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I know this is a website geared towards picking up girls but i need help in my all-guys social circle.
My friend is a ladder climber and I don’t know how to handle him. I read your article on passive aggression and though it was informative, it doesn’t really help with this case of blatant aggression.
In my social circle the main way we hang out is through playing video games online and I’m pretty much the most respected person in the group. And when we play, i’m usually one of the best at so he doesn’t challenge me.
But recently, we started playing “Valorant” and I’m still better than him overall but there are some matches where he does substantially better than I do.
Whenever he sees that he’s doing better than me, he starts ordering me around and giving unsolicited advice in the presence of our peers to clumsily paint himself as the “leader” or “teacher” in an attempt to climb.
And when I make a relatively small mistake, he goes ballistic. He starts yelling and calling me trash at the game in an obvious ladder climbing maneuver to disrespect the most respected to try and take my place. I’m not that bothered by it but whenever he says stuff like that the people around seem to agree. He only calls me trash when I’m actually doing bad, so i really don’t know how to comeback at that.
Me not being better than him at something for once has made me seem “beatable”
These encounters in turn have encouraged him to challenge me in other things, although I shut him down pretty easily elsewhere. He even sometimes brings up how “bad” I am in Valorant (still better than him tho) in irrelevant situations.
I need help because I simply do not know how to handle challenges like these where there is actually some truth to his harsh words.
My friend is a ladder climber and I don’t know how to handle him. I read your article on passive aggression and though it was informative, it doesn’t really help with this case of blatant aggression.
In my social circle the main way we hang out is through playing video games online and I’m pretty much the most respected person in the group. And when we play, i’m usually one of the best at so he doesn’t challenge me.
But recently, we started playing “Valorant” and I’m still better than him overall but there are some matches where he does substantially better than I do.
Whenever he sees that he’s doing better than me, he starts ordering me around and giving unsolicited advice in the presence of our peers to clumsily paint himself as the “leader” or “teacher” in an attempt to climb.
And when I make a relatively small mistake, he goes ballistic. He starts yelling and calling me trash at the game in an obvious ladder climbing maneuver to disrespect the most respected to try and take my place. I’m not that bothered by it but whenever he says stuff like that the people around seem to agree. He only calls me trash when I’m actually doing bad, so i really don’t know how to comeback at that.
Me not being better than him at something for once has made me seem “beatable”
These encounters in turn have encouraged him to challenge me in other things, although I shut him down pretty easily elsewhere. He even sometimes brings up how “bad” I am in Valorant (still better than him tho) in irrelevant situations.
I need help because I simply do not know how to handle challenges like these where there is actually some truth to his harsh words.
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