Hi Davinci!
I'm a rookie as well and I've had that same question. I don't have the answer, but this is my experience and thoughts.
Understanding that certain periods of my life are going to have more or less women but keeping women, in any capacity, around me is key.
I look for compliance and my ability to move her ( I'm not great at texting so my phone numbers converting to dates are low even among social circle.) But if those aren't working out I'll find moments to interact with women by cold approaching/ take approach invitations, hitting up female friends, even conversing with female family members. Just keeping female energy around so that when I can open some time for a lady or see one that even with my little time I'd like to bring into my world I'm not completely stumbling. ( I can see instant dates and pulls becoming a mainstay in my game once I develop the skillset because it seems like it'll work well with my schedule as opposed to traditional dates. Less flakey too.)
I find that when I'm walking around, I'm distracted by the skirts, the long legs, the shiny skins, and I can't help but think about women all the time. But at the same time, if I'm prioritizing her and not focused on something other than her, she also gets turned off. She wants a guy that has his attention elsewhere, and she longs to chase the man who's attention is elsewhere.
I thought the same way until I went too far and lost a interested girl and a girl who was previously uninterested but I turned around somehow. You see, if completely focusing your attention away from women got you pussy monks would be swimming in it. They are not ( usually). So there's something deeper to this than just not giving them attention and this subject requires calibration to the woman and scenario she is placed in. Autorejection can be a bitch. ( Hopefully you are approaching some of those beautiful ladies you described brother. It's good for you.)
But when you're learning game, you're constantly thinking about women. How to seduce her, why did she do what she did, or how should I have done X, etc. Did anyone deal with these conflicting concepts? And how did you deal with them?
So I believe I got this from Hector most clearly about the point that women want to be apart of something. Imagine your purpose as a painting with beauty, clarity, and warmth, and think of women as something that is apart of the picture ( hopefully adding to it). There's also levels to your purpose.
You have your large, medium, and small purposes. Large could be laying down a legacy, changing your surroundings and farther, taking possession of your mind, gaining enlightenment etc. Medium can be getting a house, creating wealth, becoming the president etc. Small could be hanging out with friends, chilling alone, eating this burger ladididida. We have different levels of purpose depending on our stage.
Your purpose doesn't have to be " Save the world." 24/7 to get pussy. It can be as small as getting a cup of water and enjoying the outside air. That'll be enough to open a girl and get laid.
How do you stay busy working on your mission while focusing your attention on learning game which makes you focus on women?
I think time management and realistic expectations is where the answer lies. I tend to overthink things though. So I'll end this here before I enter the clouds and lose myself in all the possibilities.
( Uriel had great points! It's ok to have some focus dedicated to women, just not your purpose or mission.)
Ultimately this concept isn't really about women though. It'll help you with women by giving you more perspective, pushing you to focus on whatever self improvement is to you ( which women will love), and generally give you peace of mind and better relationships with people. Is how I see it. I frame working on my game and improving with women as apart of my self improvement journey. So I do not consider working on game a contradiction but a necessity. Which might not be a satisfactory 'answer' and or conclusion but it works and doesn't make life any more complicated than it already is.
Good luck Davinci! Hopefully you find what works for you and how to move through the contradictions, misunderstandings, and paradoxes in this life. We're just starting and a lot information is coming our way. Just gotta keep going with the mistakes and come up or find things that work for you so you can progress.
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