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Haha Tony's message is awesome. Never thought of it.
Personally (for nervous girls only, if she's a natural chatter box then this won't work at all) I always try to ease her tension a little bit and build comfort (since she already feels sky-high tension). You can do this by calling it out:
It seems like you're kinda nervous and excited, which is awesome! But you don't have to be so nervous, I already think you're kinda rad because you talked about how you like animals and you're a Harry Potter nerd (or whatever she talked about, as long as it's something that you connect on).
And afterwards just moving on without giving her time to respond so she can process it without feeling like she's being put in the spotlight. "But anyways, what do you think of that blank over there?" or even "But anyways, I remember you saying something about race cars but you didn't really finish your thought."
For the natural chatter boxes (who aren't nervous, but just talkative in general) the only thing that I've found to work at all for me is to project a calmer energy and take control over the conversation. But to be honest, the natural chatty Kathy's I don't really connect to all that well and usually end up avoiding. Though I'll keep Tony's response in my back pocket, think it could work.
Personally (for nervous girls only, if she's a natural chatter box then this won't work at all) I always try to ease her tension a little bit and build comfort (since she already feels sky-high tension). You can do this by calling it out:
It seems like you're kinda nervous and excited, which is awesome! But you don't have to be so nervous, I already think you're kinda rad because you talked about how you like animals and you're a Harry Potter nerd (or whatever she talked about, as long as it's something that you connect on).
And afterwards just moving on without giving her time to respond so she can process it without feeling like she's being put in the spotlight. "But anyways, what do you think of that blank over there?" or even "But anyways, I remember you saying something about race cars but you didn't really finish your thought."
For the natural chatter boxes (who aren't nervous, but just talkative in general) the only thing that I've found to work at all for me is to project a calmer energy and take control over the conversation. But to be honest, the natural chatty Kathy's I don't really connect to all that well and usually end up avoiding. Though I'll keep Tony's response in my back pocket, think it could work.
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try sexual listning - as she blabbers imagine kissing/being naked together and see how she responds. Keep the pause if she ever makes it happen. Its even stronger if you let her turn you on at the spot aka tune into how she does that her body ways of inviting, being female etc. Important is to HOLD it, aka your face steady not moving, and not give her any facial plays or communications, if so only slooooow moves.
Some girls are so covered in their chatter (it can often be fuzz to avoid connecting with people) that is tough. With those u can slowly move closer. Body presence is stronger than words and prox is the mother of escalation.
Also speaking calmly yourself WILL impact her. think late night dj voice.
Some girls are so covered in their chatter (it can often be fuzz to avoid connecting with people) that is tough. With those u can slowly move closer. Body presence is stronger than words and prox is the mother of escalation.
Also speaking calmly yourself WILL impact her. think late night dj voice.
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Btw if its due to nervousness i make her state change slowly. this mostly involves boosting her confidence and also making her feel unjudged if thats the trigger - that she is uncertain with my liking of her. Not all the qualifying bs, but sorta asking into things calibrated fashion driving good subjects for that + elicitation of her world around that. and then labeling good behaviors she does - for her herself to realise these positive traits. Subtle, soft, acknowledging gentle -warm type influence. Polite vampire model.
this is advanced level+ so dont worry if it doesnt make sense or come easy
this is advanced level+ so dont worry if it doesnt make sense or come easy
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Oooh! I like your "polite vampire model" way of explaining a state (I can think of quite a few places that state would be perfect for!). I think I'll add that one to my collection lol. Thanks!