How to ask out the cashier???

[heidegger123]

I've made flirty eye contact with this girl at the checkout line a few times and she's seen me with another girl before, but I just have no idea how to talk to her in a way that would lead to us exchanging contact info or even suggesting we meet for drinks. One problem is that every time I see her, there's people in line behind me, so I feel really awkward basically asking her out in front of all these people. Is this a real barrier or not? Should I approach it as if no one was around, and what the heck should I even say? Prefacing it with something like "So are you working [X] day?" just seems like it would still come out of the blue.

 

[foggy]

This is something I've struggled with in the past.

One idea is to go when it's less busy. Don't buy groceries, just go up to her cash and talk to her. Have a quick chat with her and then say: "hey it was nice chatting lets hang out sometime? we could go for coffee and get to know each other better." If she says sure, then grab her number. The fact that she's working makes it no different than any other situation.

If it's not possible to talk to her in a less busy situation then you're gonna have to get over your fear of it being awkward with other people around. It's not actually awkward...you're just perceiving it to be! These people will think you got balls of steel and admire you for it, even if you get rejected. You could also just slip her a piece of paper with your # on it.

 

[Yhaceed]

Hey

Just recently I was kinda doing the same thing. I made eye contact with the girl bagging the groceries and I've seen her a few times. Then for some reason the last time I saw her she actually wrote her number down without my asking and said text me whenever. I hadn't said anything to suggest I'd be interested or seriously eye fucked her (unless my eye contact is more intense than I think it is) but she seems interested in me anyway. The last time I saw her I had my hair cut and had been working out and I think I was dressed well (although not because I was going to see her). All of that and other factors may have helped. If I wasn't already involved with someone I'd take this further probably. Anyway the point is for the same reasons I just listed or whatever else it is she likes you and she will write her number down for you at the least. It's more discreet than her puting her contact info in your phone. All you need to do is ask for it and tell her why you want it (e.g. to get coffee or something). And you might only inconvenience the people behind you in line for 10 seconds. It's not that bad.

~Yhaceed

 

[Fuck This]

I've been on both sides of this. I've had a woman tap my wedding ring at the counter and say "If you didn't have this, I'd ask you out right now."

But when you go through the line, introduce yourself "Hi Helen, I'm Joe."

Then make a statement, like you were ordering a special order or something. : "I'd like to get to know you better. Should I come back by later, or get your number? "

If she shuts you down it is going to be one of three things: "I don't date customers" , "I have a boyfriend/husband", or " Thank you, but I'm not interested"

Otherwise she will choose one of your options. Especially if she is embarrassed and wants to get the line moving.

If you get shut down, don't be embarrassed. I guarantee you are not the first one, but you are probably the boldest, and most direct. If anything you will swagger from the testicular growth that occurs when those words come out of your mouth as easily as if you were asking to add a pack of smokes to the tab.