How to come off humble and relateable when you have extreme accomplishments?

[Kaida]

In my high school, I hold 3 school history records. I also am aesthetically muscular so people dont even have to know this about me before they are affected by my presence. (Hopefully this doesnt come across as bragging, just stating how it is)

when people on the team learn about this through word of mouth or seeing it on the board, they stiffen up. After breaking those records its like I got so many more friends, and girls give me more looks and stuff. (maybe its just my imagination tbh, cuz the only ppl that really check the record board are the football players)

But, even though people are warmer towards me, I always sense a disconnect. I want to be someone they personally vibe and relate with. This bothers me because right now Im beginner/intermediate at the arousal side of game, and want to get my similarity/relatability side better, and thats very hard to do when its hard for dudes to relate to you.

Whenever I try to tone myself down tho, I feel like Im short-changing myself. If I say something like “oh dont worry, you could probably do it easily if you fixed your technique” sometimes they actually believe me and dont realize im just trying to be humble, and it hurts how big my accomplishments look which I dont like due to personal pride (sue me).

So, question is:

How do I come across as humble, relateable, and down to earth without short changing myself and still radiating value?

Edit: Removed excessive detail because it was getting taken the wrong way

 

[TomInHo]

It's simple.... don't talk about it

You're probably too focused on talking about yourself and sounding impressive rather than learning more about your conversation partner.

I'm pretty jacked and successful myself, and I notice it's easier to connect with people when I focus conversation on them, their passions and fun topics outside of myself

Try this...

When someone asks you something that you can brag about..... DON'T

Instead, keep your answers brief and concise while deflecting conversation back to them

For example

GIRL: "OMG, you are in fantastic shape. You must live in the gym and have girls all over you"
YOU: "Thank you, I try to keep myself healthy because it helps me stay upbeat. How about you? What passion are you currently working on that makes it easier to get out of bed each morning?"

Don't downplay yourself but don't go into lengthy story either

 

[Skills]

In my high school, I hold 3 school history records. I run a 4.44 40 meter dash, and have 33in vertical jump and can power clean 290 pounds as a junior. I also am aesthetically muscular so people dont even have to know this about me before they are affected by my presence. (Hopefully this doesnt come across as bragging, just stating how it is)

^ girls or nobody cares about any of this.... aka this are not accomplishment that anybody is impressed by.... And how do people know this unless you mention this...

I think you talk too much about yourself and you think people are impressed by any of that stuff....

In other words the problem is not any of this but you thinking and talking about any of this, people don't care, is that they don't care not that they are impressed the real disconnect aka between your ears...

 

[Kaida]

It's simple.... don't talk about it

You're probably too focused on talking about yourself and sounding impressive rather than learning more about your conversation partner.

I'm pretty jacked and successful myself, and I notice it's easier to connect with people when I focus conversation on them, their passions and fun topics outside of myself

Try this...

When someone asks you something that you can brag about..... DON'T

Instead, keep your answers brief and concise while deflecting conversation back to them

For example

GIRL: "OMG, you are in fantastic shape. You must live in the gym and have girls all over you"
YOU: "Thank you, I try to keep myself healthy because it helps me stay upbeat. How about you? What passion are you currently working on that makes it easier to get out of bed each morning?"

Don't downplay yourself but don't go into lengthy story either

Yeah, you’re right. I need to focus more on the connection rather than myself. I think the problem was I wasn’t sure what came off as bragging, so I would avoid even saying something like “I try to keep myself healthy”. I would just clam up and it’d get awkward.

 

[Kaida]

^ girls or nobody cares about any of this.... aka this are not accomplishment that anybody is impressed by....

I think you talk too much about yourself and you think people are impressed by any of that stuff....

In other words the problem is not any of this but you thinking and talking about any of this, people don't care, is that they don't care not that they are impressed the real disconnect aka between your ears...

You’re right. Out in the real world if I told anybody this stuff they likely wouldnt care. Though, you have to consider that this is a school and I’m mainly talking about my friends on the football team. This is a targeted environment I’m working in. I want to be more relateable to them. This also extends to my seduction journey as well, because I would like to know how to handle a situation like this with women if it so happened.

Most people are not impressed. However in a targeted environment where you get hierarchically placed on top of someone, people operating within that hierarchy definitely will care. If a NFL player comes and talks to a group of high school football players, they will care. If that same player shows up to a nursing home full of old grannies, he wont meet the same reaction. That’s just how it is.

I dont want to be placed on top, I want to be side by side with my brothers, and be relatable, but its not really “passive work” I can do by just shutting up about it, I have to actively work to appear “just like them” and “relateable” because I have an audience that sees the accomplishments as they happen.


- “And how do people know this unless you mention this...”

Its on the record board. Plus, when breaking the records you do it in front of a group of 100+ people

 

[Rakehell]

How do I come across as humble, relateable, and down to earth without short changing myself and still radiating value?

To put it simply, you have to speak from a level that anyone can relate to. Using your NFL example let’s imagine Tom Brady comes and host’s a seminar at your school.

He walks in—everyone’s in awe, you stare in amazement and maybe even jealousy. He begins his speech….He talks about his values in the sport, about how his passion to play supersedes his desire to win. How the genuine connection’s he’s built with everyone are more valuable to him than what he has accomplished.

If you want to be humble, and relatable then make your accomplishments pale in comparison to what drove you to achieve those things anyway. Understand the innate desires that we all share in common that drives us to do anything.

 

[Skills]

Yeah, you’re right. I need to focus more on the connection rather than myself. I think the problem was I wasn’t sure what came off as bragging, so I would avoid even saying something like “I try to keep myself healthy”. I would just clam up and it’d get awkward.

For example you can say I like to work out and keep in shape for health reasons but I am not just one of those obsessive, shirtless selfies attention whores gym rats I just do it for health and longevity and cause I play sports.... you just dhv, you are being humble etc.. just speak in a way you dhv without bragging and being boring but it has to have a goal within the structure of the seduction....we just don't talk for talking our goal with talking is moving the seduction forward....