me. Naturally I was comparing myself to them and also not being especially gifted as an athlete with my terrible hand-eye coordination and mediocre stamina. It was safe to say that I did not have any confidence in that area too. And socially as you already know, I was a mess… It was just like some people would have normal social antennas and being able to navigate the social world to a more or less extent, I was unable to do this. Times where you were suppose to laugh I did not understand and looked like a question mark when all the people were laughing… other times when you were not supposed to laugh I laughed. I could rarely defend myself verbally, which the girls in my class found hilarious and often took advantage off… When I was tired of the bullying, because I could not stand up for myself verbally, I regressed to a more primitive way of communicating which was aggression. Then of course the teachers would come in and blame me, criticise and yell at me. This led me to become the problem child for the teachers and they would often just blame me for just about anything that happened even though I had nothing to do with it.
It is safe to say that growing up, I was chronically unconfident. To the degree that I felt alienated from people and this world. This was the reason behind my attempt to quit life at 11 years old. So this is where I am coming from, so wherever you are in your life and whatever challenges you have on your plate. I was at a place where I almost took my own life and I was able to turn things around. And so can you, with the secrets I am going to share with you.
I want to thank the person who wrote that e/book i stumbled over whn i was 14 years old. I do not know who this person is, the ebook is long gone and i do not remember the title of the ebook. I only remember that he talked about 7 types of women and when you understand what type they are you make your game plan accordingly. To be honest I did not get so much out of that content, but the introduction was what changed my perception. Suddenly after any social situation, in stead of being bitter i started to have a mindset about being better, so instead of beating myself up and have thoughts like, oh i should have sad or done this.. i started to have a mindset of I am learning and i am aquiring skills. I started to not be afraid of social situation but I was leaning into it more and more in the belief that I will become better! And every little thing that maybe to you might seem like anormal thng was a huge win…
Two years later i did not have so much social anxiety because i exposed myself to many different social sitatuions with a changed mindset and started to build my social antennas. And I was also leaning into talking to girls, I had nothing to lose!
When I am 16 years old i start high school and suddenly meet a lot of new people from being in class of 4 people to being in school with over 200 people my at my age. I ended up meeting my first girlfriend and that was a 4 year relationship. Many things happened in that love story and I am grateful for our time together, as I am also grateful it ended.
So when I am 20 years old and my relationship had ended I am excited to go out in the dating market, this is where i discover Girlschase.com and i also start to read books and watch videos of how to pick up girls.
When I am 21 years old I actually ended up moving in with two dating "pick up coaches" and we were going out three to four times a week to nightclubs.
My life evolved around working my dayjob, researching theories on how to become better with women and going out trying to flirt with some girls. And ofcourse building a social life ith people outside of game.
However I had a problem… I was not able to create any results! Even though I put so much effort into this, I had little to nohing to show for it. No girls seemed to be interested in me, I went on countless dates and every time I was not able to generate any attraction.
And then I discovered something that changed my dating life forever! It all starts at this strange day when I am going to the club with my pick up guys as usual... Some girls was looking at me and it freaked me out... But it was strange it was not like a bad look, they were kinda checking me out.
They were attracted to me! In the beginning, I had no idea what was happening, to be honest it was a surreal experience. Because most of my life I have never experienced a woman show approach invitations and being attracted to me in this way. Just think about that, for a 21 year old I did not know that girls even sent approach invitations to anyone. It was not part of my experience because they just did not do it towards me. The problem was that it did not happen every day, it happened maybe once a month or something to start with... So naturally I began to do some inquiry into what was going on.
I cant believe I am telling you this right now, because it seems so obvious to me now, but I was relentless in my pursuit to figure out why at some days girls were super into me and other days not. I was analyzing everything... I thought it must have been the green tea i was drinking that evening... So i did that again, but did not create any results... I thought it must have been the yoga I was doing, but no, not that either... I tried and failed with so many things, i even kept a list because it was too much to just have in my mind. And then eventually I discovered what naturally created this attraction... It was when I was connected to my Life Purpose!
I noticed that the days i lived in my purpose the response I got from girls in the street both at day and night and in the nightclub was so unbelivable different than what I ever had experienced before.
And keep in mind my looks will score just about avarege, if not just below avarege.
After discovering this I gave up going to the club 4 nights a week and dedicated myself 100% to my Life Purpose. It might sound weird, but this thing alone helped me create a natural magnetic attraction with beautiful girls!
When connected to my purpose I naturally became the charismatic guy, and for me coming from a place of social anxiety, this was a feeling of freedom and social fun i have never felt before! Following my purpose I also was more confident with women, I did not need their acceptance to feel valuable so fear of rejection is now a thing of the past. So even though I studied all the "game" and was living with pick-up coaches, nothing could compare to me actually being on purpose in life
As I grew in this knowing, and learning more about my purpose and moving in that direction, I started to have amazin results with girls. The most beautiful girls i thought was out of my league were suddenly responding warmly to whatever I did. And for the first time in my life I thought to myself "being single is amazing". and as the universe would have it happen, that same week that feeling came to me I meet this truly spetacular woman just crushing my newfound delight of being single as I was falling in love with her. And we ended up having a relationship over a year before universe would happen again to make me single haha. As she needed to go the the US and finish her psychology degree. This was truly a blessing, because if not I would probably be married to her right now at 25 years old. But in my purpose I can see that is not the right time to get marrried, I need to experience life as single a bit more. So the last two years I have been into doing cold approach pick-up again.
I started for the first time doing daygame jusst one year ago.
Omg I was so terrified of that, but what happened during my first week of dayame was beyond my belief!
The first approach I do is this beautiful english teacher, half german and half thai. One of the best combo in the world in my opinion. Went on a date and score.
I dedicate myself to 5 approaches a day.
The next day I meet another stunner, half german and half middle eastern. Oh my, I get activated just thinking about her. As you already know I scored with her too.
The only problem was that i just had sex 4 times the previous day with the other german girl, so I only had one go for her that night and she was begging for more. Now my newfound problem was not enough sex drive to keep this new lifestyle going. Yeah I know a serious problem, poor me, hahaha!
In my first week of doing daygame I did 25 approaches, had 5 dates and converted 4 of those. All girls were 8+ in my opinion.
As you already been reading... I was chronically insecure with women, even had social anxiety and tried to quit life. I dedicated my life for about 2 years doing game and had no results. Once I found my life purpose and more importantly dedicated myself to my life purpose by allowing myself to be authenthic to who i truly am, my results with women skyrocked.
I feel a deep sense of self-worth and self-love and I believe it is because every day I live my purpose. I am not seeking value and status through beautiful women because I have been able to find this in myself. Therefore approach anxiety is minimal. I truly believe that the girl I will approach is a lucky girl to get to know me. I truly believe that when you respect yourself, people start to respect you. And guess what, we all know that girls do not sleep with men whom they do not respect.
I feel wierd even needing to say this... I am not saying that learning "game" is useless, absolutely not. The things in game, the theory the mindset, the tactics and strategy is imensely valueble. But if you are a person like me that carries so many insecurities and emotional baggage and a deep sense of not respecting yourself (feeling not good enough) then all those things will be like driving a car with the break on. The more you resolve your emotional baggage, the more you will allow yourself to live your purpose and stop trying to live everybody elses purpose. And there is where the self-respect starts and that is what i believe is the secret sauce to attract the girls you like. And when you add everything you already know about game on top of that, you will become unstoppable!
Thats it from me this time around.
Any questions, feedback (criticism especially) is welcomed.
Wish you an inspiring day
S
This post is going to solve this for you. (and if not I would LOVE your feedback/critizism)
This will also be a contribution to Girlschase.com as I discovered this and started reading 10 years ago and are grateful for everything i have learned here, and the mindset that has been instilled within me.
So lets dive in!
I am 14 years old and sitting in my bed with my computer surfing the internet. I see this ad pop up about being confident socially and especially with women and I do not usually click on ads, but this time I click on it. And there is an opportunity to download an e-book for free that teaches how to be good socially and with women. I struggle with social anxiety, and being 14 years old, my hormones are exploding and the only thing on my mind these days besides school is how to get a girlfriend!
So I opt-in for the e-book. Keep in mind, I also have dyslexia which means basically that i struggle with reading and writing, picture yourself rolling down a small hill and while being super dizy trying to read something, that is how it is to have dyslexia. And I have concentration problems called ADD, it's like ADHD without the H=hyperactiveness. Also, Norwegian is my first language and english is my second.
So I get my english-norwegian translation book out from the book shelf and start to read the e-book, translating most of the words.
In the introduction I read something that changed my life forever.
"You might think that something is wrong with you because you are not as good socially as the friends around you, but know this, being social is a skill. It is a skill, just like riding a bike, swimming or doing mathematics."
And as I am reading this sentence, I start to have tears rolling down my face as I am thinking "Well I have learned how to swim, I have learned how to ride a bike… maybe just maybe I can learn how to be good socially as well!". I can see a new version of myself, I can see myself being charismatic and confident socially. It is such a powerful vision that the tears just keep coming. For so many years I believed that there was something wrong with me, I literally believed that earth was not a place for me. Just three years earlier I actually tried to commit suicide.
Growing up through school we were 4 people in my class, 3 girls and me. The girls were doing well in school, but me with my dyslexia and concentration problems were doing terribly, so I did not have any confidence in academics. Also because we were so few people in our class we were having gym with the people that was older than me. Naturally I was comparing myself to them and also not being especially gifted as an athlete with my terrible hand-eye coordination and mediocre stamina. It was safe to say that I did not have any confidence in that area too. And socially as you already know, I was a mess… It was just like some people would have normal social antennas and being able to navigate the social world to a more or less extent, I was unable to do this. Times where you were suppose to laugh I did not understand and looked like a question mark when all the people were laughing… other times when you were not supposed to laugh I laughed. I could rarely defend myself verbally, which the girls in my class found hilarious and often took advantage off… When I was tired of the bullying, because I could not stand up for myself verbally, I regressed to a more primitive way of communicating which was aggression. Then of course the teachers would come in and blame me, criticise and yell at me. This led me to become the problem child for the teachers and they would often just blame me for just about anything that happened even though I had nothing to do with it.
It is safe to say that growing up, I was chronically unconfident. To the degree that I felt alienated from people and this world. This was the reason behind my attempt to quit life at 11 years old. So this is where I am coming from, so wherever you are in your life and whatever challenges you have on your plate. I was at a place where I almost took my own life and I was able to turn things around. And so can you, with the secrets I am going to share with you.
I want to thank the person who wrote that e/book i stumbled over whn i was 14 years old. I do not know who this person is, the ebook is long gone and i do not remember the title of the ebook. I only remember that he talked about 7 types of women and when you understand what type they are you make your game plan accordingly. To be honest I did not get so much out of that content, but the introduction was what changed my perception. Suddenly after any social situation, in stead of being bitter i started to have a mindset about being better, so instead of beating myself up and have thoughts like, oh i should have sad or done this.. i started to have a mindset of I am learning and i am aquiring skills. I started to not be afraid of social situation but I was leaning into it more and more in the belief that I will become better! And every little thing that maybe to you might seem like anormal thng was a huge win…
Two years later i did not have so much social anxiety because i exposed myself to many different social sitatuions with a changed mindset and started to build my social antennas. And I was also leaning into talking to girls, I had nothing to lose!
When I am 16 years old i start high school and suddenly meet a lot of new people from being in class of 4 people to being in school with over 200 people my at my age. I ended up meeting my first girlfriend and that was a 4 year relationship. Many things happened in that love story and I am grateful for our time together, as I am also grateful it ended.
So when I am 20 years old and my relationship had ended I am excited to go out in the dating market, this is where i discover Girlschase.com and i also start to read books and watch videos of how to pick up girls.
When I am 21 years old I actually ended up moving in with two dating "pick up coaches" and we were going out three to four times a week to nightclubs.
My life evolved around working my dayjob, researching theories on how to become better with women and going out trying to flirt with some girls. And ofcourse building a social life ith people outside of game.
However I had a problem… I was not able to create any results! Even though I put so much effort into this, I had little to nohing to show for it. No girls seemed to be interested in me, I went on countless dates and every time I was not able to generate any attraction.
And then I discovered something that changed my dating life forever! It all starts at this strange day when I am going to the club with my pick up guys as usual... Some girls was looking at me and it freaked me out... But it was strange it was not like a bad look, they were kinda checking me out.
They were attracted to me! In the beginning, I had no idea what was happening, to be honest it was a surreal experience. Because most of my life I have never experienced a woman show approach invitations and being attracted to me in this way. Just think about that, for a 21 year old I did not know that girls even sent approach invitations to anyone. It was not part of my experience because they just did not do it towards me. The problem was that it did not happen every day, it happened maybe once a month or something to start with... So naturally I began to do some inquiry into what was going on.
I cant believe I am telling you this right now, because it seems so obvious to me now, but I was relentless in my pursuit to figure out why at some days girls were super into me and other days not. I was analyzing everything... I thought it must have been the green tea i was drinking that evening... So i did that again, but did not create any results... I thought it must have been the yoga I was doing, but no, not that either... I tried and failed with so many things, i even kept a list because it was too much to just have in my mind. And then eventually I discovered what naturally created this attraction... It was when I was connected to my Life Purpose!
I noticed that the days i lived in my purpose the response I got from girls in the street both at day and night and in the nightclub was so unbelivable different than what I ever had experienced before.
And keep in mind my looks will score just about avarege, if not just below avarege.
After discovering this I gave up going to the club 4 nights a week and dedicated myself 100% to my Life Purpose. It might sound weird, but this thing alone helped me create a natural magnetic attraction with beautiful girls!
When connected to my purpose I naturally became the charismatic guy, and for me coming from a place of social anxiety, this was a feeling of freedom and social fun i have never felt before! Following my purpose I also was more confident with women, I did not need their acceptance to feel valuable so fear of rejection is now a thing of the past. So even though I studied all the "game" and was living with pick-up coaches, nothing could compare to me actually being on purpose in life
As I grew in this knowing, and learning more about my purpose and moving in that direction, I started to have amazin results with girls. The most beautiful girls i thought was out of my league were suddenly responding warmly to whatever I did. And for the first time in my life I thought to myself "being single is amazing". and as the universe would have it happen, that same week that feeling came to me I meet this truly spetacular woman just crushing my newfound delight of being single as I was falling in love with her. And we ended up having a relationship over a year before universe would happen again to make me single haha. As she needed to go the the US and finish her psychology degree. This was truly a blessing, because if not I would probably be married to her right now at 25 years old. But in my purpose I can see that is not the right time to get marrried, I need to experience life as single a bit more. So the last two years I have been into doing cold approach pick-up again.
I started for the first time doing daygame jusst one year ago.
Omg I was so terrified of that, but what happened during my first week of dayame was beyond my belief!
The first approach I do is this beautiful english teacher, half german and half thai. One of the best combo in the world in my opinion. Went on a date and score.
I dedicate myself to 5 approaches a day.
The next day I meet another stunner, half german and half middle eastern. Oh my, I get activated just thinking about her. As you already know I scored with her too.
The only problem was that i just had sex 4 times the previous day with the other german girl, so I only had one go for her that night and she was begging for more. Now my newfound problem was not enough sex drive to keep this new lifestyle going. Yeah I know a serious problem, poor me, hahaha!
In my first week of doing daygame I did 25 approaches, had 5 dates and converted 4 of those. All girls were 8+ in my opinion.
As you already been reading... I was chronically insecure with women, even had social anxiety and tried to quit life. I dedicated my life for about 2 years doing game and had no results. Once I found my life purpose and more importantly dedicated myself to my life purpose by allowing myself to be authenthic to who i truly am, my results with women skyrocked.
I feel a deep sense of self-worth and self-love and I believe it is because every day I live my purpose. I am not seeking value and status through beautiful women because I have been able to find this in myself. Therefore approach anxiety is minimal. I truly believe that the girl I will approach is a lucky girl to get to know me. I truly believe that when you respect yourself, people start to respect you. And guess what, we all know that girls do not sleep with men whom they do not respect.
I feel wierd even needing to say this... I am not saying that learning "game" is useless, absolutely not. The things in game, the theory the mindset, the tactics and strategy is imensely valueble. But if you are a person like me that carries so many insecurities and emotional baggage and a deep sense of not respecting yourself (feeling not good enough) then all those things will be like driving a car with the break on. The more you resolve your emotional baggage, the more you will allow yourself to live your purpose and stop trying to live everybody elses purpose. And there is where the self-respect starts and that is what i believe is the secret sauce to attract the girls you like. And when you add everything you already know about game on top of that, you will become unstoppable!
Thats it from me this time around.
Any questions, feedback (criticism especially) is welcomed.
Wish you an inspiring day
S
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