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In my high school, I hold 3 school history records. I also am aesthetically muscular so people dont even have to know this about me before they are affected by my presence. (Hopefully this doesnt come across as bragging, just stating how it is)
when people on the team learn about this through word of mouth or seeing it on the board, they stiffen up. After breaking those records its like I got so many more friends, and girls give me more looks and stuff. (maybe its just my imagination tbh, cuz the only ppl that really check the record board are the football players)
But, even though people are warmer towards me, I always sense a disconnect. I want to be someone they personally vibe and relate with. This bothers me because right now Im beginner/intermediate at the arousal side of game, and want to get my similarity/relatability side better, and thats very hard to do when its hard for dudes to relate to you.
Whenever I try to tone myself down tho, I feel like Im short-changing myself. If I say something like “oh dont worry, you could probably do it easily if you fixed your technique” sometimes they actually believe me and dont realize im just trying to be humble, and it hurts how big my accomplishments look which I dont like due to personal pride (sue me).
So, question is:
How do I come across as humble, relateable, and down to earth without short changing myself and still radiating value?
Edit: Removed excessive detail because it was getting taken the wrong way
when people on the team learn about this through word of mouth or seeing it on the board, they stiffen up. After breaking those records its like I got so many more friends, and girls give me more looks and stuff. (maybe its just my imagination tbh, cuz the only ppl that really check the record board are the football players)
But, even though people are warmer towards me, I always sense a disconnect. I want to be someone they personally vibe and relate with. This bothers me because right now Im beginner/intermediate at the arousal side of game, and want to get my similarity/relatability side better, and thats very hard to do when its hard for dudes to relate to you.
Whenever I try to tone myself down tho, I feel like Im short-changing myself. If I say something like “oh dont worry, you could probably do it easily if you fixed your technique” sometimes they actually believe me and dont realize im just trying to be humble, and it hurts how big my accomplishments look which I dont like due to personal pride (sue me).
So, question is:
How do I come across as humble, relateable, and down to earth without short changing myself and still radiating value?
Edit: Removed excessive detail because it was getting taken the wrong way
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