"How tall are you?" I'm(Online)

[Rakkum]

What's the best way to respond to this regardless whether you are short, tall or average ?

I personally am about the same height as the average woman where I am at or a bit shorter (can't remember the stats). Thus, a large percentage of women I interact and sleep with are taller than me. No Biggie when cold approaching but when online - how to hit this curve ball ?

My style is to do a lot CF, when the chick says something silly or uncalibrated I will be busting her chops hard. When asked this directly, which isn't the most suave move honestly, it feels like a double bind. If I comply then I'm dancing to her tune - implicitly qualifying myself. If I sent her request in an uncalibrated manner then I risk of being evasive in the insecure-not-so-good-way..


Been upfront a few occasions and lost a few pretty solid leads.

Suggestions?

Peace,
Rakkum

 

[YS.]

Hey Rakkum,

One disclaimer; my online/text game isn't amazing. I hope you get more qualified answers with super experienced online game guys. But I can give you my 2 cents as nobody has answered you so far, because I know what this is. It's a qualifier.

The girl is asking you to qualify yourself to her to prove you are worthy of her standards. The moment you did it, you've lost regardless of your answer.

Honestly the best way to go about this IMO is to not qualify yourself or even disqualify yourself.

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Some untested (for online) brainstorming:
Try testing something like "I'm 4'6 but my sister says I look 4'7." "I'm 5'4 on a good day." "Wow, let's not get physical this quickly. I don't even know you yet." "I'm way too tall for you girl. But I have a small dick so it evens out." (Be a cool HV dude, or these don't work.) -> Then ask a qualifier. "How often do you go to the gym?" Let her qualify herself a little. Tease/Reward when appropriate.

Just finesse it and frame it in a cool way or just straight up willingly disqualify yourself from the question. Even if you fit her criteria you'll lose value by trying to fit in it.

You can also try answering it for real but also DQ'ing yourself OR teasing her/punishing her. "I'm 5'7 but my mother swears I'm 5'8." (You're answering for real but clearly not giving a fuck/qualifying to her.) Then just ask qualifier that makes her feel inferior or qualify herself to you. Break rapport before if necessary. "If we're done being shallow, what cool things do you do for work?" You can also try the qualifier with commands or cold reads. "Tell me about the cool things you do at work." OR "You look like someone who has a very cool job."

Or you can answer for real (without any teases or DQs) but then throw her a qualifier so even out the investment ratio & buyer seller dynamic.

Again, don't take this as hard advice but a suggestion due to my lack of experience with online game. This is my IRL game, maybe it'll work for you or maybe it won't. Test and calibrate. The core principles are correct and universal though. Don't qualify yourself.

 

[Teevster]

I am shorter than the average guys where I live. rarely get these questions, and if I did, I will probably just say the truth.

Never have height been an issue for me. I never thought about height's effects on pick up until I read about men talking about it non-stop on forums.

 

[Skills]

If that particular girl is screening for height, then you are better off telling her the truth or adding 1 to the height for example if you are 6 saying you are 6 "1"... If you want to do cocky funny:

her: how tall are you?

me: i will answer if you tell me how big are your boobs?

then blame it on double standards or whatever... do not make it sound butt hurt, be playful and unapologetic....

 

[Rakkum]

Just finesse it and frame it in a cool way or just straight up willingly disqualify yourself from the question. Even if you fit her criteria you'll lose value by trying to fit in it.

Ys, I was thinking the same. Thanks a lot for the suggestions!

@Skills, you don't agree with this line or reasoning?

I don't get this question super often but when I do I've noticed it's there is a subcategory of chicks who almost throw themselves on me. Straight out complimenting, flirting etc. So I'm wondering what's happening here. If she is legit screening or is she making me jump through some hoops so she could feel good about herself and justify her choice?

@Teevster I see what you mean. It's an excuse for a lot of guys to moan about and base their disbelief on the effectiveness of game on haha! Didn't write post the question with this intention.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I wouldn’t lie too much about height

Add 2 inches the most.

If they don’t like it, on to the next one.

 

[Skills]

I wouldn’t lie too much about height

Add 2 inches the most.

If they don’t like it, on to the next one.

exactly i would 1 inch the most, but also i would show up to the date with boots or elavator shoes...

 

[Velasco]

misinterpret it as her asking you, how tall is your penis. done.

 

[Rakkum]

misinterpret it as her asking you, how tall is your penis. done.

Thanks, this helped me get over an impasse I had with this one chick when she would stop complying and instead throw the height question at me.

Went like this:

I misinterpret her question
She objects
I get her to tell me her height
I disqualify her as not "tall enough for my kink" and reveal my height ,
She being jokingly sad about being "not tall enough for me" (she's 3 inches taller)
I say jokingly that we can still be friends, thoughts
I suggest ice-cream in the park
She's "aww"
We agree on a time and I get her number

 

[trashKENNUT]

Does she insist on the question? Persistent?

I avoid answering questions, online. It's also a way to test how enthuse she is.

Think of it like internet marketing seminar. Lolx

 

[Skills]

Thanks, this helped me get over an impasse I had with this one chick when she would stop complying and instead throw the height question at me.

Went like this:

yeah but this is a hell marry, if the girl is objecting at your height online, then she is obviously screening hard for height, and you may be just wasting your time... Cause is not really a shit test is actually something she is screening for...

for example the cases i had this asked for me online, were girls that were actually tall, a noweagan hair dresser (worst date of my life) she was 5'10 + heals then you have a problem...

 

[Rakkum]

yeah but this is a hell marry, if the girl is objecting at your height online, then she is obviously screening hard for height, and you may be just wasting your time... Cause is not really a shit test is actually something she is screening for...

Thanks for weighing in, Skills! She wasn't actually objecting, just threw the question at me. So I met up with her yesterday, she was out for sex, it was obvious so I brought her home quick.

Here's a good answer to the same question by Ross

ypically with these situations you don't want to actually answer their question. She's setting up a screen for you, and it's best to avoid directly answering and either qualifying/disqualifying yourself. But since this is Tinder, and there's already a huge element of mystery, you need to answer in a way that gets her connected and invested in you.

EDIT: Quoted from this thread

 

[Mrbolton]

Should I list my height on the apps?

 

[Rakkum]

Should I list my height on the apps?

I personally don't. Never done so I don't personal experience to compare the effect. As to building your profile, have you tried running your photos through Photofeeler?