How to deal with bad state

[rzzseducerfr]

I'm sorry i know i should not be state reliant but how do i get off it. It's a bad repeating loop which ive noticed, i think a fucking lot. And if i try to get out of my head it makes things worse and pushes me into my dead more. Ive tried all kinds of statepump and what not, but its unpredictable which occassion i hit state or not. Like i spend time before going out just trying to pump and hype myself up. Music and all. But when i step outside, there is no music. Just my anxious and negative thoughts hitting me. The drive to the venue really is an internal battle. Then i get there. As part of the start talking thing as soon as u get to the venue, i start talking to the first person. But if he/she reacts negatively, my state is fucked for the rest of the evening. I perform even worse with the next people because of the emotional baggage i gained from the blow-out and it leads to more negative reactions ultimately till i crash. 50/50 chance either i'm the life of the party or i'm in my head trapped and cannot pay attention to the moment. Please save me. I cannot live like this. I wish i never became conscious of my thoughts, cuz the less u think the better. Ignorance is bliss they say. But now i start thinking everytime i talk cuz i get into the gaming mode. I think oh what should i say to tease, to provoke a reaction etc. I just want to be free of my mind. My skills cannot be so unpredictable.

 

[Zoro]

Meditation.

I recommend it all the time for it's many benefits, but your situation is more relevant than most.

This is generalizing a complex thing, but your brain and nervous system have levels:

Human Level - our unique brain and nervous system structures (ability to think, make decisions, and exert control over ourselves)
Mammal Level - the structures we share with mammals (emotions, socializing)
Lizard Level - the structures we share with reptiles (basic instincts, bodily functions)

Meditation basically strengthens the unique human structures of our brains, and allows us to distance ourselves from feelings if we so choose. That means it's easier to carry out plans, and even create the feelings actually want to feel (going from stressed to calm).

Another thing to keep in mind, is avoiding excessive use of things like scrolling instagram/social media, playing video games, and watching porn. Those things can definitely impact your ability to stay calm, socialize effectively, and focus.

 

[rzzseducerfr]

How should i begin the practice of meditation? Do you follow a certain routine before going out?

Meditation.

I recommend it all the time for it's many benefits, but your situation is more relevant than most.

This is generalizing a complex thing, but your brain and nervous system have levels:

Human Level - our unique brain and nervous system structures (ability to think, make decisions, and exert control over ourselves)
Mammal Level - the structures we share with mammals (emotions, socializing)
Lizard Level - the structures we share with reptiles (basic instincts, bodily functions)

Meditation basically strengthens the unique human structures of our brains, and allows us to distance ourselves from feelings if we so choose. That means it's easier to carry out plans, and even create the feelings actually want to feel (going from stressed to calm).

Another thing to keep in mind, is avoiding excessive use of things like scrolling instagram/social media, playing video games, and watching porn. Those things can definitely impact your ability to stay calm, socialize effectively, and focus.

 

[Zoro]

How should i begin the practice of meditation? Do you follow a certain routine before going out?

sit cross legged and set a timer for 5-10 mins. Focus on your breathing, in a relaxed way, and any time your mind wanders bring it back to your breathing.

It’s as simple as that.

There are many variations though, which you can look into via YouTube or picking up a book on mediation, but what I just laid out for you works.

Another note: longer sessions can have more benefits, but consistency (doing it daily) is important. So in the beginning if you can only do a few mins at a time while you’re building that habit that is fine. Stick with it.