How to close once back at your place?

[rfjt]

I went out last weekend (was a cool cover band at a local bar and my buddy was going to get the chance to sing) was not plan on picking up a chick at all (no condoms on hand, my first mistake). Out of nowhere I decided to talk of this girl while walking past her. Kept talking to her until the bar closed and eventually we went back to my place. At this point I was just kind of going with whatever happened, I wasn't actively trying to close. No exciting parts to the story it just kind of died out. The only girls I've been with have been like really obvious about whats about to happen next, so making a move kind of happened naturally. However this girl was more reserved I'd say but she did go home with me so that should have been clue enough for me, fucked that up. Anyway back to the original question, what are some good closing techniques once you get back to your place? Should you event wait until then to do anything? I've heard the argument go both ways.

- rfjt

 

[Ambiance]

1. Be cool on the transition to your place. Be the same guy you were the entire night. Keep her comfortable enough.
2. I like to escalate touch a bit on transistions. Usually not too much, just enough to keep that physical intimacy going and keep her feeling comfortable and protected. Guidng her through a door with your hand on her back, arm around her shoulder immediately after teasing her or if she is cold/flirty, and playful pokes and jabs are some of the ways I do this. Important: don't kiss her until she is back at your place. This won't always be a hard rule but its crucial when you are new to escalation.
3. Shoes off at the door. She loses an article of clothing, feels committed to stay due to buy in, feels more comfortable, feels more girly since she'll lose some height, and your place stays cleaner.
4. Fractionate. Do this by getting her a drink or something. Anything that pauses the seduction and lets her settle in. That in mind...
5. Kiss her within 10 minutes, MAX. NO EXCEPTIONS. Trust me.
6. Touch her all over her body. Keep your hands moving. Feel all across her back, her legs, and eventually her more private areas. Also, if she resists kissing you but is still sticking around start doing this anyway and get her really horny. You can kiss and lick her body.
7. If she resists, back off for a moment. ideally you back off when you pick up on her resistance before she can verbalize it or brush you off. If she just brushes you off, take a step back and touch her in other places and get her super horny. If she verbalizes no, completely back off and ask whats wrong. When handling her objections, focus more on conveying the right emotion than convincing her with a logically sound argument.
8. Get her clothes off and throw them across the room. Take them off at high points of passion. Girls feel like the decision has been made when you make a spectacle of throwing her shirt way across the room
9. Once you can tell she is ready, fuck her You can do this with a burst of passion that she gets swept up in and reciprocates, or by fingering her or eating her out

Don't worry about escalating too much outside of your place just yet (use your intuition of course: if a girl wants it then and now and your place is far away try to go to hers or find a secluded spot). Just get a process built for escalating at home and worry about playing around with it after you got it down pat.

Ambiance

 

[foggy]

Ambiance has some good points but I would like to add some.

I've struggled with closing before, specifically narrowing the physical distance between me and the girl. She might be sitting on the opposite side of the couch!

I recommend having an interesting picture book on hand. Tell her you are going to show her it. Sit with it in your lap and open it to the most interesting pictures. She will lean in and get closer to see the pictures. This is plausible deniability for her so that's a plus.

An easy way to escalate that breaks the touch barrier is to sit close enough so that your knees are touching each other. You're in good shape if she's comfortable with your knees and legs touching.

 

[rfjt]

Thanks for the responses and tips guys, appreciate it. Here's an article I stumbled upon to that has some pretty good information and similar tips:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/take- ... escalation