How to capitalize when girls "disqualify" themselves about being silly and cute?

[DArtagnan]

Hi everyone! This is my first question posted on the forum.

How do you capitalize when girls "disqualify" themselves about being silly and cute?

Examples: a girl tells you she is always losing objects around her, or that she and her friends are really silly and just hang around saying bad words, or that she is messy, or that she is always breaking objects around her.

I feel with my gut instinct that this is a strong attraction sign, that the girl is somehow "disqualifying" herself, making her more attainable, more vulnerable. It's a submissive move. However, I never manage to capitalize on this. These opportunities always pass by me, and I try but cannot think of anything to take it further.

An idea I have is to tease her hard about it, although this seems a weak tease for me, since she did the work and I'm just "surfing on it". Other idea: use it as callback humor, but this is not so easy to bring again and again, and it also seems like a "one-moment" only thing, that gets lost if not used. Or maybe it's just a sign that we can move forwards things with the girl, without explicitly using what she said?

I would appreciate your comments! Actually, I feel this could even by an article, since I feel this happens so frequently and seems like a good chance. Would it be possible? Thanks for any feedback!

 

[Jan]

I may be wrong but it seems to me that she is signalling that she doesn't want to take responsibility. In your context, the responsibility for sex.

So you can capitalize by not asking her to make desisions, leading strongly and making things seemed liked they kind of happened by incident rather than from a plan.

Alcohol will also help I guess.

 

[Chase]

@DArtagnan,

Welcome, man!

How do you capitalize when girls "disqualify" themselves about being silly and cute?

Examples: a girl tells you she is always losing objects around her, or that she and her friends are really silly and just hang around saying bad words, or that she is messy, or that she is always breaking objects around her.

I feel with my gut instinct that this is a strong attraction sign, that the girl is somehow "disqualifying" herself, making her more attainable, more vulnerable. It's a submissive move. However, I never manage to capitalize on this. These opportunities always pass by me, and I try but cannot think of anything to take it further.

An idea I have is to tease her hard about it, although this seems a weak tease for me, since she did the work and I'm just "surfing on it". Other idea: use it as callback humor, but this is not so easy to bring again and again, and it also seems like a "one-moment" only thing, that gets lost if not used. Or maybe it's just a sign that we can move forwards things with the girl, without explicitly using what she said?

You need to tease her on it, yeah.

Should be a light tease. e.g.:

HER: I'm always losing things!
YOU: I'm going to get you some string so you can start tying stuff to your wrist.

HER: My friends and I just hang around saying bad words.
YOU: You'd better hope I don't tell the principal.

HER: I'm so messy.
YOU: Well I guess after we get married we'll have to get a maid.

HER: I'm always breaking things around me.
YOU: Note to self: do not let [her name] hold your valuables.

She's opening herself up for a light jab. Give her one, and make it playful!

Chase

 

[DArtagnan]

Thanks, Chase!

Oh of course, that makes totally sense! These ideas are great, I'm sure they will be useful for me. Teasing is one of my weakest points. I can never come up with one of these when the situation calls it.

And I see it should be just a light tease. Actually, thinking better about it, maybe the fact that I'm getting these a lot is a sign that I'm too nice, and girls need to "help me" to tease them. It's a mix of a good sign and a warning. But this is another discussion, I guess.