Casual/FWB How to deal with questions about my polyamorous lifestyle?

[The Byronic Man]

What do you recommend doing when a FB/FWB/whatever starts probing about your polyamory? I was just asked how many women I've had sex with since we've been hanging out, when was the last time I had sex with another woman, etc.

I want my relationships to be based on honesty, so I started to tell her about my other women (she knew from the beginning, 3 months ago, that I was polyamorous). But when things started to get really detailed, I told her I don't think I should tell her because I'm afraid I'll hurt her. Unfortunately, I think I may have told her too much, and now she is feeling insecure around me and just texted me about a guy she picked up at a bar. I don't mind her sleeping with other men, but this is reactionary behavior, which doesn't seem healthy to me. Any advice?

 

[trashKENNUT]

The B Man,

What do you recommend doing when a FB/FWB/whatever starts probing about your polyamory? I was just asked how many women I've had sex with since we've been hanging out, when was the last time I had sex with another woman, etc.

Just smile and deflect it. Women are champions at giving trap questions. From my experience, a vague and general answer and repeat that answer do the trick. If she persist, i guess it's time to let her go.

I usually tell women that i see other women a lot too, and if i get too specific, it's usually going to be over in a few weeks, probably a month or two later. So i just give her a general answer until she probe me many times, then i realize it's me not letting her go.

I want my relationships to be based on honesty, so I started to tell her about my other women (she knew from the beginning, 3 months ago, that I was polyamorous). But when things started to get really detailed, I told her I don't think I should tell her because I'm afraid I'll hurt her. Unfortunately, I think I may have told her too much, and now she is feeling insecure around me and just texted me about a guy she picked up at a bar. I don't mind her sleeping with other men, but this is reactionary behavior, which doesn't seem healthy to me. Any advice?

She's behaving reactionary. She can be jealous and also might look to you for approval. Just note to her that it's all good. that is if you do not want her as anything serious, which is what she is in the first place.

Hope this helps.

Zac