How to deal with a club rager

[Lushie]

I was out with two of my guys at a uptown college bar, it was crowded as fuck. We were chilling at this bar area and I noticed this group of mixed set with three girls and three guys.

I told my boys let's go closer to the DJ, so one of my guy went first and slip past one of the girl in the mixed set. As I was about to slip past too she just blocked my way and said "you can't go through" but with a smile. So I was like oh she's just teasing. So I smiled and exaggerated a "aw damn" reaction to play along. Then she said "you gotta go around" and I was like nah then I tried again this time using my arm to push her aside. but SUDDENLY she decided to shout at me saying "DONT TOUCH ME!!" and her lady friend started looking at us confused too. And I just stood there like WTF? Luckily enough some guy was behind looking like he was tryna get through her so I just shifted my focus towards him. She noticed me looking behind her so she turned her head and as soon as she did I just squeeze by some other person next to her. I could hear her saying "no you can't go, stop!" while I'm already gone LOL

How do you deal with people like this at the clubs/bar/etc? Is it better to just suck it up and listen to her demand of finding another way around so I can avoid any stupid nonsense?

 

[Chase]

@Lushie,

For situations like this it really comes down to how big a threat the individual is and how likely you think they are to really have a go at you.

Personally, I treat these kinds of "I've staked out territory on the floor in the middle of this venue and no one can pass through it unless I say so" displays differently depending on whether it's a woman, a man, or a BIG man:

• Woman: polite but firm smile, break eye contact away from her, looking ahead as I pass through, and tell her, "Excuse me, honey" as I push gently past her
  
  
• Man: polite but firm smile, solid/respectful eye contact, hands up in a "don't shoot" / defensive / preparatory gesture, and tell him, "Pardon me, brother. Sorry" while pushing gently past him, breaking eye contact to look past him once I have physically passed his body
  
  
• Big Man: if he's big enough that I wouldn't want to fight him, polite but firm smile, cold eye contact, very slight head nod, "Pardon me, then", and I will casually back off and route around him

There's subtext here, where you should be seeking to communicate you are polite but intimidating. Then either pushing through if you're confident you could take the other person if it came to that (I have never had someone I pushed past powerfully but respectfully like this try to fight me over it), or backing off if you're not.

It doesn't really matter if she's a woman... if she's going to do a power move like this, trying to stake territory in the middle of a zone people are transiting through, you need to treat her like a threat/obstacle, same as if it was a man doing it. Because she's a woman, she's not a physical threat. It's possible she could be crazy enough and fixated on you for some reason where she'd try to get her friends to beat you up or bouncers to kick you out, but... I've once or twice had some nutjob chick like this focus on me and tell her male companion(s) to fight me because I brushed past her or what have you, and the poor guys just look at her like "Uhhhh, well, I would usually do what you say, but do I want to risk getting into a fight with someone because you were being weird and telling people not to walk through the venue?" and don't do anything.

Is there a way to seduce women pulling a stunt like this?

I've tried it once or twice; didn't like the responses I got.

I suppose if you see her later you could try seducing her then, if she's chilled out some. Stopping when she's commanding you to stop and hasn't offered you anything to do so and you have the right-of-way isn't a smooth move from a "being seductive" standpoint though... so push through now, and chat her up later if you see her again and she's more chill.

Chase