How to create a tribe of like minded men in today's world

[Spyce D]

There is longing inside me to be a part of like minded men .

And I mean in real life , not just online cuz sometimes it's really risky to show your views on the internet cuz it can backfire on you .

I don't have much to add here but if anyone has even the slightest idea then it would be of great help .

 

[DoWhatWorks]

The way I've built a cool circle of guys is to be sociable and recruit people you vibe with along the way.

For example: worked as a bartender years ago. The head bartender invited me to play video games at his place, I went and that's how I met his friend who I'm still cool with to this very day (a very fun natural)... More so than the original guy who introduced me.

A guy I loosely knew from my hometown, DM'd me to go on a night out with him. I didn't really rate him back in the day but thought "why not" and fast forward he's probably the biggest single positive influence on my social life in my mid 20's (no exaggeration).

When you know different cool guys, introduce them to each other. Just make sure they'll get on (you have to kind of play match maker) and before you know it - there'll be a group that does stuff with or without you. I like it this way because it means I can jump in and out with no maintenance pressure.

You may find a higher % of cool guys in sports, gym, clubbing and be-friending the cool looking guys who're actually approaching girls. Also be open minded to the cool guy in your office as I've had some success there too.

Honestly wish it was easier but you'll be rewarded for taking lots of action and having a fun life (or at least fun energy) that someone wants to join.

You attract what you're.

Lastly: don't take it personally when the cool guys you invite are busy or unavailable. Be low pressure, talk common interests and let things grow naturally. I've had guys I spoke to twice invite me to their house party for new years eve, or guys I've been boderline call/texting pen pals with for months before we finally got dinner or went out together. Your lesssons from game will transfer across very well here.

 

[Zoro]

I always meet the best people by being on my mission and engaging in my passions. Through music, business, sports and game I've met genuine friends who collaborated on these things that we shared a vision for.

I think men need a common mission to rally together for. I don't think you're going to find a group of high quality men without giving them a reason to be part of it.

So whatever your passions are, get out there and engage in them, and meet the people who are also doing them. Those are the men of your tribe.

 

[ulrich]

Why do you need them to be like minded?

I mean, it’s cool to have friends you share the same values, don’t get me wrong… I just think my life got impressively better when I came to two key realizations:

1) I don’t need people to understand me. I am who I am and I understand me.

2) There’s value in being surrounded by people with different life experiences and outlooks. You can lear a lot and improve your life.

 

[ulrich]

And I mean in real life , not just online cuz sometimes it's really risky to show your views on the internet cuz it can backfire on you .

I mean, no offense… but this reads like “where can I find people with the same fringe belief system I have?”

 

[Spyce D]

I mean, no offense… but this reads like “where can I find people with the same fringe belief system I have?”

I won't lie .. In my teenage years .. I had lot of influence from fringe elements that were online.

But , they did more harm to me emotionally .

But , I would definitely like to be part of people who are hungry in life irl .

As most of my circle is very pathetic.

Even in my pua circle .

I have lived most of my life being an outsider but now there seems to be desire to be part of a group .

 

[topcat]

But , I would definitely like to be part of people who are hungry in life irl .

As most of my circle is very pathetic.

Ngl,

you are like the people you surround yourself with..

I highly doubt you are in any state to be accepted by a group of cool guys and it seems that you want to use such a group to boost your progress, without first doing the work to be worthy of their company.

Sure, separate yourself from your past friend group if they are in fact as pathetic as you say (why did you choose them as friends in the first place?). But then do the work to improve on your own.

When “cool” guys see value in you they will naturally invite you into their circles. Attempt to enter their groups before this though and you’ll find they see you more as a leech than an asset and will shun you just as you want to shun your past compadres..

 

[Spyce D]

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Ngl,

you are like the people you surround yourself with..

I highly doubt you are in any state to be accepted by a group of cool guys and it seems that you want to use such a group to boost your progress, without first doing the work to be worthy of their company.

Sure, separate yourself from your past friend group if they are in fact as pathetic as you say (why did you choose them as friends in the first place?). But then do the work to improve on your own.

When “cool” guys see value in you they will naturally invite you into their circles. Attempt to enter their groups before this though and you’ll find they see you more as a leech than an asset and will shun you just as you want to shun your past compadres..

I do understand your point .

Cuz I think that I might have some sort of respect in local pua scene due to me putting frs , and going out with wings on regular basis ( and actually approacing ) ...

So . I simply need to recreate it other parts of my life

 

[POB]

Some food for thought:
Every time I called an individual or group pathetic, time proved I was the pathetic one.
Nothing wrong with changing social groups...
But that doesn't mean there's no value in hanging with the people you already know.

 

[Spyce D]

Hmm ... Really great replies .

Got me wondering that my approach to this is not correct.

So , all I need to do is actually build myself up in order to be part of cool folks rather than trying to headbutt my way into those circles
Where I might be seen as low value and
PATHETIC .

That seems a bit fun way to live life .

Over and out.